Relationship-related turmoil. Help. (35)

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-04-09 19:35 ID:J9hLGZ8r

>>10

I find him cheesy(Good god I cringed so hard with second-hand embarrassment at that stupid sun-rain-flower comparison) and overbearing, but to each their own I guess.

>>13

Gurrlllll, you got you are blinded by your emotions and I'm here to burst your bubble on a couple things.

To begin, you DO NOT, under any fucking circumstances, no matter how much you want it, accept that Les Paul, and here's why:

First of all, it would be in bad faith to take it. Let's be real here, no matter what he says, he's spending that money on you because he likes you. You're an adult, so you need to take any feelings of wanting it, or being touched by the offer, or not wanting to be rude, and push them out a damn window.

Secondly, you need to protect yourself. You don't like this guy, but as soon as you accept that gift(Or anything from him really) in his mind, you are going to owe him, and owe him big. In his mind, it won't matter what you have said or will say about not liking him, you took it and that shows you really do like him. In his mind, YOU are the one whose going to be the Big Bad Bitch if you take that and you still won't be his girlfriend. You are a female and he's a Nice Guy and everyone knows that girls are just machines that you put Kindness Coins into and Sex should fall out! And that Les Paul is like, 5,000 Kindness Coins! Is this a fucked up attitude to have? Yep, but that's how our society is.

The other issue I have is that the way you two act around each other is very unhealthy. I'm sorry, but if you don't like him, you need to stop doing things like PLAYING YOUR GUITAR IN YOUR UNDERWEAR around him, or at least have a serious conversation about how no, that is not in anyway any kind of flirting or sexual teasing or anything like that. You also need to shut down his attempts at being romantic, because despite his claims of caring about you, he hasn't even demonstrated the most basic act of caring a person can do; listening. You don't like him, you don't want a relationship, and instead of listening to this and respecting you and trying to control his own feelings, all he's done is kept pushing his feelings on you. He's not interested in what you want, he's only interested in getting a relationship out of you.

I guess my point is it's ok if you don't like him or if you're unsure. But until your feelings change or become clearer, you need to buckle up and put a stop to a lot of this.

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