just wanna confirm? (10)

1 Name: confirmer : 2009-08-06 09:07 ID:QTurQpTF

its summer hol and GF went back home for vacation, promised to call everyday... but she would sometimes turned off her phone for 2 days with no other way of contacting, and next day she would simply give an sms saying "sorry ran out of batt yest". for two days? is this obviously a lie?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-08-06 09:25 ID:/NEESo9Q

Has she done anything in the past to agitate your trust? If so then she might be lying. Depending on how old you are, she probably could be cheating on you and doesn't want to answer the phone. Then again it all depends on how much trust you have in her.

TL;DR I don't trust people and I think she is lying.

3 Name: confirmer : 2009-08-06 11:51 ID:QTurQpTF

yeah i think she's cheating, but it just hurts so much...
shit getting depressed easily these days

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-08-06 19:27 ID:bI8R3S66

No one has to turn off their phone for two days in order to cheat.

How often are you calling/texting?
Everyday seems like alot, what do you have to talk about besides what you ate for lunch?
It's possible she feels 'smothered'.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-08-07 09:37 ID:/NEESo9Q

Whats good about posting about your problem is that you can get different opinions. It is possible she is cheating on you as #2 suggested but just as plausible as #4 suggested, that she feels smothered. You should let her do some of the calling, to weigh your relationship. Of course, one person in the relationship will always like the other than what can be returned from them. :)

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-08-07 12:12 ID:fee4gqJZ

I agree with >>4 about being smothered.

If she really wanted to keep in contact with you, she wouldn't have her phone off.

7 Name: confirmer : 2009-08-07 17:23 ID:TKY+QKcX

do these mean that u guys think she's lying then?

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-08-07 18:26 ID:gC5Icd5T

I'm going to say something to you, and I want you to try and evaluate it from the perspective of "that chill guy". You know, that guy that you should know that is extremely relaxed, gets along well with everyone, and is able to get into and hold relationships with ease? Here goes:

You are being possessive. If she has not cheated on you before, you have no reason to believe she is. She says her phone is out of batteries, and rather than being trusting and kind, you immediately jump to the conclusion that she is lying and/or cheating. What has happened to you to bring you this deep mistrust of your girlfriend? It is not healthy, nor is it correct, and if you keep on going this way, your relationship, absolutely will not last, and it will be your fault, at least partially, even if it's you that breaks up with her because of something that she did. Remember this.

I can personally say that I haven't charged my phone in over a week, and if someone wants to get in touch with me, they can bloody well send me an email or call my landline. And when my girlfriend says that she lost/didn't charge/dropped her phone after I haven't heard from her in almost a week, I completely believe her. And on that note, my girlfriend is away on vacation and we're not even calling each other, just writing each other letters, and it's okay, and I haven't cheated on her, and I have 100% confidence that she hasn't cheated on me.

Also, learn to use proper English. Are you older than 12? Then you shouldn't be typing the way you are.

Finally, as pointed out earlier, every day is just too much anyway, and you should let her call you some of the time. Also, don't you have a life? When all I had was a landline, I'd go days without actually receiving a call because I would be out from eight in the morning until past twelve at night. Even if your life revolves around her, have you considered that she has an entire life completely seperate from you, and sometimes she is just having too much fun with her life to answer her phone when you want her to, in an attempt to appease you?

9 Name: confirmer : 2009-08-07 19:30 ID:TKY+QKcX

dude no 8,

sorry i didnt finish reading ur post but u got it wrong,
ok firstly, im only asking if u guys think that her excuse was lame or not, coz i thought she might be lying or not, i dunno...

well she did cheated once and she admitted, at least she didnt lie then. but if now she lied too, then i guess thats it then

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-08-08 16:56 ID:ZW8UjmqI

If she's anything like I am it's probably not a lie, my phone is often uncharged for even a whole week (sometimes longer) when I'm busy or feeling especially lazy like during the holidays.

Also you sound kind of, I dunno, creepy? who needs to keep in constant contact? why would you need to speak every day? that sounds way too suffocating and any normal person wouldn't have a bar of it.I think you need to do some self-reflecting because this isn't really healthy and normal behaviour.

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