[Dating] ITT we figure out how to escape the friendzone [Rejection] (10)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-03-06 04:51 ID:6e3aay4F

Come on, fellow Secret Admirers!

If you've successfully escaped the hell called the friendzone, tell us how!

If you need help escaping it, we will help you as best we can!

We must encourage each other here in /love/!

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-03-06 08:32 ID:nCz9YB2+

I know how to escape hellzone, err I mean friendzone. It is very simple.

Move on.

If you are in the friendzone, she likes you, but not in that way. And if she does not like that you in that way she will never like you in that way unless you change completely. And if you do change she can't see it because she will never notice it. I think you can escape the friendzone by backing off and then coming back later as a new person. But I don't know if that theory would ever work. And honestly it is not worth it. Changing for a girl is never worth it.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-03-06 15:23 ID:c3r4kKQ9

Unless you are a fat slob who lives on noodles alone and sleeps between crusty sheets if you know what I mean.

But yeah, friendzone is friendzone. The passion is there or it isn't.

Think of it this way: you see this girl in this street and you feel no spark. Your heart doesn't jump, you don't feel funny and you just consider her as some girl.

I'm not saying that you are just some guy, but you can't just make somebody like you in a special way. The flame is there since day one or not at all.

So yeah, PREPARE TO BE REJECTED. I know I have, but you have to keep your chin up, don't worry about it. Life is too short already to spend it on sulking around and thinking about her like some obsessed creepy nice guy (me and most of /love/)

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-03-06 15:56 ID:vUdX0Jyq

Okay, it's far from romantic but I think you should ask out girls as soon as you realize "you click" with them. Don't wait until you have a hopeless crush.

Reasons:
1) Girl only respect guys with guts/confidence. This is where we get the "derp derp girls like assholes" stereotype. And girls are better at reading body language, they will realize if you like them.
2) The longer you know each other the more chance there is of being friendzoned.
3) You don't have much of an emotional investment, you can bounce back and ask a different girl the next day.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-03-07 04:24 ID:sQ7yUqTN

Okay, what about girls that get friendzoned by guys? This happened to me earlier this week, and now I don't really know how I'm supposed to treat him.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-03-07 09:18 ID:c3r4kKQ9

>>5
Obviously that's it for you. If you want sex, you could spread your legs in front of him but come on, where's your self-respect? You can do better than that.

A relationship? Maybe. But if you are actually friendzoned (Guy: "Look, I think we should be just friends"), I doubt it would work out.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-03-08 02:28 ID:Ui3TCswo

>>6

Well, he did say that he "values our friendship" too much to have a relationship, but I don't know him as well as I would like to begin with- I mean, we don't hang out on the weekends and I don't even have his number, but we aren't on bad terms or anything. I would honestly call us acquaintances more than friends, though. So should I just work on being better friends with him first?

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-03-10 02:00 ID:y9ri319T

>>7
Guys will eventually think about you as a partner, even if just out of curiosity. We're wired like that. If you manage to spark interest later on(yes, it is doable with guys, even if it remains hard), a guy is able to "rethink" his position.

As far as I know, be it from hearsay or from experience, girls don't do that later in a social interaction. The window in which she is able to consider you a possible relationship partner is quite narrow, and if you miss it you can't really go back (there are exceptions, but they are rare, and most of them go terribly wrong).

9 Name: Shades : 2009-03-10 02:17 ID:kYnFfEBd

okay i said this just once and do it properly!

RESUME THE ATTACK! and change YOURSELF!
prove that you willingly change for her!

if your changed but still rejected, take the bright side and tell it to your self this line:
"i''ve changed my chance to go with other might increased even i got rejected in this one, ah experience..."

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-03-11 03:07 ID:DK8GTS9W

>>8

How would you recommend going about something like this? I don't want to scare him off.

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