Hey peoeple,
Don't know where to begin with this one... Basically looking for any advice you can give that might help me here.
For about 3 years I have going out/living with my ex-girlfriend.
Everything was rosey with us for the first year, I was very happy! And crazy about this girl. Unfortunitly however, this girl did have a serious ammount of baggage, and lot of problems. Most of these were forced upon me and I had to help her overcome them.
Things turned kinda sour when I found out she was seeing someone else, and I was left heart broken. Having had a lot of me time, I realised that this girl was in fact a nasty piece of work, and I'm happy now that I no longer am with her.
Here's where my problem is. I've just met someone... I've known this girl now for about 2-3 months and last night we went out together on a date for the first time. She's amazing! SHe's the most beautiful girl I've ever seen, and the laugh the two of us had for the whole night was fantastic! We really did click and it was great. But there were times when I found myself telling her how pretty I thought she was (Something I always had to do with me ex for some reason) and found myself saying things I might have only said to my ex.
This a completely different girl. Someone I like an awful lot, but I tihnk I've burned so bad by my last girlfirend it's hard for me to trust anyone. Which really sucks here.
I know this is the most boring and monotonous thread ever, but basically all i'm asking here is, has anyone else ever been hurt by someone, and what did they do to get that person out of their system for ever?
I wanna be old self again, but memories of my ex are always still there. Thinking back, i remember her purposely telling me things about myself to make me feel insecure. Before I went out with her, I was an out going confitent guy, now I feel like a shadow of my old self... not good when I've just found someone I actually like. :(
She is crazy, never forget that, it will make things a lot easier.
The thing with ex's, is that you must never forget the issues.
If she was a bitch, then everything else about her must be devalued accordingly, and stay that way. That probably doesn't make much sense. I'll try to give some context.
You know, Hitler used to be a vegetarian, and an artist; but those things are effectively devalued by his mass genocide and whatnot.
It's essentially the same for you, but on a much smaller scale.
One of my previous girlfriends I had been dating for several months just one day broke up with me, I found out that she'd been cheating on me for most of our relationship.
Honestly, I've still not gotten over some of the stuff that she did to me, and it really does bother me that I do project some of her worse qualities on my current girlfriend. The best way to get over it is just look past it and hope that your current woman isn't like your last.