I'm almost 21 yrs old and I never had a boyfriend before so I never experienced what it feels to fall in love. I had guys asking me out but I always reject them (they didn't live up to my standards)-- I never give them a chance to go on a date with me. I do want to fall in love but I'm just too lazy to go out and find one. Honestly I prefer staying home than going out. I worked a lot during this summer and so I never hung out with my friends (probably once or twice). I don't really have a lot of friends I hang out with (only 2 which were my best friend and the rest are friends back at high school or acquaintances).
I always told myself "nah, you don't need someone" but sometimes I do feel like I do. I think it's different to have someone there beside you all the time and friends. Honestly I do want to fall in love but the guys that approach me either don't interest me or they are creepy (like old men).
Any advices? It's really hard to kick my habit off staying at home a lot especially after my work hours and my day offs.
Well what's you imagined solution? You either drop your standards or do something to get a prince charming knocking on your door but the later is kinda unrealistic.
Here's the deal, if you want a man, offer sex, men want sex, it's why we get married for, mostly. You say guys ask you out so you have some sex appeal (are you a guy or a gal?) use that sexappeal, go on chatrulette or forums with photos of your real face and specially body if it's any good.
You don't want to appear as a slut so a good tactic is to use an avatar where you look cute/pretty and a link to some holyday trip to the beach in bikini, thinking about facebook or fotolog or something.
Don't beg for a man but comment on going here and there alone because no boyfriend.
Men someone online will get interested in you and from there you just have to pick and choose but you have to expect something realistic.
Think prince charming, then think someone that's not quite prince charming, then something lower, that's a-ok level, that's where you are yourself, lot's of us, at least the best of us are "just ok". A "just ok" guy can be lot's of fun, company and sex.
And bother, but ain't we all bother?
Don't forget about teh sex, doesn't matter how nice a guy he is, without sex he will either cheat, dump or just plain hate you.
Or how bout opening yourself up more to people, and just be yourself tell that person that asks you out is your type. Don't settle for something less, settle for something that is worth it.
@Secret Admirer #2
Nu-uh! Not all guys want sex. Some of us do seek a meaningful relationship.
As for the topic starter, I recommend taking small steps? If you don’t like to go out, why not start by meeting someone online?
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Yeah, see if you're still saying that after a decade of sexless marriage. That's the real test for the "sex doesn't matter, I just want a meaningful relationship" crowd.
Wow, OP.
You seriously need to go to Home Depot, buy a ladder, and fucking get over yourself
how about getting more friends? knowing somebody is the first step to falling in love i guess
So, I have to choose sex or a meaningful relationship? Fuck that noise.
Anyway, a date isn't a 10 year contract. Give people a chance.
What do you mean by you're too lazy?
I don't get it, I just don't get it.