So we're both in high school, and I've had this crush on this one guy for a year. (G1) and another guy friend (G2) was kind of helping me through it, and was being really nice, and even asked if I was interested in him, and I said no, because I wasn't at the time. I was also helping him with his crush, since his crush really doesn't like him back. :/ While on a trip last week together, me and G2 held hands, and I can't stop thinking about him. There the homecoming dance next week, but how do I let him know that I'm interested in him? It feels sudden, but I really can't get him out of my mind.
I have a feeling he likes you to, but that's just from my pov
casually bringing up the subject of who he likes is a good way to let him know. haha
Thanks. Though, I already know that he likes some other girl, but she's impossible for him, (him being a senior, and her a freshman, and she likes someone else)
This is very simple: he already asked if you were interested in him, and you refused him. So you can't expect any further initiative from him.
This leaves you with no other choice but to take the initiative yourself. So continue doing the hand holding stuff, and ask him to go with you for this homecoming dance.
Continue to make sure you have activities together alone with each other, and become more intimate. When you feel confortable, and preferably in not too long (next time you go out for instance, or the following one), say something like you enjoy his company, and so forth: push your relationship into increasing levels of intimacy, tell him that you enjoy spending time with him, and that you want more of it. For the finishing touch, kiss his lips when you tell your goodbyes. Next time you can ask whether he would be interested in going out with you, and your roles should become more balanced.
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I'd even tell you to be more straightforward.
Because of the fact that you have rejected him once, you acting this way could really unsettle him, he could think you are leading him on, etc. Guys aren't good at deciphering this stuff. I also think he might be into you, so find a way to spend a lot of time with him (ie a whole afternoon at the park alone with him or something), as soon as possible, and just tell him that since the last time he asked you things have evolved. Maybe say you wonder what would happen if he asked you now, or something like that. If he doesn't get the hint, ask him yourself. And if he says no, just say "okay, well, next time it's your turn to ask me again!" or something to joke it off.
Wow, thanks even more guys. I'll try my best the next time I see him.
Funny story, I actually spent most of the day with him today. We studied for four hours in the library, (also with the girl he kind of likes) and then he invited me back to his house. Being really happy, and maybe even having the chance to confess, I accepted. He ended up playing Halo for three hours, while I watched. What's worse is that he was talking with his friends on the Xbox live thing almost the entire time. :/ This really wasn't that exciting for me, but I'm glad that I could experience something that he really enjoys.
I'm not quite sure I'd be able to kiss him on the lips >//w//< but I'll definitely hint more of my feelings. 4ch has really given me a lot of confidence and what to do!
Eh, I don't know if you can tell right now, but that's pretty damn flaky there. Inviting you over, then ignoring you? Seems like he's not really be as considerate of you as he should be, even as a friend (!!).
Are you even sure if this guy's as great as you think he is? I've had a blind crush before; I thought she was the most amazing person ever. Only later did I find that there's almost nothing about her to like in the first place. Selfish, not so bright, you get the idea >.<
I did later find love, though, but that's a story for another day~
Anyways, before you even think about how to confess, you need to ask yourself if this boy is even worth your love in the first place. It can be damn hard to think objectively in the middle of a crush, but it's necessary.
Update - October 13th
Welll.... it was after practice, and I told him that I wanted to talk to him, so he walked over, and I couldn't speak for a few seconds, but then rushed out 'If you asked me to Homecoming, I would say yes... because I like you a lot'. Completely different from what I was planning to say, but I'm a terribly nervous person. :/
He kind of just looked at me, and said, 'Oh... okay' and I mumbled out that I was sorry and I was nervous. He said, 'Aw, come here' and gave me a hug, and told me not to be nervous. And then he had to leave. Soooo, I don't really know where we stand. I guess I'll see him tomorrow, and I hope it isn't awkward or the such.
>>8 congratulations OP, you were pretty brave there. Don't worry about feeling embarrassed or awkward, that's entirely normal. You opened yourself to the other and risked rejection, that's quite an uncomfortable and vulnerable position, so it's expected you'd be nervous.
Now he knows, you know that he knows, and he knows that you know that he knows. You can relax and let yourselves enjoy homecoming and whatever you decide to do together.
OP here again,
Thanks #9, it was pretty nerve-wracking.
I saw him again today, and it really wasn't different. To be honest, it was absolutely the exact same as before I confessed. I would be lying if I said that things wanted to stay the same, I wanted something to change, for better or worse, for him to at least acknowledge my feelings.
I guess it's officially rejection, since nothings happening, but I suppose we'll see how it plays out over the next week. Thanks 4-ch.
Thanks, I'll try to update it after homecoming.
Yeah, I HATE the way most girls have to 'hint' at their feelings, so instead of just asking him to homecoming, it felt more acceptable to say 'I'd say yes if you asked me'. I think it'd be better if it was either way for people asking others out. :/
I wouldn't say you were pretty brave. I would say you were REALLY brave. I'm a guy but it still quite a challenge for me to confess Orz
I don't think he's clear on what you meant. After being friends for ages when someone tells them they like the other or even arranges to go to homecoming, it is pretty ambiguous as to what they mean, friends do it all the time, so he might have taken it as an especially awkward confession of close friendship.
OP here again.
>13, thanks.
>14, I didn't think about it like that, huh. I guess I really should have screamed out 'I REALLY LIKE YOU AND I SHOULD BE YOUR GIRLFRIEND AND WE SHOULD GO TO THE DANCE TOGETHER' leaving nothing for imagination. :/ But I didn't.
I haven't really spoken to him since then. I went to the dance.... alone. He wasn't there, and ended up spending the night at a friends house. If that isn't a sign to his feelings towards me, I'm not sure exactly what is.
Sorry, didn't know that one of the v's would make it green quoting.
first of all thank you very for suggests. i don't really know her that well because she is a grade higher than i am and we don't have chances to speak often. i only see her in break time but then i still don't have a change to speak to her because she is always res surrounded by her friends and like i said i never ask a girl out before so i won't know what to say( i am clueless about girls) they make think i am weird or something. i only know she is great artist because i saw her picture around school