I am a 22 year old male. I have a college degree, a nice job, no debt, in good shape, a few close friends that I hardly see because of my job, and a very supportive family. I have been having a lot of anxiety lately over what I think is a big deal.
I am a virgin. All through highschool I had crushes on girls with boyfriends, I never really met anyone in college, and I've always tried to hide the fact that I've not done anything sexually and typically make up stories about girls I knew in highschool.
I want to lose my virginity to a virgin or at least have a relationship with someone who has been as reserved about dating as I have. I want to experience a loving relationship and have a yearning to share something as emotionally important as one's first sexual experience with another virgin. When I meet girls I typically just shut them out of my mind as a potential love interest as soon as any small bit of evidence arises that they may possibly not be a virgin or have had a boyfriend. As you can guess, this makes finding a relationship hard. The constant worrying has been effecting my job performance and my personal relationships with friends and family. I am starting to think that I'll be old and bald and gross and a virgin and will die alone because of my standard. I know it may sound stupid but it's something I can't shake as I have had no intimate/emotional experiences with others before.
Tell me /r9k/, is my desire as an older virgin male to be in a relationship with a virgin female about my age unfair or odd or selfish? Are there actually alot more virgin females out there than I think? How could I find someone I would be compatible with, or can you change my mind about the whole idea and help me have a brighter outlook on life? I feel like I have to get married at 22 as the older I get the less girls out there there will be that will love me.
I don't understand how emotional attachment works.
Your standards are odd. Whether they are selfish or unfair is irrelevant. But clearly you love to create excuses to avoid having to risk contact with others.
I mean, you want to go to bed with a virgin, although a virgin may not herself want to go to bed, otherwise chances are she wouldn't be a virgin. Plus you invent stories on how you screw other girls, which means that people who value virginity will avoid you. Finally, what makes you think that people will have tried to remain virgin, just to go to bed with you?
Aside from your lack of social interaction, what exactly makes you want to sleep specifically with a virgin? Do you realize that if the girl is not a virgin, she will be better able to calm your anxieties (of which you seem to have an ample supply)? Personally I think sex with virgins sucks, never understood why it is so sought after, at least by some people.
lol copypasta