I found this forum just recently and became a lurker. I am sorry if this is in the wrong section ^^;
Anyways, I like this guy for almost 4-5 years now (back during high school-- grade 10 to be exact). We never met nor talked to each other. I think the first time I ever saw him was in our high school's cafeteria. After that, I just kept seeing him a lot around the school until I became curious of him. I remember one night, I found my grade 9 year book and I was flipping through pages and I saw his picture and got his name. So I did my homework and found out he was a year older than me. I guess you can say he was somewhat part of the "cool kids" and was involved playing basketball. I kept watching him from a far (no I was not following him but when I would see him in the cafeteria, I would just watch him until he leaves). During his last year in our high school, there was a last basketball game and he was playing. I didn't go for some reason and I still regret it now.
So years go by and he graduated. During my senior year, I felt lonely and I would always tell my friends that I long to see him-- even for a second. That actually came true during the last month of my senior year. He came over to visit my school (and I'm guessing to play basketball at our school court because it was a nice day and he wore basketball clothes?). I remember how happy I was when I first saw him. I saw him with his twin talking to my middle school friend and when I was about to say hi to my friend (attempted to meet him that moment), my crush left before I even got to say hi. I didn't know that it will be the last time I'll see him.
I thought of giving him up a lot until one day I said to do it but I realized it was harder than I thought.
One day, I was on the train, I told myself to give him up and so I did. That day, I remember coming a cross a court of people playing basketball which made me remember him more. That same night when I watched Ugly betty, I heard his name a lot and I thought of him more. I realized that everything around me starting to remind him of what I knew of him (basketball for example).
A year went by, my part time work got very demanding and I started thinking of him less. While I was going to attend my 9:30 morning class, I remember I was running late and I started to walk really fast until I walked passed a parked white van and I thought I saw a glimpse of him through the windshield (and I was sure he was looking at me when I saw him). I ignored it saying to myself that I was hallucinating but later on, it began to bother me. 2 months ago, while I was working during a busy summer day, I saw him walking pass my store and I remember running out of my store and when I try to see glimpse of him, I saw his back until he was lost in the crowd.
When facebook became a hit, I thought for fun I would look him up and so I did. I found him but he disabled his account (for about 2 years until recently) couple of weeks later when I saw it. I feel like it's time for me to move on but I can't move on when I feel like this. Recently I thought of sending him a random message on facebook (using a mule facebook account-- I don't have the courage to tell him on my original account) telling him that I like him but I'm so indecisive that I turned to my two best friends. One said "don't do it, it's too creepy" and the other said "go for it". I know it would be creepy probably at his point of view but to me, I feel like it's the only way for me to move on. I guess I'm curious to hear what his answer would be (well if he ever replied back) but still, I'm kind of confusing.
so my question is: should I do it? Should I confess to him on facebook? (since that's the only way I CAN talk to him after all).
I really need advices. I know you guys might read this and find it very silly but your input about this is very important to me. I'm willing to listen to anything you guys have to say before I make my decision.
(part two)
I know that I'm probably disturbing someone and I'm not that kind of person to bring trouble to others but this time, I feel like I should do something about it--- for myself (I might sound selfish, I know). I thought of the results if I ever do it (good and bad). But still, I'm not quite sure if it's going to be the "right" decision.
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It's funny how people around us are so connected but we never had the chance to meet. I'm actually active in this other forum where I came across this guy who happened to go to my high school (small world). We talked a lot and I found out that he is a friend of my crush. However, we don't talk that much anymore. My crush actually has a twin. His twin was a friend of my friends (my crush's twin's friend is a coworker of my friends and through that, they are I guess acquaintances). I didn't have the nerve to force them to meet his twin-- I always thought it was weird. My high school best friend actually sees my crush now and then on the bus (she lives somewhat far from me). She would text me whenever she sees him and I remember how happy I would get.
You aren't crushing on him, you are crushing on the idea of him, an idealized view of what you think he is like rather than anything based on reality. You need to move on because you are effectively crushing on a figment of your imagination and this is unhealthy because it's preventing you from moving into a real relationship. I'm telling you this as someone who had suffered from a similar obsessive crush-from-afar type deal, though I did meet her and talk to her once and spent time in her company though silently, even though I am mostly over it I still think about her in weak moments, which is too often still really.
My advice tell your friends to never to mention him again to you, and do your best to put him out of your thoughts entirely. Think about meeting new people and getting to know them and maybe even dating.
If you really have to do something for yourself address a letter to some non-existent person and non-existent place and bare your soul, mail it, and move on. As a plus someone may eventually read it and get a laugh out of it.
Yep, this guy's right. You're merely projecting your fantasy upon his image. You're not seeing clearly here. Really, what do you even know about him that made you fall for him? His personality? His heart? No, all you know about him is how he looks, the rest is all your imagination filling the blanks.
I know it's hard to come to terms with this, as I've had such a blind crush myself, so I know how you feel; But you really need to start thinking objectively about this. If you don't, then you'll not only be more disappointed later, but it might get in the way of you finding someone that really does matter.
Hm, come to think of it, were I still blindly crushing on that one girl, I might never have fell for my true love...
Ouch, scary.
Thank you both for what you have said. I realized my silly-ness in this and I feel embarrassed to even posted this at all. I decided I wouldn't. I'll just force myself to move on somehow. Thank you both again.
>>5 You don't need to apologize or even feel embarrassed about it.
I personally think you should give it a try. Sure, your affectation for him is not based on anything of his character, but it's a powerful feeling you have inside of you, and it would be a waste not to act upon it, not to mention that if you leave it as it is, it will continue to block your life. And who knows, perhaps the guy is awesome for you, and it even clicks together?
If I were you, I would just write him a letter (using your very own facebook profile, mail or whatever, don't use a fake account), in which you explain to him that you have been crushing very hard on him (you can tell the whole story as you posted it here), and that you would like to invite him to meet at least once. Tell him that even if he has a girlfriend, or is not in the least interested, you would still like to meet once to talk a bit, reminisce of old times, and bring closure.
You have nothing to be ashamed, on the contrary. It's a pity that you did not act before on your feelings, but as they say, better late than never.
>>6
Eh...reality doesn't work like that, unfortunately.
But meh, you don't have much to lose by confessing anyway, since you don't even know the guy. Do whatever it takes to get it out of your system. Just keep in mind, though, that this very likely won't work out.
Oh, one more thing. Even if, for whatever bizarre reason, he actually accepts your confession and you start going out, there's still a damn good chance that you aren't even a good match in the first place. Sure, you might have strong feelings now, but that initial passion is all that there is to your love, and it's practically worthless in the long term.
What I'm trying to say is this: Blind crushes almost always fail (as in 99% failure rate). Either the other person won't share the feelings, or you won't even have enough in common, or your personalities will be too different, or their heart is nothing like you expected, etc. Really, you should know someone damn well before you commit your heart to them; But, of course, love tends to completely destroy one's logical thinking.
Oops. Yeah...I tend to ramble on forever about love, life, and whatnot. I'll stop now >.<
>Eh...reality doesn't work like that, unfortunately.
Reality works in more ways than you think, fortunately.
>Blind crushes almost always fail (as in 99% failure rate).
Most love relationships fail, anyway... As for me, there was a girl who had a crush for me, and I'm married to her, so your mileage may vary.
It's possible that it may fail, it might be even probable, but it still does not cost anything to try it. On the contrary, she already suffered enough by not trying.
>>8
Yeah, that's why I agree she should just go ahead with confessing, if she must. It'll probably fail, but it's also probably the best way to get it over with.
Really, I do believe life-long love isn't all too unlikely, so long as both involved are kind, good-hearted people. If that's the case, and they do their best to make the relationship work, it's damn near impossible for it to fail, even if they're not the best match; though you should still try to find someone you're already quite compatible with, of course, being that love is about finding that someone that makes you happier than anyone else could...
...but now I'm rambling again and getting a bit irrelevant. I kinda do that a lot. Gah.
you sound like a faggot.
good luck getting pussy with that attitude/
how bout you move out of your moms basement.
how old are you anyway. 45? balding? wearing a dirty wifebeater for the last 6 weeks? sound familiar?
take the hint man take the hint
Heh, anyone who refers to sex as "getting pussy" already fails at life. Furthermore, it's rather pathetic to troll a board called /love/ for being romantic. Learn to "take the hint, man"
The bear: (for the asshole who wrote reply 10).
I'm sorry, I have no time for a loser like you. No, I'm actually not that old-- half of that age thank you very much. I actually have a wonderful life outside of the internet unlike you, someone who has way too much time in his hands and can't even make a simple, decent reply. I'm fine with you calling me names etc but I'm not the one who looks pathetic right now.
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Thank you all of you guys (I'm not sure if there are more than 1 person who posted with "Mr. Write" and "Secret Admirer"). I am still unsure about the whole confession (even though I spend time thinking about it when I have the chance). If I do this, I don't know what to say to him (I never confessed to a person before nor wrote a love letter to them). It's usually the guys that confess to me first or give me love letters. I'm not experienced in relationships.
I have thought of the good and bad sides of this a lot. I lack the confidence to confess to him using my facebook account because if I ever see him after he rejected me, I don't want him to suddenly label me as the "weird, creepy girl" (though I will probably be like that girl if I confess to him)
I don't know why I hang onto a guy like him. Maybe I don't "like" him at all-- maybe I'm just very "curious" of him. I know that our personalities and perhaps our interests are very different. Perhaps it is that reason why I am attracted to him in the first place.
I guess with time passing by so quickly I realized that it's time to move on and forget about this forever (maybe there is that amazing guy out there-- perhaps he is in front of me now but I don't see him because I'm still hanging on to my high school crush). However, I'm not 100% sure if I can do this because of my pride or if I'm fully ready to erase him in my life.
Thank you all of you guys for having the time to read my story and reply to me. I'm the type of person who usually bury this type of things to myself and don't let people know about it because I feel shameful and embarrassed to burden others with my problems ^^;
>I'm not sure if there are more than 1 person who posted with "Mr. Write" and "Secret Admirer"
'Secret Admirer' is the default name, same as 'Anonymous' you can see which individuals posted based on the ID but this changes IP addresses. 'Heaven' in ID means they saged.
>changes IP addresses.
changes between
Well I'm still unsure about this whole confession thing. One of my best friend was telling me no don't do it while my other best friend was telling to go for it.
So I need a guy's opinion:
If a girl confess to you on facebook (you have never talked to her before), how would you react? How will you deal with a situation?(Please be honest--- I just want to see what a guy things about this whole situation).
It entirely depends on how attractive she is. So chose the best damn profile picture you can (no cheating, no angles). Use your picture, use your own account. Otherwise I'd be assuming the worst. (This girl must have something to hide.. like she's a three hundred pound, acne-scarred single mother on welfare and collecting child support from her ex-boyfriend who's prone to extreme jealousy and violent mood swings.)
If he turns you down, it's not the end of the world.
The worst thing I would possible do is ignore the message and I wouldn't act weird in person.
Either way best not to open with something like that if you can help it.
Just tell him what you tell us in >>1. If he din't appreciate what you went through then just ask him to f off, not worth it.
Give him a present and see his reaction? If his face have a BIG smile then it definitely a good sign.
>>If a girl confess to you on facebook (you have never talked to her before), how would you react?
Well, first off, have you friended him on your original account? That's critical; if he agrees, then you might be able to assume that he at least remembers who you are. (I know I only accept friend requests from people I remember or currently know, but I'm willing to consider that I'm perhaps an exception.)
If I got a confession out of the blue from an account I've never heard of before, I'd be inclined to write it off as spam of some sort and ignore it. Even if it was from an account I recognize, or even from an account I've friended, I'd admittedly be suspicious that it might be the result of some hacker that turned the account into a spam-bot. There's a lot of miscreants out there who prey on human loneliness, and you never can be too careful.
In the end, I don't think an unsolicited Facebook message is probably a really great way to jump-start a relationship. Better, I think, to find some way to get yourself properly introduced to him through a friend of a friend, or somesuch. Trust is paramount, these days -- or, at least, it is to me.
It is creepy. And if you use a mule account, he'll probably think it's someone playing a prank, and not take you seriously at all. If you're willing to risk it, and you honestly think he's a decent guy, then I'd use my real account.
You're right with that. Usually, my boy friends, would really like to know if the girl really likes them. They wanted to make sure that he exist. My boy friends do not usually go into relationship in just one account of a person. Moreover, they would like to know more about the girl who likes them ^-^
Hello everyone. Thank you for all your responses.
I was going to confess to him on Christmas Eve but I decided not too. I might have sounded like a coward but I think that's the best I can do for myself.
After long thinking, I have decided today that it's time to let him go. I realized how hard it has been for me especially today when it's his birthday (I found out recently when I was looking for something else-- I guess that's what you call "serendipity"?). I have hung onto him for so long because I hoped that maybe we'll be able to meet someday. I know now that it wouldn't happen and that it's not meant to be. I'll leave him as a special memory in my heart during my high school days because that is where he belongs.
I know it will be hard but I'm determined to move on. I gotta say, he proved me wrong. I always told myself that I'll never cry about a guy but I did that a lot with him. Probably down in the future, I'll be looking at this laughing at how funny I was acting but still, I'll remember all the wonderful things that I have done during high school and him.
A new year and I'm closing this chapter in my life. I'm quite relieve yet sad. It's a weird feeling.
So...... I did try to forget about him but I realized that it's so hard. When I don't want to think about him, I start thinking about him more. I hear his name a lot. I even saw a tv show when both our names were the lead (coincidence.. but the story didn't end so well). When I see couples everywhere, I can't help but wonder, "what will happen if that was us?" My best friends are getting mad at me for still wishing but I feel like I can't stop it. I try to occupy myself with a lot of things but it's not working at all.
I know this is not healthy anymore but I don't know what I should do. Advices?
Sigh...
Go talk to him, find that he's nothing like you thought he was, and move on with your life.
Exactly. He's become the man of your dreams because you haven't even attempted to prove otherwise. All you've done is idolized him from afar, and it's snowballed into an obsession that will only continue to haunt your mind until you get up the nerve to find out who he really is, and show yourself he's not as amazing a guy as you make him out to be.
I know your feelings are strong, but it seems that we're failing to take on a realistic approach here.
You don't need to go all radical and erase him from your mind. Neither do you need to go berserk and confess your hidden love all of sudden.
For goodness' sake, just connect to him on Facebook; you've already got the "Hi, we went to the same school some time ago, how you doing?" excuse.
MUCH better than going "Hi, we went to the same school and I love you".
If he's receptive, then it's already a good start. Good luck.
Hi, it's me again. So about this whole thing.. I finally confessed to him today (I know it took a long time) but it's more like saying goodbye instead of asking him out.
I realized I don't want to hold onto him anymore and I thought me sending him a message about my feelings will help me find that closure I need. I was really scared of sending it to him (it took me forever to press "send") because I feel like I am bothering him but I realized I'm doing this for my sake. If I don't do this, I don't think I can keep going on hoping for some silly fantasy to come true (when I know deep down it will not) and miss the opportunities around me.
I honestly don't know what he will say. I am ready to hear his rejection and I am not expecting anything else. Sending him the message was scary but thinking of what he will say scares me even more.
at last ^^
An update:
Well it's been 2 weeks now and he still hasn't replied back so I'm guessing it's his way of showing rejection.. It kind of hurts though. I thought he was the type of person that will actually reply back and now I feel like I wasted liking someone like him for 4-5 years of my life.
You may be right, but you're very brave for putting yourself out there like that.
Thank you. I'm proud of myself for being that brave too. Deep down though, I wish that he would still reply so that I can finally put this behind me. I'm already moving on slowly even with or without his reply as a closure. I really don't want to leave that beautiful memory as him being a jerk though and having to feel like a waste. I guess that's pretty much the reason why I really need that reply from him.
After a week I sent that to him, I met a guy at a friend's party. He contacted me 3 days after the party and we started to talk a lot. I started to feel like there was something there but I was unsure if it's truly sincere or not. He asked me last night if we want to make it official but I refused because I feel like I'm not ready to be with someone right now. I feel guilty for both of them and just need some time to think and sort my feelings out. I requested to be friends first and see what happens then. If the feelings are still there after we become friends then I'm willing to give him a shot..
Was that a wrong move in my part? To be honest, I felt really happy for the first time because such things never happened to me (most likely because I reject almost all the guys in the past except him). For some reason, he was different from the other guys that I have rejected and he is someone that I'm willing to give a chance too. There were times during his txt msgs that makes me smile and most of the time speechless. I'm not sure what I feel about him though....
How telling him you want to know him more? You don't have to rush into a relationship...how long have you been talking to him?
Well the second time we met was at my friend's birthday around the 11th. Since then we have been texting each other and calling each other too. I don't know.. I still feel like I'm waiting for that response from the other guy-- I know.. he might never reply back but a part of me is still willing to wait (like what I have always been doing for the past 4-5 years)
I don't know if I understand the full story or not, and I don't want to offend you, but I don't think you can really expect much else from this guy.
As I understand it, you've barely said a word to him before, and now you've sent him a message saying you love him. If someone I barely knew suddenly came up and sent something similar, I'd probably be creeped out.
I understand what you are saying. If someone did that to me, it would be really creepy but then I will reply back (maybe get a little curious). I guess it depends on the people. He just wasn't what I thought he would be.
Anyways.... I ditched the other guy. He became really clingy and annoying lol. But it's not only that, I realized I became too guilty while flirting with him-- maybe cause it was so sudden and I wasn't really over the first guy? I had a dream about both and it gave me a wake-up call because it's exactly what my heart was saying but I didn't want to listen because I was still hoping... Now I'm not. I stopped dreaming. I stopped looking for the best thing to happen. I stopped waiting.
As for this one, I'm trying to move on. It's been 2 months and I'm trying really hard. It's just annoying when you hear his name so often.
I realized maybe love isn't just for me anymore. I found other things that kept me occupied. I've been thinking about a lot of things lately-- mostly about getting an arranged marriage. I'm leaning towards that now since I don't believe in love anymore. Maybe it may change in the future but I doubt it. Love isn't just meant for me.
> getting an arranged marriage. I'm leaning towards that now since I don't believe in love anymore.
lol
>>36
Silly girl, don't let one fruitless crush disillusion love entirely for you. Go and read the thread I recently made, "Love Defined". That should help you understand these matters a bit more.
I think I didn't make myself clear.
The reason why I brought up the arranged marriage because I realized I'm too picky with the guys around me. Like any other girls out there, I would want to get married too in the future but I don't think I can. The rate I'm going right now seems like I can never find someone to love before getting marriage. I guess I kind of stopped looking now. I don't really care about love anymore. I don't think it was such a big deal to me now compared to the me before.
I just don't want to bring this topic right now to my parents because I'm still so young. I guess maybe in the future my views will change but for now, it's that. My parents married because of love and I don't know how they will handle me suggesting for an arranged marriage lol. (Honestly the old me would probably never see this as a choice).
To Mr. Write, I love your love defined thread. It's very interesting. No I'm not blaming him for just not caring about love anymore. I guess after this whole rejection, it just kind of gave me a slap in the face that sometimes reality and what you see in movies or fantasy is not always the same. As for now, love is meaningless to me anymore. I found other things that are much more important to me.
I just feel that love is just not meant for me right now.
Sigh...you've much to learn, kiddo. Let's take it one at a time.
First of all, what the fuck is more important than love? What can one seriously value more than people?
Second, there's no damn point to living the rest of your life with someone you don't care about. This isn't like getting a job; it's not at all necessary to do this. You're better off not marrying at all at that point.
Or perhaps, somehow, you still don't understand what love is. You do realize by now that to love, is to care for any individual, not just the person one decides to marry and such, right? You cannot be human, and realistically say that love is "not for you". Everyone needs love to live a happy life. Anyone who believes otherwise is a fool, and knows not what they are missing.
Hence, "Live to love".
You said yourself love is not like the movies; it's not glittery and glamorous and it doesn't happen in an instant of time, you won't know if you'll love somebody until you actually talk to them, get to know them, understand them, and eventually feelings will (or will not) grow.
I definitely understand you when you say that love is just not for you right now, but the key words here are -right now-. You don't need to go looking for love like it's buried treasure, it'll happen when it happens; it's just best not to worry about it and make it your lifelong goal to find it, because it'll be that harder when you don't. As well though, don't restrict yourself in saying you'll never find love and it's just not for you; be open to the possibility, and understand that it'll happen eventually -- you've just gotta find that certain person.
---> Mr. Write:
What's more important than love? Life-- Learning how to live independently and searching for happiness even without having that special person beside you (being independent). Love (as in loving that special person) is not as important to me right now. But if the love you are talking about is the love I feel for my family and friends then yes, that is very important to me.
You said it yourself. Love is caring deeply about someone else. Sure arranged marriages don't care for one another at first but who to say that they won't develop special feelings along the way? If love is such a big thing in a marriage, why do people who love each other at first divorce? If people in marriages love each other so much, why do some commit adultery? Marriage is not all about love, it’s about other things too like communication and trust. I'm not an expert on marriages but that is what my mother told me.
Yes, I don't know much about love (like deeply caring for someone else than family and friends) but love itself is a mystery. One can’t say that they know love fully well because no one doesn’t. Maybe it’s just something us humans embedded our minds to make our emptiness go away.. who really knows. Some people will live to love (like yourself) and others like me who will live to find happiness within ourselves and without relying on someone else.
--> Secret Admirer:
I really don't want to look for love right now. The more I tried to find, the more it's disappointing so in the end, I give up. I think what I need right now is not love but trying to find the things that make me happy and make me feel whole as a person.
---> One question: I'm really having a hard time moving on. I will tell you why. So during this semester in school, I met a guy who has the same name as the guy I liked (he is in all my classes and I see him everyday). Surprisingly, he is the same mixed race as the guy too, have a funky last name, have a little brother (oh man I didn't ask him the name of his brother--- it would be scary if it was the same name as his' brother too) and loves to snowboard-- all that surprisingly similar to the guy I liked. I don't know if this really a scary coincidence or this is saying something because I honestly don't get it. I'm already annoyed hearing his name and friends introducing other people to me who have the same name as him. I consider myself very unlucky. Why is his name so common?
Sigh, I'm not repeating myself anymore. You're on your own, kiddo.
Guess you're just unlucky. But seriously, forget what you think you know about love, because it's only going to restrict you. Also, I specifically said not to -look- for love; you seem to be hooked on doing this, no matter how much you are denying it here. Really, the more you deny something redundantly, the more it seems like you actually want it.
Anyways, your case of "love isn't for me and I'll never fall into its trap" happens to everybody, and you'll get over it eventually -- mainly when love bites you in the ass.
So just a little update from me..
Okay so I haven't heard from him about it but now I don't really care. I think back, I honestly don't know why I did such a thing in the first place lol. It's so unsual for me to do something as silly as that. I guess you can say I started to forget about him little every day. Hearing his name now doesn't bother me as much as before. Honestly I really thought I forgot about him..
Until today.
I was on the train going to this station where I always get off at (coming from work to go home). I was in the lineup waiting to get on the bus. I was looking for a seat to sit because it was a pretty long ride to get home. I saw this empty seat and I walked toward it. As I sat down, I had a glimpse of the person beside it-- and guess who it was? It was him. At first I didn't know if it was him as I sat down so I would lean forward to get a better look (he was wearing a hoodie that's why I couldn't see his face). As I leaned forward, I knew it was him and I sat there smiling to my friend and texting my best friends about it lol. When he got off the bus, I look to see if it was indeed him and it was.
To be honest, not in a million years did I ever thought this will happen. I haven't seen him for nearly 5 years and by the time I was trying to forget, he comes popping out of nowhere.
I don't want to try to read more into this but right now, I guess I was happy? As I walked to bus from the station, I actually thought: "what will happen if I see him now? Nah, that won't happen" lol
Aww.. that's kinda romantic in your own way.
Well you should have said "Hi" or something to him. You could have told him that you were in the same school and you saw him playing basketball before, etc.
Why don't you make a bet with yourself now. If you see him again anytime soon, it means TALK to him. If not, then it means move on.
P.S. You know you could also look him up again, this time he might be online. =)
Honestly I'm a very shy girl. I don't talk unless someone started to talk to me first. I'm kind of glad he didn't recognize me after sending him that letter on facebok (which I regret sending now lol).
I did try to look at him before (few months ago) but I can't see his facebook anymore. I guess he blocked me?
I'm trying not to think more than what it should be-- to me I'm just treating it as a coincidence lol. The second time I'm seeing him, it will just be another coincidence. I don't want to think more of this because I'm going to start fantasizing again (which I'm totally sick of doing). I guess I'll probably will be seeing him more in the future (just happened I moved to a new city and he was just living nearby?) I mean I knew he takes that bus way back (because my friend would text me about seeing him on the bus). But I never thought I would actually see him-- let alone sit beside him on the bus.. lol..
What a day. I guess interesting things happen when you are tired and you got caught off guard lol
Maybe he just deleted his facebook. Or maybe if he really did blocked you, maybe it was he didn't know who you are ~_~.
If you really REALLY see him again. Seriously, TALK to him.
Maybe... never really know
Well to my surprise, he was on the bus again.. There was one person sitting between us. I can't really talk to him because right now I can't speak (my throat and tongue are really swollen to the point when I open my mouth, it literally hurts to talk and even eat).
Oh well lol.. maybe it's just not meant to be haha
Okay so last night, I met him again at a different station (where I work at). It was so random and he popped out of no where lol.
What do I do? Should I talk to him or should I just leave him alone? I don't think he remembers me.. the girl who gave him the most random msg on facebook.. not sure if that's a good or bad thing.
Ciel, you have an infatuation to this guy who doesn't know who you are. I'm not trying to say that to break your heart as if there's no chance in the world, but that he doesn't know that there is a girl like you, who think about talking to him constantly and continue to run into him but is too shy to initiate a conversation. You say "the girl who gave him the most random msg on fb" but he has no way of really knowing that yet, does he? You say in your OP that you used a anon account or something?
Shyness is a syndrome developed over time from comfort. It is a cocoon to be broken out of. It in no way defines part of who you are. You need to contact this guy. Somehow, talk to him. The best way would probably be to do what Thistle said, and just casually introduce yourself as a graduate from the same high school. It's not unusual for you to recognize him if he was a good member of the sports team, so he won't feel weirded out (for lack of a better term) if you mention that's how you got to recognize him around the school. Try not to mention the fact that you constantly run into him, because that might bring up the elephant-in-the-room: "why didn't you talk to me earlier?".
Just go for it.
If you feel like you could never in a million years talk to him just like that, send him a message, on a social site where his profile picture is clearly visible, and mention your connection to him from HS. Be friendly but brief, and end with a good question he won't have to think hard to answer, so he has the option of continuing the conversation.
GOOD LUCK<3
Here's hoping
hey umm ikno u problably dont care to talk to me
Hi, it's me again.
It's been a long time since I updated my story here..
For the past year or so, I bumped into him a lot after work and even my days off. Unfortunately, I still haven't had the courage to talk to him and I think.. this way is good for everyone-- for myself especially. I've graduated from University 3 weeks ago and I heard that he too graduated last week with Civil Engineering degree.
I haven't seen him for about 2 months now. I think this is good because I can really try to forget about him now-- this silly one-sided crush. I've lost 6 years of life for dreaming and wishing for something that would never happen. Now.. I'm tired of the situation I put myself in. In those 6 years, I closed myself up from potential guys because I believed in an illusion. Now, I want to live. I want to fall in love for real. I want to be loved. I don't want to wait anymore. I want to feel this "love" that people talk about.
It will hard at first but I think I'll be okay. I'm strong after all. Thanks for everyone that tried to help me!
Well, you tried at least. Time to move on. Thanks for the update though, and good luck with the next round!
Good luck with the future, Cielle!
I know how painful a one sided love can be. They're hard to get over. Once you manage to do so, however, you'll become much happier.