Should I break up with her? (5)

1 Name: Jonathan Woo : 2009-07-05 02:24 ID:jkjas3Bp

I have a girlfriend, we been dating for almost a year and half now, but recently I'm leaning toward of trying to break up with her because we almost argue every single day about nothing. I don't also see myself trying to spend the rest of my life with her, and my parents also disagree about her as well. But the thing is I actually do love her and I actually do care about her, but there are a lot of times where I wanted to break up with her but I just couldn't. Should I continue dating her to see if I decide I will truly want to spend the rest of my life or should I just break up with her now and stop hurting her. (BTW she is abroad now so if I want to break up with her, I have to do it to her through the phone, is that good?) THANK YOU GUYS

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-07-05 07:37 ID:uHOXLOeI

If you do decide to break up with her, I'd suggest not doing it over the phone.

Read up on everything you just typed there, and try telling your girlfriend all of that. Approach her honestly and try to express how you feel, being open and responsive to her as well. Try to get both you and her to try and consider the situation, and hopefully you both will be able to work things out.

If it doesn't work out initially, give her some time.. I'm sure it'll settle in her mind. If she still loves you, she'll be responsive. If she doesn't consider what you say and how you feel, she's acting immature and it'll be up to you whether you want to continue like that or not.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-07-05 11:25 ID:V8Om6AyI

If I was you I'd try to get to the bottom of this behavior in your couple: arguing over nothing is just a symptom of something deeper. Try to find what it is.

You can address the problem on two levels: the superficial and the causal. On the superficial side, you two would have to find ways of avoiding the bickering, and going straight for the real problem, when you are irritated at one another. You could also have some kind of keyword to warn the other one that he's just attacking gratuitously.

On the causal side, you would have to find out what is causing the trouble in the relationship. This can only be found with a lot of talk between both of you. Anyways, for any of this to work you need to both agree that there is a problem, and wish to try to solve it together in good faith. If not, the best is to dump her.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-07-06 11:52 ID:wjG+QzIT

If you're arguing while she's abroad, that's really weird.

Rule of thumb is that distance makes the heart grow fonder?

What do you argue about?

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-07-10 18:02 ID:Ay/i8bVt

not to make u paranoid or anything, but if she is abroad and u both argue all the time about nothing, could be that she is feeling guilty about something? maybe an affair? i'm just saying...

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