Are women more shallow than men? A new interpretation (6)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-08-02 06:42 ID:YSPDsZZP

It's common for men to be lambasted for our percieved shallowness. But I was thinking about this last night and if I'm being brutally honest I have to admit the conclusion I arrived at after much objective thought was that women care more about looks for two main reasons.

1) Men have a wider range of what they consider to be attractive in a woman. Even frumpy types in long skirts (the real librarian type, not the hipster type) are attractive to some men. There seems to be a fetishist for every imperfection too, barring say... physical disfigurement (and even then I'm sure that there are some women who love it). Men cast their nets wider than women, whose taste is basically muscular and masculine or emo/scene type feminine. The latter is an example of how many people mistake females for being less shallow in this regard - When women say they like nerdy guys they mean men who wear chunky black framed plastic specs, the emo/scene/indie kind and who maybe own a macbook and a wii. In short, they aren't real nerds and fit into a very narrow dichotomy of what women want.

2) This is the key point: Women INFER more from good looks than men do. While it's true good looks trigger something in men that is quite animalistic and says "I want to have sex with this woman", we tend to leave it at that. We won't think a woman has a good character just because she looks good. Women are different - They will infer that because a man is good looking he is also charming, funny and intelligent right on the spot, and even if he doesn't fit the bill they'll convince themselves he does. The fallacy of claiming women go for funny men is a key example of this: Women do not go for 'funny men', that's a case of people misinterpreting causation - If you can get into her pants, she'll laugh more at your jokes because she's attracted to you. Effectively it wouldn't be exagerration to say women develop rigid opinions on someone's character from the moment they've laid eyes on them.

I think you've also got to add on the fact life tends to be easier for women in the 16-30 range and they tend to be able to date above their station in terms of looks a lot more easily than men do. So this kind of behaviour isn't really a problem from their perspective.

2 Name: 43 : 2009-08-02 10:19 ID:Heaven

Please say you're trolling here.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-08-02 13:25 ID:EY9Q85Sz

> Men have a wider range of what they consider to be attractive in a woman.

Than women? How do you know? Are you sure you're not just talking about the men and women that you've met in your life? How can you be talking about all men and women? Are you talking about our age? Ie 2009? Men and women did differently in 1400, for instance. Are you talking about humans regardless of age? In an enlightened age, beauty might not even be considered so I'm wondering for which men and women you're talking of because certainly you can't be theoritically covering every man and woman.

> We won't think a woman has a good character just because she looks good.

You're saying that all men are NOT fooled by looks? What bollocks. Who the fuck are you? The men advocate? Go get fucked.

> Women are different - They will infer that because a man is good looking he is also charming, funny and intelligent right on the spot,

How do you know?

I'll tell you exactly what is happening >>1 You pontificate from your experiences, and I think it's time you forget all this and gather more experiences.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-08-02 18:04 ID:YSPDsZZP

>>3

>You're saying that all men are NOT fooled by looks?

Fooled in what way? Men are sexually attracted by looks. Unlike women we don't think a good looking woman is necessarily a good woman in general though.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-08-02 18:30 ID:Heaven

> Unlike women

Basis for assertion?

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-08-02 19:15 ID:GzDmzib1

>>1

> it wouldn't be exaggeration to say women develop rigid opinions on someone's character from the moment they've laid eyes on them.

Yes, that's completely true. But it's as true for men as it is for women. And it makes sense, because with the short time on this earth we all have it's impossible to get to know everyone as well as they know themselves. Like the rest of us, you'll just have to move on if a women is turned off because your socks don't match.

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