I met a girl in a seminar I needed to take for my job. Pretty, smart, sarcastic, good sense of humor, similar hobbies, etc. Although we never hit it off, I figured, what the hell, she's attractive and intelligent, and asked her out for coffee or whatever. Surprisingly, she very enthusiastically accepted. Mini-date went well (except finding out she goes to /b/ :-/), and we decided to hang out again in the future, but she wasn't cool with giving out her phone number so she gave me her myspace. Silly, as I can get twice as much personal info from her myspace. Anyway, I guess this is the problem part. Checking out her old photos it became dead obvious that she had gotten a hell of a lot of plastic surgery, mostly on her face. The silly thing is she was really cute before and more or less dropped a, what I'm guessing was, shit load of money to go from a B to a B+.

The thing is, knowing this, I've lost in interest almostly completely. She sent me a really nice message on myspace which I've been ignoring it for days and I really don't know what to do/how to get over it without feeling like an asshole.

If you lost interest, just explain her that you lost interest (something like "thanks for your nice letter, but it was nice hanging out with you, but please don't misunderstand, that I am not ready to start a relationship, etc"). Don't just leave her hanging like that, you would not appreciate if it was done to you...

Greetings shallow.

Your posting name says it all, how damn shallow of you. The plastic surgery this girl went through was probably to hide her insecurities and to better her chances at impressing men such as you and I.

With that being said however, it would be wrong to antagonize you, because many people can't help the inherent shallowness which is present in all of us. So what can you do about her nice message? Well if you're posting here for advice, would you be willing to paraphrase or quote her message so we can better help you form a reply? : >

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If she had gone from say, a 5/10 to a 7/10, I would understand it and probably not bother asking this board for advice, but she really didn't need the amount of surgery she got. She was hot beforehand. A friend of mine hypothesized maybe she had an accident or was assaulted or disfigured somehow along those lines and decided to get a little extra work done.

And here's her initial myspace message because you were rude to me:
hey fun the other night XD nice 2 meet a nongay int designer XD wknd dinner or drinks ttyl?
(I told her I hated emoticons and acronyms in emails during the seminar)

Well, that's quite a dilema you got there. Since it's based on your preferences and not really on actions or behavior from the other side, it's quite hard to help here.
It seems like you're taking the fact that she made a lot of unecessary changes to her body discusting, in some way, isn't it? Did you talk about it with her? (I don't mean asking her "Hey babe, why did you change your face into such censored when you were great before?")
But you should talk about it more in a way that show your wondering about why she look so different from her myspace photos. (Since she's the one who gave it to you, it make that addictive to her kind of feeling since she was to one who gave it to you and start the fire.)
As for another of my thought about this matter, is as followed.
Before seeing her self from before, did you like her like she is now? I mean, she is who she is now, and not who she was before, isn't she?
My opinion is that you simply don't know if you can trust her since she can change that much without you seeing it. That makes you unable to grab any feeling because of the insecurity it's providing.
Think about it a bit more. But don't let her in the mist and talk about it with her. Maybe you will find more about her and feel some positive emotions agains.
Good luck!

She might not have had plastic surgery. Typically, girls post hot pictures of themselves that really look nothing like them at all.

Hello again. Out of a fit of loneliness or whatever (it's been a while since I dated anyone), I ended up going out with her Friday. Did not go well to say the least. I couldn't help but be a slight bit awkward (only talking about our different lines of work and shit like that,) so things were a little rough to start off with and then during a lapse in conversation I made the mistake of asking why she gave me her myspace, leading to "oh, at first I thought your way of blowing me off since all the pictures look nothing like you now" (=me being stupid and awkward.)

I didn’t really get a straight answer (“Oh, those are just old photos with no makeup,” which was bullshit since I never seen her with makeup on period), but after I asked her she started getting overly flirtatious and surly, and she upped her alcohol intake by a lot, like around 2 screwdrivers, 2-3 mimosas, and everytime I ordered another beer she got one too. This was like in 45m-1h. She starts throwing up and we get thrown out of the pub, once we get out she doesn’t stop throwing up and I end up taking her to a hospital by cab. ER says she’s “Fine, just don’t let her binge anymore” so I end up taking her back to my apartment because she’s being incoherent and I don’t feel like saddling anyone else with her when I sorta feel like it’s my fault. At my apartment she says all she needs is some fresh air and walks out onto my balcony and vomits all over my plants :-/

After she finally stopped throwing up and passed out, I slept on my neighbor’s couch (I live in a 2br studios with a roommate who is thankfully in Au on holiday) and she must’ve snuck out in the morning because when I went over to check on her around 9 in the morning she was gone. I sent her a message asking if she was OK but haven’t heard back from her yet. I really don’t think I’ll be seeing her again, but I kinda feel guilty for leading her on :-/

well im a fat girl and i post the fattest ugliest pix i can because then ppl can be pleasantly surprised when they see me irl though i never pull hot doods on the internet :-/ xx from birmingham