there is hope, but it involves some effort and sweat on your side. You just need to reach out more for people you are interested in. If you shut yourself and hide on a corner, there's no chance someone will take an interest in you, considering there are plenty of other people around who don't make things so difficult for themselves.

Take more initiative. There are lots of advantages to that, you get more freedom in choosing your pick. And even if you get to weather rejections, you only really need one hit to win this game.