Forget (5)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-01-09 19:31 ID:ce9aeS30

Is it possible to forget about her but still be her bestfriend? I can't let go of her, she needs me (not romantically, but I'm supporting her since she has issues now). But I'm still attracted to her, even after being rejected one month ago. My main problem is that I get annoyed when she's with other guys...

tl;dr, how to forget her, still be her bestfriend and not be jealous.

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-01-09 22:30 ID:H4yGpRB/

impossible for most people. shes being incredibly selfish by being aware of your attraction, not reciprocating, and still demanding your time and attention. all of these factors point to complete and utter disaster. easiest and smartest thing to do would be to cut off all relations with her.

it may be painful to lose a friend in the short-term, but even you should be able to see that youre being used in this case. on the plus side, if you decide to end your friendship, she may realize that she does need you romantically. in either case you would save yourself a lot of mental anguish by (at least temporarily) removing her from your life.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-01-10 17:01 ID:ThtBsL2g

There's no method to not being jealous. No ANCIENT CHINESE SECRET we can tell you about to make you not feel this way about her. It's just something that either happens, or doesn't happen.

I agree with what >>2 said.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-01-11 14:53 ID:QqyTIUAF

>>but I'm supporting her since she has issues now

You're not likely to forget, and being in this situation will just drag you down. I've learned that people with issues are usually people you should avoid, and she probably doesn't actually need you.
I agree with >>2

5 Name: Otakun : 2011-01-13 09:04 ID:9lqqLJZ3

I've been in a similar situation... and from experience I know how much it sucks.

Assuming you've been the good friend for her has she ever done the same for you? Because of your attempt she knows how you feel, yet she still keeps going to you to make herself feel better. Ask yourself. Is this fair for you?

The only way I can think of to forget her is to fine someone who is so much better for you despite you thinking that she's your world right now. She's stopping you from doing that by being so close that you may need to create some distance yourself first. All in all... Is she being a friend to you back, by considering how you feel? If she can't be more like you had wanted in the end you're going to have to make her less to move on.

Right now I only see 2 solutions: Either you two miraculously get together and help her through her issues... or stop being her friend for a while. No choice is easy, just make one.

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