Time Waits For No One (10)

1 Name: Geek : 2009-10-25 02:07 ID:eFUGn46u

There's this guy at my school, he's graduating this year. His last day at school is next Wednesday and the graduation ceremony is on the Thursday. I'm the year below and he caught my eye around April-June, but that was it, he just caught my eye. He wears a hat to school so he stands out a bit xD
Gradually throughout the year I started to notice him more and look out for him when walking to class etc. and then I even felt a bit down when I didn't see him. My good male friend who used to come to my school found out about what I thought of him and added him on Facebook. He accepted. Then he encouraged me endlessly to add him, I did, and he accepted. He commented on one of my statuses relating to the kind of video games I play and replied saying that he liked my choice of video games. We continued to talk on Facebook along with my good male friend for about 2 weeks and the guy in question eventually asked me for my msn. After this I was hassled constantly by my close male friend to meet him IRL in school (the guy knows I go there too). I just met him and his friends IRL mid last week where he sits during break and we got along well, he also shifted over on the wall he was sitting on so I could sit next to him the second break that day. After school that day we talked on msn a bit and he asked me whether I was going to where he sits the next day and I said that I was. I met him again and he was on his way to the canteen and so asked me to walk there with him, after this we sat back down and he was playing around with his iPhone and then lifted it up, and took a photo. I had no idea what he was doing and ended up going UHESIHRAUIEFHA-like. We have the same interests such as video games and computers. He' leaving next Wednesday though which is the problem. He's known me for a short time and I don't think anything can happen if I just leave things as it is. He has his major exams starting November and it lasts for around 3 weeks. So the best course of action that has been deduced by my friends and I is to confess shoujo manga style on his last day with a confession letter saying "I like you. Please go out with me."

Opinions on what to do please.

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-25 05:59 ID:6hr1Im8W

I think todays youth uses "messaging" too much. You don't need letters, msn, facebook or any of that to tell someone you like him. I suggest you meet him tomorrow and tell him how you feel.

If he's smart, he's going to tell you he likes you as well and then everything will be fine. If he's an idiot, he'll act awkwardly, likely because he doesn't know what to do; maybe you should kiss him to encourage him, or just let him be, and nothing will happen between the two of you. Whatever happens, you shouldn't feel bad/sorry about it, because it's perfectly normal.

All I'm really saying is go for it. It's the best kind of advice.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-25 13:56 ID:xJ2fn8H7

I enjoyed reading OP's post, it was pretty educational (what the heck is UHESIHRAUIEFHA?). Contrary to >>2 I find the use of technological paraphernalia in courtship quite cute, but at the end of the day it's just the same old process taking place, you display as many signals of common culture and interests between the concerned parties as to foster the feeling of bonding. Flowers, poems, CDs, computer games, etc are just variations in color, the process remains the same since the stone age.

As for what to do, I agree with >>2: You don't have the time to go around exchanging messages, and besides it would be a pity to not be there when you are confessing, don't you think? Because of circumstances, you don't have the leisure to hesitate or dawdle, just go for it.

4 Name: Geek : 2009-10-26 04:12 ID:5aGfJBp9

I would like to reply to >>3's post (I'm sorry, this is my first time using this so I do not know how to link, etc.). I'm happy my post has been of some use to you and I hope it can be used for others facing the same problem (:
May I ask as to how it was educational though? I don't see why it is xD

I had originally thought of confessing via letter but now I think I will do it face to face. I think it will also be somewhat less awkward this way. I appreciate your help greatly so far and your willingness to help.

Also UHESIHRAUIEFHA is just me using random capitals to signify me freaking out, so don't mind it xD

I'll either be doing the deed later today at lunch or tomorrow. However I'd like to ask whether I should give him overnight to reply? Do people normally need time to think? Or can something like this be answered relatively quickly?

This is my first time doing/feeling anything like this so I am struggling a bit with nervousness.

5 Name: Geek : 2009-10-26 12:00 ID:wuo3bMa9

I have successfully confessed today during break :D
The response was a positive one and he said that even if I didn't confess today he would've asked me out tomorrow or on his last day, so I am very pleased indeed (:

I confessed face to face and asked him to accompany me somewhere so I had time to tell him while walking. I found this method to work quite well, just if people wondered.
He continued to fuel the conversation after, probably to make me feel better I think and the feeling was quite comfortable rather quick. And then at the end of break he opened his arms up for a hug, which I find very sweet because he has never hugged me before so I see this as a sure sign that we are dating now.

I'd like to thank the people who replied for their help which gave me the courage to confess and I hope this can be used by others who are facing a similar problem and my best wishes that you can have a happy ending (:

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-26 13:39 ID:Hngb4Z/y

Argh i'm so jealous! Lol, but congratulations. Man, girls nowadays always do the confession but why not mine?(Even though she is interested in me!)

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-26 14:19 ID:xJ2fn8H7

>May I ask as to how it was educational though?

It was educational for me because I don't use Facebook nor msn, so it's interesting to see how these impact on socialization in general, and in flirting in particular.

In any case, congratulations for your success, and enjoy your nascent romance! As usual, things happen when people make them happen.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-26 17:46 ID:Ee9cCNxo

Awe hearing this story made me feel all warm inside. I hope it all goes good for you two.

9 Name: Geek : 2009-10-28 09:02 ID:uVbdX4l+

Thank you very much (:
He's been very affectionate since I've confessed and puts his arms around me during break all the time x]
His last day at my school was today, not including the graduation ceremony tomorrow. I hope we can continue to progress and once again thanks for the encouragement and help. :D

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-31 07:15 ID:9oceYHdb

I'm so happy for you! I wish you both the best!

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