Can I make up for this? (4)

1 Name: Zenergy : 2009-03-22 17:29 ID:/3s5oooK

I drove down to my friend's house this weekend to spend the night. One of my female friends was there too; we had known each other a few years and we became really close friends. She's 17 now; I'm 19. I know full well that I get infatuated real easily, but she's different. She's very special to me, and I never had a real relationship before. I felt that I could finally make my move and it was perfect at first.

I got talking to her, and she said she had some feelings for me. I hadn't had anyone express those sorts of feelings for 6 years, and I was overjoyed at the thought of someone showing so much love for me (fyi, I said I never had a real relationship but long story short, I was cheated on in a 24 hour period of hooking up with someone, so I don't really count it).

Anyway, we ended up cuddling next to each other (nothing X rated or some of that would be in the Sexuality thread x_x). I let my emotions get the best of me, and I ended up giving her a hickey. She freaked out the next morning because of how noticeable it was. She's scared that her mother will think that her "innocent little girl" is seeing me, and I really do like her mother. But now I feel guilty...and I feel that I may have disappointed her. I don't know if she'll look at me the same way again, and I don't know what to do. Should I try and go after her, or have I done something that I can never make up for? Please help...I was so close.

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-03-22 19:08 ID:DyKEQHJG

I don't see what's your problem... You both kissed willingly. Her trouble comes from the fact that her mother might notice it, not that she kissed you, so there's no need for YOU to freak out.

Just tell her to take it easy, and suggest that you both take your time, without stress. Also, I think it would be a good idea to get her mother to know you better. If you have good relations, your friend will probably be less scared.

I think the basic problem is that your friend is very submissive to her parents, and the fact that she becomes more independent by going out with you is scaring her. That's normal and is part of her personal development. It's a positive thing, not negative. I would say your prospects look bright, so chill out and don't blow up your luck by acting depressive or angsty. Be reassuring to her, that's what she needs from you right now

3 Name: H-town Stomper : 2009-03-22 22:19 ID:h+fvwge4

Let her know, that she can tell her mom she kissed a boy. Shes 17 years old. She needs to know that her parents where probably at it at her age too. Nothing wrong, its just showing fun. If she tries to hide it, then shes going to cause more problems. If she comes out and says it, then her parents will know that that is all that happened.

4 Name: Underthecovers : 2009-03-24 02:45 ID:SsqFZ36+

Shes 17 years old. Im pretty sure that her mother is kinda expecting it. And plus like Secret Admirer said, you both kissed willingly and shes freakin out cuz her mom will know. you shouldnt have anything to worry about. If she doesnt look at you the same, then its her fault for leading you on, not yours.

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