Just tell me your problems... (122)

37 Name: Oracle : 2009-09-18 21:31 ID:en48kh28

>Should I just contact her then to see how she's doing, pretend that nothing's wrong?

No. The girl you are interested in is shy, insecure, and with a compulsive need to be in control. She uses the phone, mail and internet to firewall herself against others. Insisting to use those means when she's blocking you will at best inconvenience her, or worse make her panic. Never leave more than one unanswered mail or voicemail. Better yet, realize that she's not using those channels in a normal way, so rely less on them.

The best approach with her is live contact. This is complicated by the fact that you don't live in the same town, and don't go to the same school as her. So you need to make sure to know about (or create) social events with common friends in which she will be present, so that you can meet her. You also need to find a good reason to go often to her town (move, work, join a sports club there), so that you can justify casual meetings with her (for instance to bring her a book you discussed about, etc). Be interested in her, but undemanding, not to scare her off. Only when she gets used to seeing you frequently, and you get familiar with her quirks, can you consider pushing things further. To sum it up, no live contact, no girl.

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