Finding romance in this strange new world... (7)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-04-26 01:29 ID:yVKPxV3F

I've been wondering - where does a young guy such as myself (geeky quiet type) find a woman these days?

The conventional pubs/clubs pickup central doesn't really apply unless you want a loud boisterously-social preppy girl, which is basically the opposite of what I want.

It seems online dating is just full of local women who like "FOOTBALL AND CLUBBING AND HIP HOP LULZ" which just makes me cringe.

I've been single about since high school (5 years ago now) and don't have many friends to do the whole dating a friend-of-a-friend thing. Work is full of males.

So tell me /Love/, where do you go to find love?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-04-26 06:59 ID:Ax2vSXYf

i feel you on the distaste for the club chick.

if you want to 'pick up' strangers, learn some day game and head to more intellectual venues like bookstores or coffee shops, if you like the SWPL breed of woman.

alternatively, do an activity that will bring you into contact with women. yoga, pilates, volunteering with animals etc.

there's always the internet as a last resort but i'm not a fan. woman of quality do not usually reside in okcupid, waiting for a nice guy to come along.

3 Name: Lonely 21st Century : 2010-04-30 11:32 ID:yVKPxV3F

Sounds good so far SA, but how exactly does one converse with a complete stranger in a bookstore or coffee shop?

In most western countries (for example, Australia, my home country) they would likely freak out that their personal space was being invaded...

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-04-30 17:23 ID:1WISIjGN

>>3

Well you have to have a sensible reason to talk to them, some common ground, you can't just walk up and start a conversation with them out of the clear blue.

Maybe they are reading a book you like or something... that could be a legitimate conversation starter.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-04-30 19:45 ID:TyvpuLow

>>3

here's where learning some game comes in.

you think you got it bad in western countries...at least it's not asia where talking to a stranger nets you nothing but apprehensive looks and outright wth are you doing stares.

its getting better with increasing westernization but the high quality women (ie. relationship material rather than those 'club chick' types who are fun-seeking) are harder to get to know off the 'cold approach'.

its catch 22. you probably don't want a girlfriend/wife who can be easily 'picked up' by a charming stranger.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-04-30 23:36 ID:UN/AOjXm

Don't look for love, and love will find you...so they say. But what they don't say is that in order for this to happen you have to get yourself out there, do things, meet lots of people.

7 Name: Halloween Jack : 2010-06-10 07:49 ID:w+YVOXsS

That phrase is as logical as: "Don't look for clean air, and clean air will find you."

Love is within all Life. ~ Love starts with YOU and is infectious.

Lust... is a strange expression of love.
Romance is the balance between love and lust.

[end of "Hippie_Philosophy_101"]

DUDE(s) ...Quality women {skilled at the art of converstion} can be found at the Bookstore, the Grocery Market, a Coffee house, an Open-Mic Night, a Bicycle Repair Shop, Sporting Goods Store, the bus stop, on the bus, <deep sigh> jogging around the Park again this morning, etc...

A good conversation starter is YOUR word: "WOW!..."
It's usually followed by HER word: "...what?..."
~ Good Luck brother Fishermen! ;p

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