Religion and Relationships (8)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-01-09 06:50 ID:447RsNNK

Would you get into a serious relationship of someone of a different religion? Or one that you don't see eye to eye with?

I'm a free thinker (the closest I religion I align myself with is The Force from Star Wars) and when I got together with my girlfriend she was a lapsed Christian which was okay by me.

Now one of her friends is drawing her back to church going and all that which makes me kinda uneasy.

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-01-09 07:12 ID:Xa5PZndg

It's hard to give advice about this. It really depends on your and her personality, but I'll try since you asked.

If she starts doing things that offend you and make you feel bad, then maybe the relationship isn't worth pursuing any further, but otherwise I don't see why it would be a problem.

So, basically, just go with it for now and see how things turn out.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-01-11 03:43 ID:Heaven

I wouldn't pursue a serious relationship with a 'proper' christian because they suddenly decide that you must be equally yoked and the children raised in the religion.

If you ever feel pressure to attend church or convert then run for the hills ma boy.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-01-25 13:07 ID:dtLCsnmb

My girlfriend was a really devout christian when I met her, she told me that the number one most important thing she looks for in a guy is that he is also a devout christian. After a few months I started winning her over though, but she still told me that if I wanted to be with her, I would have to start reading the bible and attending church. Now we've been together for almost a year and I've never been to church, nor have I read a page from the bible and she goes to church less and less herself. She stopped asking me to go and she hasn't even mentioned me going to church in months. However, I'm always scared she might start becoming really spiritual again, but i have heard from others that they were able to change a girls mind about religion. One of my friends said his girlfriend told him "I love you more than god."

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-01-26 06:28 ID:L27yxlPt

>>4

>I'm always scared she might start becoming really spiritual again
>able to change a girls mind about religion

This is scary to me. I don't think you should view a relationship through the lens of trying to convert or de-convert the other person. If their religion or lack thereof is a threat to you, you shouldn't be dating them.

6 Name: Otakun : 2010-01-27 02:15 ID:K8EubWv9

Have you at least talked to her about your religious views and discussed it with a compromise? If you care about each other you should be able to come to an understanding

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-02-23 20:10 ID:68HMeCIz

I'm agnostic. I've considered many other views (particularly Hinduism), but just haven't seen a rational reason to be religious since I was 7. However, I'm okay with being with a religious girl. Hell, I can even see the social advantage our children would have if they could relate to the majority of America.

Of course, I would prefer to marry an agnostic or at least a girl who is willing to say "I hope there's a heaven, but we can't know for sure." I think the biggest thing is not avoiding a certain religion, but traditionalism-for-its-own-sake and closed-mindedness. Being rational is key and applies to much outside of church and holidays.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-02-23 22:29 ID:tt9PFuki

>>4

Women are pretty spineless that way.

A friend of mine whose a Wiccan just married some hardcore Atheist guy. I don't know how a person with any sort of faith could bed down with someone who thought they were a superstitious lunatic and that people are animals whose emotions are just chemical reactions.

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