Fell for an Indonesian-Japanese girl (16)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-04-25 21:01 ID:Dber6PV9

I suffered schizophrenia for seven years, ever since I was in college. I faced life quite difficult.

7 months ago, when I was in a state of depression. I know someone on facebook. She is an Indonesian-Japanese. And She lives in Japan with his family.

I often communicate with her via messages and I got a warm response from her. I often look at her picture, she's so beautiful. Every night I often think and imagine her.

Then I told her about my feelings. And she turned me down on the grounds that he could not possibly love someone who's just She knows. I accept it, and our friendships continue well.

Until one day, I made a mistake. I asked her about something very privacy. Later, She was never online anymore, he's mad at me. I did not realize my mistake, really. I think She's mad at me when I say that I miss her. Having been in moments when we first met, She suddenly was not online within 3-4 days, then I write a message that I really miss her. When he returned the message, he wrote that I make her very surprised with these words.

I miss her ...

Several months later, She again opened her facebook. Our re-establish communication. Again, I made a mistake, I asked a very stupid question. this time She was so mad at me and finally blocked my account.

Sometimes, I lost my senses, often saying something obscene without me knowing it, rambling everywhere.

Until the day I kept trying to find a way so that I can communicate back with her and hope She can forgive me. I love her very much ... I continue to pray until now with hope that she can forgive me and I can live with her. However, I do not know .... I felt despair .....

Risa, i really love you... even you don't know...i'm really sorry... I want to marry you

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-04-28 18:38 ID:sqgjvlhv

What did you say to her that made her mad?

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-04-29 08:47 ID:2+1X7GXf

Good lord, leave the poor girl alone you stalky fuck.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-05-01 20:03 ID:cD9rEXV5

OP here...

Well, I just asked her...whether she's virgin or not. Nothing's wrong in asking that question, right? I mean I've been chatting with a europe's woman who had I knew, and asked "if you were a virgin?" and he just laughed. she's not take it seriously. why did I ask like that? because I see the western world is full of free sex, and I just want to know the truth if any Westerners engage in sex freely.

I also ask her, whether she's a lesbian? (I did say, please don't be mad)

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-05-02 03:03 ID:Heaven

Are you autistic or something?

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-05-02 22:49 ID:sqgjvlhv

>>4
Those are very personal and invasive questions. Asking her these things, especially after she told you that she wanted to be friends only, made her angry and probably also spooked her.

Saying stuff like "I want to marry you", as you did in your original post, is creepy. It's also inappropriate, because she has already made it clear that she does not want to be anything more than friends.

It's harsh to say it, and difficult for you, but I think you should move on. She doesn't want to be with you, and there's nothing you can do about it.

7 Name: nursing heart : 2010-05-06 05:08 ID:b5z0wGMn

im a female and in my point of view those questions are out of the line... its an insulting and degrading to be asked that way so dont expect anything more than friendship.

dont compare women of the west to those of the east... women vary depending on their culture. the least you do is apologize and let her go...

8 Name: Wonderfelt : 2010-05-09 15:20 ID:bA58ZjH9

maybe whether it is east or west ... woman is a woman .. is that what you think .. ? let me tell you something .. why did you think
of asking her if she was still a virgin ? That will only give her the impression that you are only interested in her body ... even if you did not really mean it that way .. this might be a harsh thing to say .. but if one day you had a family and learned that your wife had done it with a few men before ? .. will you leave without trying to know anything ? .. people can change ... and if it is for the person they love .. they will change .. there are a thousand reasons why a person can be lost in what truly is happiness .. but there is only one thing that can teach them what true hapiness is and that thing can only be "love" .

9 Name: nursing heart : 2010-05-11 00:26 ID:lshutaCD

i agree with wonderfelt, ask this to yourself... did i really like her for who she is or did i like her for what she has?

10 Name: not my problem : 2010-05-11 10:17 ID:5/abWgPW

>>4 zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
omg european is known for their "openess" in asia...
and asia is known for "privacy" in asia...

11 Name: Wonderfelt : 2010-05-11 14:24 ID:metAnBXJ

lol ..
but I can somehow understand the urge to ask the person you are interested in .. if she is still a virgin .. well .. since you dont really know what kind of person she is ... there are times that your head is full of thoughts about her and suddenly it kind of just come to your head .. if she is that kind of a girl .... maybe she's not like what I imagined .. is she really pure or innocent .. maybe she have already done it with many other guys or something like that right ? but if ever you knew she was a true genuine virgin then you can be assured that she really is innocent and pure just like you thought .. right ?
well .. I had thought of asking someone like that before but I did not do it cause it might cause some kind of misunderstanding on her side and its a bit rude to actually ask .. .. :D
well .. since u really already asked it .. you must show some sincerity on apologizing to her .. and expalin why did u said such a thing to her ...
You need to make her understand how you truly feels about her and that your intentions are pure .. (if it is truly pure . lol)
well good luck .. hoped it helped ..

12 Name: schizophrenics R human : 2010-06-11 15:18 ID:4QlLUsG9

Love is love. Love is not steril. FaceBook is steril. Do not make love over FaceBook. ~ Make Love Face to Face. ~ ...in the same room.

Love lives within you. Love is good. A person knows what goodness feels like because goodness feels comfortable. ~ Sex is good. But sex is not always comfortable for both/(all) people involved. ~ If someone says NO (...i do not feel comfortabe talking about this, then...) No means NO.

A wise person learns from their mistakes. You can be be wise, about this, if you wish. Please re-ead the response from #6 >>6

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-06-11 21:55 ID:Heaven

>>12

what in the hell are you talking about... in every thread you just posted in? did you drop acid or something?

14 Name: AliceDee : 2010-06-13 23:59 ID:9gCyhQc8

>>6 >>7 >>9 >>12 Thankyou for you comments! OP is creepy person.

15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-09-21 14:59 ID:M7iJH+Ab

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