The sad or hilarious (depending on your viewpoint) thing is that this place is a singles' lounge full of ahem.. singles giving love/romance/relationship tips to other singles... I am really not being an @$$ as I am single myself, but that is the reality... I have come to an understanding that tricks don't really work when it comes to meeting that special someone. Maybe there are no tricks in the first place. Liking is but a sum of complex factors (appearance, personality, popularity, etc.) For whatever reason, people do like to see changes on you. New hairstyle, new clothes, whatever.. one just needs to change something (not too drastic though, no plastic surgery :)) and you will be noticed. I guess a change sends a subliminal message to one's possible counterparts that one is in for a mating season (in a romantic kinda way -- really). So, if one is a guy (like me), he needs to have some money (for clothes, a hairstylist/not barberer, etc.), decent car (girls love it -- end of story), moderate confidence and no extra weight. Again I am not trying to be mean here, I myself am overweight (or fat, whatever). That is if you want a decent looking girl.
Even as I am reading what I wrote, it sounds a bit cynical, stereotypical and whatnot, but it is really a glance at reality. Whoever believes in what female celebrities talk all over media (we want nice guys) is the ultimate blah-blah. Girls like "almost-jerk" types (well most of them do) and that can't be really helped. Yeah, I know what you're all saying now -- people with self-respect and good character do not need to change. You are likely right, but tell that to hordes of girls who drool over six-pack equipped jerks. That goes for men too, we do love slutty girls.
We are coming back to change part again. I am basically trying to get rid of my fat@$$ by virtually sleeping on the gym/treadmill. And that's just tip of the iceberg. Six packs on the faraway horizon is just a small bullet on the list of stuff that I need to change to fit that likeable and dateable guy type. Since I was obviously absent the day God was giving beauty away, I will probably have to go to a cosmetic surgery to "enhance" my facial features and make them more in line with the greatest common (subjective) denominator when it gomes to a dateable guy type (universally accepted by girls) today. And this is what I have to do. I wouldn't really recommend that to anybody. But the reason I am saying this is that people tend to fake when they talk about these things. If a guy asks a girl (who says she's looking for a nice guy and she's not all about looks and blah blah) to date him, she's going to invent a million of excuses and reject him just because she's also waiting for that one jerk in shining armor on the white horse blah blah blah.
CHANGE is what I hate but I need. I have yet to do all parts of that change. See, I am becoming a jerk already although I don't really want to, but hey that flies! So, as I am going on with change, I smell that funny smell telling me that the end result (a girlfriend) may not be really worth all that change (read: trouble). But it's what we are all born for, right. And not just born for, I need to get my @$$ up, lose it, get to my 6-8 pack abs, gradually through layers of fat, "enhance" my face and polish my "jerk" factor to get somebody to love me. Who said love was easy :)
Since this is a singles rant thread anyway, I took the liberty to give my 2 cents. Please excuse my raw approach.