SOME people.. (10)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-01 21:22 ID:EprsSBPh

hello /love,

I'm not going into a lot of details, though, if you have questions, I'd be willing to answer them.

A few weeks ago I met a very nice girl. I spend all weekend with her, and started to develop " feelings" . anyways, I have a gf, and she was also spending the weekend happy along. (she noticed something was going on though XD )

I ended up confused, because I love my gf, but I realise I might not be " in love" with her anymore.. the tension is sort of gone. Though I dont want to lose her.

I decided to just see what happens when I get into contact with that other girl.

She added me on a network site like facebook, and I send her a message. She replied and I re-replied. after that it went silent. heard nothing from her for a week. and this is where I am now.

I have some intel that she read my message, but didn't replied. why? I don't know but it's kind of frustrating. Why would she only add me, and not my gf, while we spend the weekend with the 3 of us? It really, agitates me when people don't respond. and tbh, I just want to throw this off me =D
(knowing that whenever you post something on /love it's instant fail)

P.S. I notice my message was a bit longer than I anticipated. :3

thanks for your replies in advance ;-)

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-01 23:29 ID:aKWCb4b8

>It really, agitates me when people don't respond. and tbh, I just want to throw this off me =D

Just forget about it. One could speculate about the reasons, but it's pointless, there are far too many equally plausible possibilities. The bottom line is that she is not answering you.

More importantly, you should think about where you stand in relationship to your current girlfriend, because independently of the second chick, you have a serious problem there.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-02 09:26 ID:Sj9oAvmu

She is playing hard to get, i think.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-02 15:24 ID:EprsSBPh

ow hai!

Op here,
thanks for your answers!

>>2

I understand I'm having a problem here. It's just so confusing. I thought a lot about it already. and it feels like 50/50. (aka, I don;t know what to do T_T)

>>3

She might be. Though that tactic does not work for me. There are girls standing in line for me. maybe somethings wrong with my attitude towards playing "hard to get" since, when I think ppl do that, I normally never bother trying.

it feels forced if I send her another message and that's just not my style.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-03 03:48 ID:RWoVxT33

female here, if I don't respond to someone's communiqué, the only reason is that I simply don't care enough and it feels like a chore to talk to the person. Generally this happens within a few emails, phone calls or whatever and it isn't really that person's fault per say you might have had a good chat but in the harsh light of day, they just don't really interest you.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-05 14:55 ID:ZxWNaMWM

BALLS. OP here (my ID changes when I'm posting on campus or at home). Anyways, I worked on the project with her...and that was about it. I didn't really talk about anything, just kind of did the project the way I always do when I meet with someone to work on a project...fuck! She said we could meet again in a month or two to put finishes touches on it since we aren't presenting in a few months (it's actually a relatively easy project, ours is just due the latest).

Anyways, maybe I should sit next to her and greet her in my sociology classes, then talk to her as she walks to her next class to get to know her better, and eventually ask her out someplace? Chances are she won't be in any of my classes again next semester so I think I'm still going to try.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-05 14:56 ID:ZxWNaMWM

>>6

SORRY ABOUT THAT WRONG THREAD (is there a way to delete posts on this site?)

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-05 22:41 ID:Heaven

>>7
Not really but try the cleanup thread in /request/

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-08 06:08 ID:EprsSBPh

OP here,

>>6
lol,

I was like.. hey I didn't post that!

>>5

I do know we had a pretty fun time. I'm sure she had too.
but, like you said I do think she isn't interested.
for now I just give up on her.

so that's dealt with.

Now it does leaves me at a point whether or not break up with my gf.

anyone experienced "loving" someone else while in a (long) relationship?

10 Name: Subject No. 11 : 2009-10-15 00:46 ID:F4KIKhuu

(1st post was too long)

Changes- I'd like to be more affable, I suppose. I'm tired of people avoiding me, or hating me because I tell them that they treat me like shit. There are some physical things I'd like to change too, but it's hard to be one of the 'cute' girls when you're tall, very broad-shouldered, and muscular. :/ If I can't be more likable to people, I'd like to at least not care when I get rejected again and again. I'd really love to have that /one/ person where you can tell them everything, and don't have to worry about them getting upset at you.

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