How to be funny? (7)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-02-08 22:46 ID:+VQW9kpG

There's this girl I like. But the problem is, my personality is a bit to dull irl, though I really get her to laugh and have fun when outside irl (chat etc). I've semi-confessed to her through my blog (since she reads it), but concluded that I need some time to be a guy that she'll really like.

She's really cute and we share the same interests, and she really likes guys with a sense of humor. But the problem is, I'm a bit to boring irl and lacking the spark of my online alter ego. I do have the courage to change, though I'm not sure where to start, especially the funny part.

tl;dr, how do you become interesting and funny irl? It seems different for me because you have no time to think of a witty reply everytime there's a joke.

2 Name: Daydreamer : 2009-02-08 23:20 ID:6eBdCbzJ

What makes the difference between your dull IRL self and your witty online self? Why can't you be like that in real life?
You need to find this factor and defeat it.

We can't answer this question for you. You'll need to do some introspection to find out.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-02-08 23:24 ID:pC8XBIp+

You are more funny, because you are more relaxed and have more control and time to think online. In order to be funny irl, you just need to be more relaxed, and practice, practice, practice. As you practice, things become easier, and you need to think less, it just comes naturally to you.

Besides, if people get used to think of you as a funny guy, you'll get them laughing with little effort, it's as if they were already chuckling just by your presence.

Practice!

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-02-08 23:31 ID:9Fjb7gqh

OP here. Thanks for the tips guys, will be going to school now. I'll try thinking about your replies!

5 Name: Daydreamer : 2009-02-08 23:34 ID:6eBdCbzJ

Ah, you mentioned that real-life conversation is more fast-paced. Sorry for having missed that the first time.
So, is that the main problem? Does it really take you more than a few seconds to come up with a witty reply? Surely that wouldn't work in a chat either.

As a side note: I'd advise against trying to "become someone she'd like" - moulding yourself to someone else's tastes rarely works well in the long run and rarely ends people up in a stable and happy relationship. However, since you already seem to be the kind of guy she likes on the internet, it's more like the focus shifting to one side of yourself.

6 Name: Daydreamer : 2009-02-08 23:43 ID:6eBdCbzJ

>>3
^ This, too. Practice will make it easier to be funny on the spot.
Maybe real time chatting would be a good intermediate step between blogging/forum posts/anything else where you can take all the time you want, and real life. If you've already achieved your full funniness potential in real time chatting, all the better.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-02-09 13:36 ID:PO1h/KJ0

OP here again.

Dang, today's a bad bad. She apparently has read the confession post and she kept on evading me today. But thanks for the advices and replies guys! I'll keep them in mind.

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