First Date question? (12)

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-01-24 13:52 ID:9u0uoPJB

>As in- just how physical can things get on a first date?

This totally depends on the culture and experience of the people involved. Speaking of western countries, if you are for instance thirty something, experienced and confident about yourself, it's entirely normal to even have sex on the first date. If on the other hand someone never had a kiss, or even a date, it's highly unlikely that things would get that far. What matters is what do you feel confident about and wish for yourself. You said kissing and making out, then set a hard limit on anything beyond that. Like, if you were open for a sexual relationship, you should take condoms with you. If you are not taking them, then you have a hard limit at that point.

>Won't that make the guy think I'm easy? that worries me. I don't want to be seen as a tramp.

well, considering the conversation you cited, a kiss seems to me entirely expected and natural. If the guy is extremely shy, you can even initiate the kiss. As for anything beyond that, since you are worried about those issues, let him take the initiative. That way you will not negatively surprise him by being more bold than he can deal with. If on the other hand he initiates something that you are cool with, then why not? In the unlikely case that he would later complain about it, that would just mean that he's an hypocrite, and not worth your time.

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