I might be presented to two delightful new girls this weekend, which is something I kinda badly need these times after my previous critical failure.
Sadly, they're both exes of friends of mine, so... you all know what that means. Off-limits. Meh.
in about 15 minutes I'm going on third date with one great girl... wish me luck, I hope it'll work out
the guy ive tried to hook myself up with has been very rejective lately..................
Is this really the 3rd edition?
I need to get out more...
>>1 It could still work as long as your friends are cool with it.
>>2 details? Oh well, have fun!
>>4 Atleast you're trying, better than watching the OP and ED of K-ON! over and over again like me lol
>>5 You and me both lol, but that swine flu is making me scared to.
I've been way too preoccpuied with life that I find there really isn't much time for girls or dating =\
I'm not even home right now lol, I'm off on a learning trip ^_^
>>6
Yeah, I know, but from neutral third-party experience, ex-dating doesn't mix well with staying good friends. Thing is, I dunno how serious they were, guess I'll have to find out. Well, nothing's done for now anyway.
>>6
details? well... I managed to get my arm around her for a while, that's as far as I could get lol...
hell, what's the worst thing about never having a girlfriend? whatever I do, I'm doing it just blindly, not knowing if it's right or wrong... am I too fast? am I too slow? do I have a chance? I can't see any of those things, it's like trying to infiltrate an enemy base with your eyes closed
lmao.. well well .. i cba trying this month, i'll try again next month!;)
>it's like trying to infiltrate an enemy base with your eyes closed
And in this case the enemy base is filled with maniacs armed with hatchets and sentry guns firing at random directions.
But this is a good metaphor, yes, to most relationships that can be had with a woman.
As long as your spirit is indestructable as wolverine you'll be fine. Get yourself some experience points!
Some people think they're funny doing it wrong, so I'll bump the current thread.
Dammit, people. You're messing with the statistics.
obligatory bump
im moving in less than a month, and NOW 3 girls want a relationship, but arnt intrested in sexual stuff.
...why god?
The world has a funny way of working like that. Hopefully I get a relationship sooner or later, or improve one of mine. Thing have been keeping me too busy to even think about one. All I can really do is improve myself until the day that it does happen
damn it! i missed the 1000th yet again! argghh! i'll die a single loser!
all chicks that dig me are damn too ugly, why can't i have those fine, luscious ones? maybe i have to move out of town and find another?
all right, I decided... the next time I'll go out with that girl, I'm going to grab her and kiss her out of blank and I don't care that we'll be far from each other for 2 months, I know that I have feelings for her and it's time to change being single
>>17
Maybe you are damn too ugly for any of those fine, luscious chick?
I met this one girl while we were both volunteering for...something or other at our school. We were talking and we we hit it off, afterwards spending an hour or two at a nearby coffee shop conversing and generally becoming acquainted with each other. I had gotten her phone number, but I hadn't seen her around school. That is, until the next week, when I saw her hand-in-hand with someone I had never met.
That...irritates me.
that is a point to consider hahaha
>>20
shit happens, besides you don't own her. she has a life before she even met you so nothing we could do about that.. move on. bitter reality indeed.
I have just noticed that I am literally the same spot I was in a year go. Same, physical spot. It is a funny feeling to look to where I was then and where I am now. One year ago, I just broken up with my girlfriend and I miserable. I felt cheated because I have given my heart and soul to this girl to only have her toss it away as it was nothing. I felt alone because I had no one to talk to. Work and summer classes left my days booked and my nights were short so I could get sleep. My thoughts and feelings were the only things that kept me company. I was angry because friends who should have sided with me sided with her because she was “victim,” though she was the one who stabbed me. I felt sadness because a person I cared for is now out of my life and I will never have her again. I felt hopeless because I could not imagine a better life without her. And I was impatient because I knew time would heal my wounds, but I wanted them healed then and there. I remember clearly, I was cursing fate.
Two weeks from now is the anniversary of meeting my current girlfriend. One year ago I could not imagine meeting a person as great as her. One year ago I felt that everyone in the world is fucked up and no woman is worth my time. One year ago I was ready to accept my life as a social pariah, no friends, no problems. One year ago I thought I could not find better than her and my one chance of true happiness left me like she left me.
Two weeks from today. I met someone who is the light of my life. Someone who sets up scavenger hunts for me on Valentine’s Day. Someone who takes every opinion of mine to heart and will do anything for me. Someone who will put up with me calling her up at 4am so I could tell her how I figured out a certain problem. Someone who needs to hear my voice before she goes to sleep. Someone who has to tell me first about new news or gossip. Someone who loves and cares for me with every beat of her heart.
I will never curse fate again.
>>23 Good for you,hopefully the rest of us single people get blessed with luck as well! =P
ALRIGHT PEOPLE! With that being said, its that special time of the year again! Its summer! Get off your butts, do something for yourself and meet new people! Say "yes!" to life!
bump
Hahaha, I've been so busy with things girls has been the last thing on my mind. I just don't have the time for relationships or flirting no less =P
all the girls I am attracted to turn out to already be taken :(
>>28 Yeah that could be a problem lol. Are you sure you're not just a coveter? You covet things people already have? Like pizza at an anime convention? Still whatever we want the most we can't have unfortunately
>>29
well, I have the same problem as 28 and I found the fact that girl I want is already taken after starting to like her... and not only once so I wouldn't say that this is the problem
hehe nah I didn't know she was taken until afterwards so it's not a wanting what other people have thing.
>>30
Me too, there's someone who say U don't know how precious
something / someone until u lose it
but that's too late T_T
Only goes to show that we must not hesitate when a chance or opportunity arises. Might as well shoot for something even if theres a chance to miss, hey you might even get a hit.
The next time i get the chance, and my heart say ok,
i just hope i have courage to take the opportunity ..
afterall, no pain no gain ...
Oh you don't need courage lol, you just need to lose a bit of your sanity is all. Just say in your mind... screw it all its not like the worlds going to end if I screw up here right? Jump into the pool of romance without a thought of it being warm or freezing!
I'm in a classic dilemma--I am close friends with a girl, and I want to make her happy. Unfortunately, there's another guy who makes her happy, and he might have better chances of being with the girl than I. Therefore, I'm in a love triangle. Me and the girl have gotten close within 2 years, but only as friends... I wish I could push our friendship to the next level as intimates, by becoming the one guy that makes her happiest.
I don't know whether to let it go and let the other guy fulfill the role, or to fight back and be "him". In the end, it's her happiness that matters most to me...
Any advice? =/
Ugh. Got friend zoned HARD tonight at work, in front of just about everyone in the break room. To make matters worse, this one girl is trying to hook me up with someone else, and the girl I like is helping! This girl they're trying to hook me up with... she's a nice girl and all, but her sideburns are more impressive than MINE. x_x
>>37 lmao poor u! just start molesting or hitting on the girl you like.. :3
lmao; third time that i hooked up one of my friends with a girl i liked. Worst part she knew that i liked her and asked me to ask if my friend(the guy she liked, liked her back) quote; i know that u like me and all, but can u ask if ,friend's name here, likes me? lol imma go hang myself now (partly jking)
Once I got to the point of listening to melancholy chiptunes alone in my room I think there's no going back.
So I meet the first girl in a year that I can see a relationship possibility with. (Most important part is that she isn't taken, which every other interesting girl I meet seems to be.)
I'm aware that my friend also has his eyes on her, and I can't help but think that he's got a better chance than me.
The tought of me getting too serious about her, only to get shot down and see her getting it on with my friend, worries me. Giving up early is much less painful, but I won't gain anything from that.
In the end, it's a question of taking the bet, knowing the risk.
all right... what the fuck is happening? my friend ended a long relationship like few days ago, I introduce her to my other friend and they have sympathies for each other and will probably end up dating... I am happy for them, they both deserve it but how the fuck did it happen? how is it possible that I'm trying pretty hard to find someone for myself, I went through a lot of hard stuff to only have a possibility of having a girlfriend but I never had one and they are just being introduced to each other, have some talk and they like each other?
and when I really fight for someone I end up just being friendzoned from the beginning... so the basic math should be minimum effort equals maximum possibility of finding a girfriend... but no, when I don't look for other relationship than friendship then nothing changes, I still remain single without anyone seeing me as a possible boyfriend... so what the fuck is wrong? what should I do to experience the feeling that someone loves me? or sees me interesting? when will someone fight for me?
>>36
stop being so insecure and just go for it! >:D
If the girl shows CLEAR signs of liking him as a guy rather than just a friend, it might be best to stay as friends, for the sake of your friendship.
But if the girl is kinda giving you two the same signs mostly, I think you should go for it before you regret it. :)
>>42
You've got to find the middle ground in the pursuit and the idleness of relationships. Put yourself out there with some intent, but at the same time not. Increase your confidence, but don't be arrogant. Everything in life is about balance and you've got to find your own!
That being said I've probably been on the idle side for a long time now, but the memories of the pursuit days are heart wrenching. Doesn't mean I won't give up! I guess my problem really begins in the starting
so ronery.. :(
The sad or hilarious (depending on your viewpoint) thing is that this place is a singles' lounge full of ahem.. singles giving love/romance/relationship tips to other singles... I am really not being an @$$ as I am single myself, but that is the reality... I have come to an understanding that tricks don't really work when it comes to meeting that special someone. Maybe there are no tricks in the first place. Liking is but a sum of complex factors (appearance, personality, popularity, etc.) For whatever reason, people do like to see changes on you. New hairstyle, new clothes, whatever.. one just needs to change something (not too drastic though, no plastic surgery :)) and you will be noticed. I guess a change sends a subliminal message to one's possible counterparts that one is in for a mating season (in a romantic kinda way -- really). So, if one is a guy (like me), he needs to have some money (for clothes, a hairstylist/not barberer, etc.), decent car (girls love it -- end of story), moderate confidence and no extra weight. Again I am not trying to be mean here, I myself am overweight (or fat, whatever). That is if you want a decent looking girl.
Even as I am reading what I wrote, it sounds a bit cynical, stereotypical and whatnot, but it is really a glance at reality. Whoever believes in what female celebrities talk all over media (we want nice guys) is the ultimate blah-blah. Girls like "almost-jerk" types (well most of them do) and that can't be really helped. Yeah, I know what you're all saying now -- people with self-respect and good character do not need to change. You are likely right, but tell that to hordes of girls who drool over six-pack equipped jerks. That goes for men too, we do love slutty girls.
We are coming back to change part again. I am basically trying to get rid of my fat@$$ by virtually sleeping on the gym/treadmill. And that's just tip of the iceberg. Six packs on the faraway horizon is just a small bullet on the list of stuff that I need to change to fit that likeable and dateable guy type. Since I was obviously absent the day God was giving beauty away, I will probably have to go to a cosmetic surgery to "enhance" my facial features and make them more in line with the greatest common (subjective) denominator when it gomes to a dateable guy type (universally accepted by girls) today. And this is what I have to do. I wouldn't really recommend that to anybody. But the reason I am saying this is that people tend to fake when they talk about these things. If a guy asks a girl (who says she's looking for a nice guy and she's not all about looks and blah blah) to date him, she's going to invent a million of excuses and reject him just because she's also waiting for that one jerk in shining armor on the white horse blah blah blah.
CHANGE is what I hate but I need. I have yet to do all parts of that change. See, I am becoming a jerk already although I don't really want to, but hey that flies! So, as I am going on with change, I smell that funny smell telling me that the end result (a girlfriend) may not be really worth all that change (read: trouble). But it's what we are all born for, right. And not just born for, I need to get my @$$ up, lose it, get to my 6-8 pack abs, gradually through layers of fat, "enhance" my face and polish my "jerk" factor to get somebody to love me. Who said love was easy :)
Since this is a singles rant thread anyway, I took the liberty to give my 2 cents. Please excuse my raw approach.
Look at it this way:
Losing weight = health + self esteem [win already] = girls [bonus]
I got rejected by the same girl for the 3rd time.
Why the 3rd time? It can't be helped. The feeling just goes back again and again
You see, we're very close, she sees me as a big brother, I treat her as my little sister. I help her in her everyday life like school work, friend problems, etc.
Although, when she rejected me last night, she told me "I'm a better imouto (little sister) than a love interest"
Also, she says that she lost the basis of falling in love with someone, and she's happy with the things she have in the present.
There is closure. I just wanted to post this because I just want to let this out in my system. I have been crying at random times already.
>>48
that is a bullshit... or maybe not but just in case, don't believe her... because she can eventually find someone and it will hurt you... also, I would recommend moving on... being rejected one time is enough, three times is better than enough... from my point of view, any romantic feelings for her will lead only to pain on your or both sides...
>>46
don't know about everyone else, but I ask here sometimes for advice just to know other people's points of view... I can solve problems pretty well myself (or so I think) but sometimes is good to know other opinions
and about that changing... got a new haircut today:)... I'm pretty lost in what girls like about men so don't know if it will be effective but I personally like it
Plastic surgery isn't always a fantastic way to go.
I went under the knife to try to improve my appearance and make myself more attractive to women.
Got rid of the stuff I didn't want, all right, but it also left me with numerous disfiguring scars. The cure is almost worse than the disease ever was.
It's been eight years since the surgeries, and I still have never had a girlfriend or even been on a date.
>>46 To undergo plastic surgery to please others is stupid. The only valid reasons to undergo plastic surgery is to address some disfigurement condition, or to please yourself.
As for others, it's much easier to find someone who likes you the way you are, than to knife yourself into an abstract ideal which won't be perfect to no one. There are plenty of people on this world, with all kinds of tastes, don't lose your sweat trying to please everyone, find people who like you as you are.
And BTW, there are plenty of people here who are not single. However, it's true that I for myself tend to ignore the single's thread.
You know those people that you always run into, and yet you have never met them before? There's this guy that I keep bumping into at uni. He does a different course to me, but we keep crossing paths, to the point where it's become almost ridiculous. When I see him, we exchange the quickest of glances, and I know that he's thinking "What the heck, there's that girl again". I've ran into him every day of this week, except for today. I'm posting mainly because of withdrawal symptoms perhaps.
The last encounter I had with him was on my way to my car. I'd just finished a really long day of uni, and skipped my last lecture because I was so exhausted. When I saw him, I was kind of glad that I did. I think it was my imagination, but he seemed to quicken his pace in order to cross my path (it was quite an open stretch). We ended up almost brushing, and when I looked up from my phone, he turned his head towards the ground, which I thought was very cute. I only wished that I'd dropped my books, or something, just to get a conversation started.
I think next time I'm going to try hold my gaze a little longer.
>>53
Or try asking: ,,Didn't we see each other somewhere?"
It would be really cute and playful if you touched him lightly on the elbow and said "Tag, you're it".
But whatever you do, smile when you do it.
>>54
Actually I think I could do this...I'm just afraid of him not playing along..
>>55
It does sound extremely cute, and it would be awesome if everything got started off from that, but the chances are he'll think I'm a weirdo. It's probably different where you live, but over here, crazy stalker radars turn on when a stranger tries to make conversation, even on public transport :(
I will however definitely do the latter :D
Didn't see him today again. Oh well, if fate allows it, we'll bump into each other again :)
WTF!
k so 21 year old female is me.. i have been basically in love with the same guy off and on for the last five years.... thus far it has been friends zone to the millionth degree. Neither of us has ever dated anyone. within the last year and a bit there has been a minor shift in his actions. When he is around i catch him staring and we have awesome back and forth talking. problem is he lives 4 hours away and i dont have reliable internet to keep in touch. some texting but thats not what i would call an amazing way to start anything.
ANYWAY....i am good friends with his sister, she says she thinks he likes me, and that i should do something about it. problem is that is totally counter to my personality. plus she has been super wrong about people her brother has liked before, because he is really not close to her. but some other friends and outside observers have noticed a smidge of change too.
k so this summer he was supposed to be working his job for the whole time and not take anytime to come and volunteer at the camp we first met at. then like two days before teen camp (the only two weeks i could arrange to volunteer, and my favorite weeks at that) he says he is coming up. to be fair his other sister who i am also friends with, who he actually likes and talks to is also at the camp. so here were are for two weeks seeing each other basicaly 20 hours a day. nuances of maybes continue to eek from him.
what do i do? i mean if i say anything and ruin it i will hate myself forever. but what if he is waiting for me?
rawr this sucks apperntly i can attract crushes from little 16 year old boys who i have counseled for years, but not the one guy i actually like.
>>58
This can go on and on forever. Just make a move. You probably won't hate yourself forever if it does not happen, and I doubt it could be any "worse". If you don't act, though, not only are you going to have regrets for the rest of your life, but it will probably fuck your chances up with other guys and will take you ages to get over him because of the lack of closure.
58 here,
i have always been told that guys perfer when they get to make the first move!?!
have i been lied to? it always seemed to be the way it was...
Hey poster 53, ermm... I've also bumped into the same girl who was in one of my classes before summer break at university. I kept seeing her on the streets whenever I walk around campus. Erm, its probably a crazy coincidence though.
By any chance are you meeting this guy at summer school? If so then it probably is a crazy coincidence that we have a similar experience.
>>60
No, they don't. And even though it's true that they like to be the ones "in control" in some situations, it's definitely not an absolute.
I mean, preferences are preferences, not law.
>>61
Haha nah, but I wish I did. I'm glad we can relate tho :)
Haven't seen him since before my first post :(
Why is it the more you want to bump into them, it doesn't happen?
Story of my life actually.
Guys I'm interested in never seem to like me until I stop liking them.
You've been lied to.
He's probably as afraid of rejection as you are.
Just think of what you'd hate most:
Having him turn you down or seeing him move on to be with another girl.
Erm poster 63,
So the last time you met him was during the normal school year? Since we're all anon here, can I ask what university you're attending?
great......
now i am scared.....
k so any advice on how do i ask him?
i mean with him living so far away and all??
>>65
Oh nono, I think you misunderstand me, I'm probably on the other side of the world from you. The last encounter I had with him was last week..we don't have break now, and it's the middle of winter here :P I go to UWA, in Australia. It would be too insane for me to comprehend, if you were the guy I was bumping in to. So much so I'd probably marry you.
>>Poster 66<<
Well poster 66 my advice to you is that ask him what he thinks about long distance relationship,,since if you know that he is fine with long distance relationship,,your next moved would be confess to him,about how you feel just probably say what you really think about him,,you don't need anything fancy to say to him because if you don't you'll probably regret it later on..
it sucks being single.
D:
This isn't really a single's rant but it may as well put me back here.
My gf's bday is coming up and me and her best friend are planning a party. So while discussing the plans over coffee, what first was friendly banter now turned into intense flirting.
I need to fix my flirting problem.
>>71
now this is one of those problems I would like to have
>>71 fucking asshole,this is SINGLE RANT THREAD. SINGLE. GTFO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
>>71 strikes again
any single girls here wanting to meet single guy? :P
leave ur contact details belo... uhm wait. that doesn;t make sense at all.
Just went on a maybe-date, but I think it wasn't. :(
I just broke up with my boyfriend :P
Being single is good sometimes.
You don't feel guilty about being attracted to attractive people :) Less drama too
This is the general board for /love. It is the fml of romance in 4ch. It doesn't not have to be exactly about SINGLE rants. If you want to get something off your chest this is where you go and confess.
Look at the achieves, a lot more than just "single rants" have been posted here.
>>80
My point was that it was a rant thread, not a feel good thread.
I'm feeling just awful. I beg for your pardon, but English is not my native language, so, if I don't get myself clear, I'm really sorry.
My name is not important, nor where I'm from. I have a story to tell and I'm not proud of it.
I felt in love with a girl. A pretty little flower in the right time of my life. I have been always a lonely boy, or man now, I'm 21. This girl, which I love for everything she gave me, was the light of my world, so warm, so kind.
We felt in love, but I think I had Love-At-First-Sight. I was romantic, I gave it all. We were together for a year and some months, we where happy together, or so I thought.
She started to get cold with me. It was because of college and my part-time job, she didn't liked that I had so little time for her, for us.
"I do it for us" I said. "I'm saving money for you, for our future. I also need to get through college, so I can give you the life you deserve." She got colder.
One day she totally froze, when I hugged her she was like ice. "We have to talk" she said. I thought the worst. "I think you don't love me anymore" she said "I think you are more interested in yourself than our relationship. I don't love you anymore, you have changed."
I felt like an idiot. I had to do something to prove myself, to show her how I trully loved her. "I'll make you love me again" I said "I'll try my best. I love you"
Then, the finals came, essays, quizzes, tests, everything. We had extra job for weeks.
I hadn't time for her, and she felt it. She took the move, I just couldn't forgive myself, she knew. "In your free-time, you prefered going with your friends, playing around, or just "relaxing". You are an arrogant and selfish jerk"
She was right. For all my selfish toughts, that I was gonna be able to get her love back, I just left her for later, I was thinking in my and my stuff. So I deserve it.
I just want you, boys and girls of the thread, that sometimes you are lonely because you are an Arrogant and Sellfish Jerk, like me. If you love someone, put that special person on top of your priorities, because she may leave you alone.
I'll live and love my yestardays, when I was happy and loved. Someday I'll move on, but today, tonight, I'll give you my word and my life as an example.
Love them with all your heart, mind and soul.
They say it's allways better to had know love and lost it than never had. But when you do, and you are alone... you don't really want to.
God bless you all.
If she can't understand that you have other commitments as well, then she's also being selfish.
count yourself lucky that you even had a girlfriend. I wouldn't believe it if someone told me a girl had even the slightest interest in me. it's just not possible.
I turned 18 recently and I feel like my life stopped being worthwhile when I was 14. All I can do right now is struggle with first-year engineering courses just so I can graduate with a 0.0001% chance of getting a job that pays dirt. the alternatives are 1) getting a totally worthless degree, or 2) work at a fast food place for all eternity.
I've never fallen in love with anyone, nor do I think I ever will.
When I look into someone's eyes I see a tangled web of desire and worry; this is the way I feel about love, and I'm pretty sure everyone else feels the same way. When I see that, though, how can I act on my own desire? Men usually talk with their dicks, but my libido just drains out of me. Whenever I try to flirt with someone, I just get plain old scared. But flirting is never instinctual, it's always based on me remembering my emotional needs and desire for a serious relationship with someone who I can help in their times of stress, and who will help me likewise. What a stupid desire--you have to have a relationship before it gets serious. So I've cut it out entirely.
It's really frustrating when I do get horny, which happens only when I'm alone. That's probably due to a decade of public shyness and jacking off.
I wish I had a girlfriend but at this point I'm resigned to my celibate personality. Maybe I'll get an arranged marriage someday.
I can "work on" guys that I don't have feelings for. In that instance, the flirting just comes naturally to me. In fact, most of the times I'm not aware that I'm doing it. But sit me beside the guy that I like, and my words fail me. I somehow always manage to make the most normal situations awkward between us, leaving him to salvage the conversation. I know this isn't an uncommon problem, but I'm just tired of the fact that the more you want things to work out, the more you stuff it up.
Anyway, what started off as a reply to >>85, has turned into my own personal rant.
>>86
I feel you. I don't know if you're guy or girl, but I'm the same. I can be a total player to people I'm not interested in (tried it, isn't really fun, I don't like being a manipulative bitch).
But throw feelings in there? Boom, confidence gone.
Well, I used to be like this. I changed quite a lot lately, hadn't had the chance to try once again with feelings. If I'm still able to have some.
25, male, never dated or had any sort of girlfriend.
Somehow, I thought that maybe in grad school, I'd find more opportunities for dating -- my undergraduate faculty advisor met his wife when they were in grad school, so it must be possible, right?
Yet every woman I meet is either married or engaged. And they're all around my age.
Fuck. I just want to experience what it's like to have a girlfriend. Just once, and then I'll happily go back to my monastic existence, if that's the way I'm fated to live.
I don't even care about sex. I just wish there was someone in my life who cares that I exist -- well, someone besides the student-loan people who are greedily calculating the interest they'll make off me while I work toward my degree.
>>88
If it's any consolation, at 22 years of age, I'm heading down that road myself. It's probably my fault that I've never been kissed, or experienced young love, I've always put other things at a higher priority than love. That's how I've been raised. But I'm not lamenting about the past at the moment.
Now, I've met a guy who in my opinion is absolutely amazing. However he's been chasing another girl for a while now, and all I can do is pretend to encourage him and show no romantic interest in him. My pride stops me from blurting out my confession to him, because I don't want to be the rebound girl, and as cliche as it sounds, I don't want to risk our friendship.
there was this girl whose personality was just like mine... she was like me in woman version... but she had a boyfriend and needed to choose... she chose him... and now she is writting to me that it was probably a bad choice, I should be angry right? or at least feel something... but I don't... this is so typical I think I'm practicaly used to it... frak her, I'm going for someone else now
>>88 Good luck, really! My sister has had the same problem, never dated, and just graduated a five year program of college, and never dated/kissed that I know of. Hope it goes well to you.
I've kissed more than my share, (mainly close friends who 'miss kissing other people' and me, being the lonely one agrees to 'help them out'.) The topic usually never arises, until I end up having a crush on them, and they bring up how much they'd like to be kissed, which, with my infatuation, turns out to be knotty at times. :/ (I'm a pansexual female, with female friends)
>>90 Maybe you can help them out? Get her over him, and show her that you're the better man. c:
I can't imagine kissing someone just to "help them out," without any mutual emotional attachment. Perhaps this comes from growing up in a formal, conservative environment, but I'm highly uncomfortable expressing or responding to physical affection -- and kissing is a pretty serious matter.
I'm the sort of guy who needs to be in at least a semi-committed relationship before even hugging becomes a permissable form of interaction. Casual kissing is a strange and alien concept, and I have to admit I don't understand the appeal.
k-i-s-s-i-n-g? kiss? whats that? I've never experienced one of those :3
I'm so goddamn sick of this game
I work so hard just to get out of bed in the morning
Just once I wish that would be because there's someone sleeping next to me that I'd like to stay close to
It kills me how many folks out there don't know how lucky they are just to be healthy
I'm not >>95, but I'm in pretty rough physical shape, and I often wonder if that means I shouldn't bother to date. I have a weak heart, exacerbated by a family history of heart disease. My grandfathers both died in their 70s of heart attacks, and my dad developed cardiomyopathy about ten years ago. Since then, he's had to take a vast cocktail of medications daily to survive.
I know I'm not going to live to a ripe old age. I'm only in my mid-twenties, and already I've started to show symptoms of trouble (periodic arrythmia). On top of that, a sometimes-overactive life has left me physically handicapped (I can't crouch, kneel, or crawl without experiencing massive pain) and partially deaf.
I've never had a girlfriend, and that bothers me, but I do wonder if maybe that's for the best. I'm damaged goods, after all -- is it really fair of me to want to become emotionally entangled with someone when I know that my lifespan is likely to be short?