I think Japanese women are adorable. Is this bad? (36)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-13 19:09 ID:1RkMArnr

So, I was wondering, is it alright to have a thing for Japanese women? I've read a bunch of things that say it's a fetish and white men only like Japanese women because they are perceived to be more submissive. But that isn't it at all for me. I just think that they are really attractive and I like that particular look.

What does /romance/ think? Is it unfair to think that all men that are attracted to Japanese women are domineering pervs? Anyone have any advice or think the same way?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-13 19:20 ID:+xEVCxNk

well, probably depends on what you want to do with that Japanese girl... but I wouldn't say that it is something perverted, to me it looks more like that someone has a thing on black hair, blue eyes or asian look, everybody has it's own preferences... and if you're the dominant type, it looks to me pretty natural that you're looking for someone submissive

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-14 17:24 ID:1RkMArnr

>>2 It's not that I want to do anything really twisted or even anything sexual with this hypothetical Japanese girl. In fact, I just want to have a "normal" relationship with her. It's just that I'm really attracted to this group and most people think that it's really just a fetish or a form of deviancy. I just want to hear from the interwebz what they think.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-14 19:52 ID:lwDWmgSk

It's because you're a weeaboo. Perfectly natural for a weeaboo to desire Japanese girls.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-14 20:03 ID:cXC3xpq5

>>1 it's not bad. I can't even start to understand how liking Japanese women would be bad.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-14 20:31 ID:1RkMArnr


I personally don't think it's bad but apparently, there's some sort of stigma surrounding liking Asian women. I don't get it. Well, I get it in the case of someone not caring about the woman and only wants to have her as a decoration or a sex object. I understand that. But society seems to look upon any white dude with an Asian girl as somehow messed up. It's really weird how society just carpet bombs people with unfounded perceptions.

But seriously, let's hear it for Japanese women!!

It does make one wonder what it is that is so attractive about them.... Hmmmm, I'll have to think about that and get back to you about that.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-14 20:45 ID:R3BFXCJ1

No, its not okay. Do you love your country son? I think thats what you need to be asking. Do you hate America? Aren't there enough pretty women of your own kind to satisfy you son? LoL. I love Japanese women too... and Korean... and black.... and Russian... and Brazilian... and the list goes on. :D

>I get it in the case of someone not caring about the woman and only wants to have her as a decoration or a sex object

No racial context there. You can do it to another race, you can do it to your own just the same, and there are plenty that do

>society seems to look upon any white dude with an Asian girl as somehow messed up

Black and white relationships still get this too. Personally, I'm an equal opportunist, any girl can get it, as long as shes cute and fun. My dad tried to talk me out of dating a black girl once. Made me very disappointed in him... sigh

>Is it unfair to think that all men that are attracted to Japanese women are domineering pervs? Anyone have any advice or think the same way?

No, its not fair to think all men that are attracted to Japanese women are domineering pervs. Unless you ARE.


8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-15 15:41 ID:4s1cuW3P

Don't worry OP, almost every white guy gets a "thing" for asians or a particular flavor of asians.

The best cure is to actually get an Asian girlfriend. That way, you'll realize that they are like every other female on the planet: obnoxious and bitchy.

Really, they're just good at presenting themselves in public. Once they feel they don't have to keep up the act around you, they become VERY different.

Even worse are the ones that actually ARE really submissive and meek. They can't make a single decision on their own, and they never want to DO anything.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-15 23:29 ID:1RkMArnr


I doubt they can be any worse than any other type of woman. Besides, a strong woman is attractive so that isn't a problem.


Sir, sorry sir! I must disagree with you sir! Japanese women are the master race sir! We will mingle with said Japanese women and produce mixed, bouncing babies sir!

I agree with you though. I will pretty much go for any girl. Went for a German once, went for an Indian once, and went for some Italian once. I don't really care as long as she's a good person. It's just that those damn Japanese women have such attractive facial features, if we're going by just gut reaction, first impressions type of phenomenon. Actually they're like some Italian women that have a lot of Eutruscan features.

10 Name: kakoiikuroi : 2009-04-24 08:26 ID:1rGk6o6M

Look...I will put it to you like this...I am not joking with you. I'm the Hugh Hefner of Japanese women. I live with 5 japanese girls and I speak both Japanese and English. I'm black and in the entertainment industry. Bottom line...Japanese girls are the most gossipy girls on the planet...even more so than high school white girls. They "keep face" meaning, smile to your face, and talk trash to your back. I know this because I listen to them do it about others all day every day. My 3 main ones are extremely loyal but this is because they have been shown how they should be treated by a man...like a queen, and because I spoil them emotionally and show them true gentlemanship in public, they service me in every way I ask. They are extremely submissive, but two of my main ones are dancers and I can tell you that these two are extremely strong. They have also been in America for 4 years so their personalities have become somewhat Americanized. The bottom line though...whomever mentioned them being just like every other girl in the world, it's true. All CULTURES are different...so you will be learning new things about them all the time, which is really cool, and that part goes for any culture other than your own that you choose to date. I know this because in College at Michigan State University, our campus was extremely diverse, and I played basketball, and I was with women from all over the globe. The one thing that keeps me choosing foreign women over American women, "and in my case, part of my image is Japanese women so it's mainly that for me", but you will ALWAYS have something fresh and new in the relationship, because you guys are dealing with generation upon generation of massive culture differences, so your relationships will always be interersting:0)

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-24 12:17 ID:DSgln+IT

Despite my weaboo love of manga and anime, I have never succumbed to yellow fever. All I can say is that your interest purely in Japanese women is probably unrealistic and will have trouble being realized in a relationship. It would be easier if you liked Asian women in general or even members of your own race.

12 Name: kakoiikuroi : 2009-04-26 17:01 ID:1rGk6o6M

>>11 I'm gana give you the benifit of a doubt that you had no ill intentions, but that sounded both weak "like Japanese women are unreachable" and borderline racist "sticking to members of your own race". The bottomline is the world is mixing...and to be honest, my best guess is within the next 300 years, everyone in America will still have different features, but our tinting will all mostly be the same. There will be subtle differences, but everyone born here in America will have that American tint that folks around the world at that point in time will know Americans for.

This tint will be a mixture of Black, White, Spanish, Asian, and Middle Eastern, as those are the dominant races in our society...by the way, the women in EVERY culture I just named are beautiful, as well as all over the world, and any man limiting himself to JUST members of his own race...well, he isn't really a man. >>11, go LIVE a little. Discover the fruits of the world. It's a beautiful place, with lots of beautiful women...and as for yellow fever...if you REALLY know anything about our culture "i'm black, white, and japanese", then you would know that yellow is far from the only shade of japanese women"

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-27 13:59 ID:C/QPM0WW

>>12 not to dampen your enthusiasm (and I'm not >>11), but I think his comment was not really meant as "Japanese women are too good for you", but rather that "you're fantasizing about japanese women so much that you are setting yourself ready for disappointment".

Aside from that, I'm all for the mixing of people. Anyway I found your experience interesting, despite the macho taint. I just wonder how you manage your harem.

14 Name: kakoiikuroi : 2009-04-28 08:28 ID:1rGk6o6M

>>13 haha:0) You know how that goes...it's just I happen to go through it with Japanese women. I am friends with a lot of them, I run two businesses that cater specifically to Japanese women and Japanese female hip hop dancers, and that just always turns into some type of relationship at one point or another. Just like everyone here prolly has a circle of friends and they end up dating most of them at some point. I apologize for the macho taint...i've never even viewed myself as that. My girls ALL tell me "and other Jgirls" that i'm a playboy, if they are a girlfriend or just a friend.

Anyway, back to the main point. If what >>13 pointed out is the viewpoint to be taken, then yes...I agree. Don't spend so much time fantasizing...just be about it. Go do it, and see if you like it:0)

15 Name: 映画男 : 2009-04-29 18:29 ID:hB2WoJ6e

WOO here comes the 3rd thread!


16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-30 04:23 ID:wbP9vLlv


Cool story, nig

17 Name: First Response : 2009-05-14 14:38 ID:JrtRhubP

Sure it's ok to like the japanese. But don't expect the society to treat you like other white dudes, because you are not.

I am a female and Japanese and what I found common among a million of these western guys 'the asian fetish' is that they generally aren't very confidence and are pretty unsuccessful, professionally AND as a man, in their home countries. As such they aeem to be seeking some sort of comfort in Japanese women with whom they somehow feel better about themselves.

And don't even try using that 'I like Japanese women but not because they are submissive...' line, because the chance of people believing that is zero.

Good luck with your soul searching.

18 Name: me : 2009-05-18 18:13 ID:fIWNAyy4

it's not a bad thing as long as you're not putting down women of other races, which is what losers afflicted with yellow fever generally do... which is partly why they have such a bad rap.

also, they're women like any other in the world. it's been said a billion times, but as a chick who dates chicks and who has tons of chick friends, i'll say it again. across cultures and ethnicities, we all tend to have the same problems and characteristics. we're varied because we're indivudals, not because of our skin colour. whatever personality traits/characteristics you like about japanese women, you can probably find them among your own race too, so there's no point in limiting your search.

19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-05-19 13:55 ID:Heaven


>but as a chick who dates chicks and who has tons of chick friends

Yes, because that makes you uniquely qualified to answer the question. As a female that prefers females I somehow want to hit you upside the head.

OP if you act like a decent person, there is no issue. I feel as an aspiring decent person I am uniquely qualified in answering this question but YMMV.

20 Name: me : 2009-05-19 22:34 ID:fIWNAyy4

>>Yes, because that makes you uniquely qualified to answer the question. As a female that prefers females I somehow want to hit you upside the head.

that's because you're a dipshit and you can't read properly. never said it made me qualified to answer the question. all i'm saying is that i know lots of girls, both japanese and not, in romantic ways and not, and we're all pretty similar.

21 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-05-30 09:40 ID:wfKq5+Xn

I get the weirdest mixed messages.
One one hand I am told that when I get to japan I am going to find a nice girl and most likely marry and/or take care of her.

On the other hand, I get told by other people that all women in asian countries are just out to get a green card and come to america, where they will then divorce the husband and leave him with a mountain of debt.

are the latter rumors founded in something or is it just typically arrogant american stigma about marrying someone of the other race and implanting into my head that idea so I only marry the atypical blonde haired blue eyed empty headed woman that every man should want?

I'm gonna be over there for 3 years so I KINDA would like a good answer

22 Name: me : 2009-06-09 22:32 ID:fIWNAyy4


japan isn't as economically impoverished as other asian countries so a lot of guys like to delude themselves into thinking that they'll like you for you, but a lot of japanese girls have silly ideas about white men and american culture and are all gung-ho to hop on board. but when reality sets in, they may choose to flee back to japan or dump you for a japanese guy (i've seen it happen too many times to count), and i know plenty of horror stories of jgirls' behaviour turning 180 after marriage.

also, you don't have to rip into american women like that. you'll meet plenty of air-headed japanese girls who don't know their heads from their asses, especially the ones who chase gaijin. and don't believe those stories about you being hot stuff just because of your pasty skin-- those days are long gone. most white guys i knew while i was on exchange were unable to hook up.

23 Name: Mu : 2009-06-22 20:31 ID:cL3XhFun

You know, I'm sure you all are nice people (or not) but the only Japanese-loving guys I've ever met were WAY beyong weird. There was a guy that had not only a fetish for FEET, but they had to be ASIAN FEET. Scared the crap out of me.

Most asian freaks I met were only into japanese girls because they're otaku geeks (excuse the wording, I'm an otaku too). There are stupid women in every culture, and there are ugly ones in all of them too. Most of the true japanese women I've met were REALLY not so good looking.

So, stick to just looking for pretty woman in general.

24 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-06-28 03:02 ID:fIWNAyy4


WIN. We need more people like you telling it like it is.

25 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-06-28 04:19 ID:rzWgZXml

I just like girls. Japanese girls are cute, but I don't think more than any other race. I'm pretty much a fucking loser and I don't expect it to be any easier for me in Japan. Why would Japanese women be any different? Japanese otaku never get laid either.

26 Name: yikes : 2009-07-20 19:17 ID:FXYMucmo

Asian fetishists are freaks and everyone hates them. they think their disease is hidden when they are in asia because asian people are generally nice. wrong!

most people in asia know a western guy who would voluntarily relocates to asia is a total loser who never gets laid in europe/the us. they just won't tell you because that's what the discreet asian culture is. so give up and embrace who you are, which is asian fetish loser.

27 Name: Scatterbrain : 2010-08-23 04:44 ID:VrEnkHna

This thread is really creepy. But really creepy indeed.

28 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-08-23 17:18 ID:Heaven


Thanks for that. We appreciate it, really.

29 Name: Scatterbrain : 2010-08-24 04:39 ID:TssdvypC


You're welcome. It gives you something to think about in the University ahha

30 Name: james : 2011-02-09 08:53 ID:xv5MVNSc

Are you talking about asian men white women dating

31 Name: TruthBeTold : 2011-06-06 06:02 ID:Yu2Dcu+G

kakoiikuroi is straight liar. What a bunch of fantasy. Hugh Hefner of Japanese women? Right, you black, the literal last choice for japanese women on both side of the ocean(just look at interracial marriage/child stats). Japanese women are not submissive, your just projecting you sexist racist fantasies on the internet. And japanese women are not into being shared or catching stds, bastard kids, etc.

You little internet story just demonstrates racist sexiest attitudes propagated by your ilk and sure is a similiar mindset to the disproportionate number of black GI's that have committed sexual assaults against Japanese girls. You make whites stereotypes about asian women seem respectable.

It is sad you got to project you little bigoted fantasy on the net like this.

If you actually knew japanese women you never even make up some BS like this. I been to japan and now they are not submissive, it is just a pro-rape stereotype that zsexist thugs like you obsessive on.

32 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-07-25 20:57 ID:al87dbpA

>>1 "Is it unfair to think that all men (whom) are attracted to Japanese women are domineering pervs"

Fairness is based in Judgment; and I'm a BETTER Judge than yoU!
..until you stop beginning sentences with the prelude:
"Is it unFAIR to -T-H-I-N-K-..???"

Not all men (whom are attracted to Japanese women) are DOMINEERING normal guys and/or perverts.
Not all men (whom are attracted to Japanese women) are straight.
Not ONLY men ..are attracted to Japanese women.

Japanese women are submissive, but not as submissive as a Thai woman, or a Iranian woman, or a drunken French snob, or a loose Tijuana hooker, or a randy-&-ready Brittish babe, or an average drunken Indiana fluff-chick from the Indiana mall.

33 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-08-01 10:56 ID:rkA1h71k

Since there's so much research based on anecdotal evidence here, let me give you an anecdotal counter-example.

I'm a white guy and I have a Japanese girlfriend. She isn't submissive. I didn't start dating her because she's Japanese, I started dating her because we got along really well.

Generalizing is tempting but rarely accurate. Reality is more complex than generalization. This is a simple fact, but so often forgotten.

34 Name: Mr Write : 2011-08-02 19:31 ID:oKd+PUpZ

Nothing's wrong with having fetishes, so long as you don't force them on your partner.

35 Name: Mr Write : 2011-08-02 19:32 ID:Heaven

Aw fuck, I posted in a necro thread.

36 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-09-18 23:26 ID:x7IYRdUG

No being a japanese girl I hate how a lot of guys do have that mind set that all asians are submissive its not. Coming from a family with my mom being white and my father japanese no one thought it was weird.

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