What should i do? (need advice) (11)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2009-07-15 20:32 ID:Hwol4DSa

Ok, so i'm 15 years and i never had a girlfriend before. Theres this girl at my school that i like for years. She the same age as me and i known her since i was about 6 but only become friends earlier this year and i want to ask her out but i don't think she thinks anything of me exept as a friend. I'mm below average when it comes to looks and i dont want to huilate myself in front of my entire school but i know that if i dont do anything i regret it for the rest of my life. Also if i take a chance and get shot down, i fear that we won't be able to hang out like normall.

2 Name: jano.soterios : 2009-07-15 21:14 ID:eRZf33l0

1.-go straight to the point, if you become friends first the love relationship is destined to doom

2.-Have confidence in yourself dood, if you do´'t belive in yourslef, who is going to?

3.-RANDOM

4.- invite her to some dates, 3 dates before you confess -like that is much easier to make a good relationship

5.- know her likes and dislikes, take her to places she like

6.- when you confess, take her to a place you feel comfortable with, take a deep breath and just say it

I'll be checking this thread for a while
bye

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-07-15 21:21 ID:sS2hpJnz

Well, get to know her, and find interesting and entertaining ways to spend time with her. You may gradually get to know her better, and find what makes her click.

Don't get too hung up on the looks, there are ways to mitigate that issue. What counts is that she spends good time with you and feels like continuing to devote more time to you.

Also the way not to be treated just as a friend is to make her wish to do things you don't do with friends. How to get there depends on both your personalities, so that's your homework

4 Name: Anonymous : 2009-07-15 23:07 ID:Hwol4DSa

its hard to spend quality/alone time with her because shes always hanging around with her best friend and her best friend more or less hates me.

5 Name: jano.soterios : 2009-07-15 23:59 ID:eRZf33l0

so? maybe her best friend do hate you, but she has free will to choose with whom pass some time

besides you can still make it, she has her own feelings if you get her to fall in love with you her best friend cant do anything

6 Name: Anonymous : 2009-07-17 12:09 ID:Hwol4DSa

i just found out today that she is going out with someone and to make it worse, the person she's going out with is one of my best friends so now i'm going to have to hang around with those two as a couple

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-07-17 15:19 ID:DFbSyxXc

>>6
I feel for ya.
It's bad enough having to be a third wheel, but when it's with your crush and your best friend, it must be torture.

Anyway, whilst it seems like she's all you can think about now, trust me when I say that you are still young. In no time you'll be thinking of some other pretty girl walking down the street.

8 Name: Anonymous : 2009-07-17 18:28 ID:Hwol4DSa

Guess what?
I just got back from the park that i went with my crush and my bestfriend and at the end of it when we where all leaving, she DUMPED him. Turns out they been going out for a few days and i the only reason she went out with him was because he asked her. So know i'm afraid that if i ask her, she'll say yes but then just break up after a few days. Also i dont think i can ask her out anytime soon because it feels like i'm betraying my friend

9 Name: jano.soterios : 2009-07-17 19:14 ID:kGQtFpbZ

wait a little, no too much or someone else maight take her

ask her to hang out, something fun

good luck

she would only dump you if you make somekind of ugky mistake

10 Name: Spiff : 2009-07-17 19:20 ID:DgQwpkrU

Hahaha....I remember when I was like that. I think we all were at that age. Here's MY advice. Don't worry about anyhing. Confront her as a friend or even just like one of the guys. Find your comfort zone when your with her. In highschool, I always had some new crush for almost every year or so. I never go with any of them, and I made my moves too, but I never really appealed to them. But NOW amazingly I'm all of a sudden attracted to one of my bestest friends since Elementary, and she also digs me! What I'm saying is...sometimes the girl you really want is the one closets to you but can't seem to realize. So don't try soo hard making this girl like you, just do the same shit you always do man. Be yourself, and as for your friend.....uhh, I'd suggest you talk with him bout this girl. Like did he really "love" her, is it cool with him if yu hangout with her and stuff. Not saying you need permission or anything, just understand your friend's feelings here.

11 Name: Anonymous : 2009-07-21 17:45 ID:Hwol4DSa

Yesterday me and my friends went out again and we bumped into my crush. It was really awkward and my friend and my crush could barely stand toghter let alone talk to each other and i don't want this to happen to me (if i ever get around to asking her out)

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