Mutual Love at First Sight? (8)

1 Name: Paige : 2012-05-16 08:11 ID:Ggii0lRJ

I met this one guy during freshman year in college. We met at an acquaintance's dorm and introduced ourselves. He seemed shy. I was attracted to him right away. He had the kind of face that I found really attractive and someone I could see myself with...which doesn't happen to me often. Because I was aware of our cultural/social/economic differences, I felt it would be too complicated to do anything with him. I never did speak to him again after our initial encounter.

Throughout the 4 years, we often crossed paths around campus with me avoiding him and thinking I would forget him soon enough. To my surprise, he would constantly look at me. Not glance, but look long enough to be almost staring...but not in a creepy way. I always felt that he went out of his way to look at me. See, he is very handsome and was a athletic star in school and always had many beautiful girls around him, I couldn't imagine why he would keep looking at a girl who keeps on avoiding him.

After a few times, he really started to make deeper impressions on me. Soon after, we both started our own long-term relationships. However, he continued to pay attention to me while I grew colder and colder with him out of guilt, bc i was dating someone else (who I had a nightmare with). On graduation day I wondered whether I was ever going to see him again. It's been 2 years since graduation and surprised to find myself googling him from time to time. However, he had deleted his fb and I can't seem to find anything about him.

Normally, I would say it's just a silly crush based on nothing. However, looking back, I say that he knew some of my friends and seemed to have diverse acquaintances. I also found that through googling that he has dyslexia and I wondered if that's what makes him seem like an open-minded person. I feel that I had jumped to conclusions about his character.There was something about him that I can't pinpoint but I can almost imagine us being really good friends and really making a solid connection beyond the physical attraction. Perhaps that's why there seems to be a strong connection.

(Also, there was another popular and handsome superstar athlete from the school that I tutored and liked me. He wasn't necessary my type even tho there was a tiny bit of crush on my part as well. but I shut him down and never felt any regrets.)

It been 6 years! I never had any crushes like this. Although I don't dream about him constantly, he does enter my mind from time to time and I find myself having this urge to search him out online.

I don't have the fantasy of ever dating him..maybe a little. But what I mainly envision or wish is to see him one last time...as kind of like a closure kind of thing.I keep wondering how he's doing and what he is up to, whether he is doing well. He told me the State that he is from (when we first met and the only time we spoke)and til this day, when someone mentions that state, I cannot help but think of him. It's almost synonymous with his name.

I guess I am a pretty practical person when it comes to crushes and know it's probably smart to move on. However, I felt there was something more to this one. I feel that we could've connected very well. For me, I have found it rare for me to encounter someone like that. Something about him felt just right. None of my exes every made me feel that way. Perhaps he wou;dve been more of a right choice than any of my previous exes.

I'm just curious what people think of my thoughts..I don't really have a specific question but just looking for perspectives i guess...And, is this unhealthy?

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-05-16 23:18 ID:FqYvG4GJ

Say hi.
Do it.
He probably wishes that girl who he kept looking at in college would contact him

4 Name: Paige : 2012-05-17 01:58 ID:Ggii0lRJ

dont men like what they can't get? is it a really good idea to go "knock on his door"?

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-05-17 04:00 ID:d8wI3gYq

>>4
Generalizations don't work. Don't women just like money?
Look, you won't lose anything by trying. Give it a shot.

6 Name: Paige : 2012-05-17 04:06 ID:Ggii0lRJ

it's been nearly 2 years and he might've forgotten about me..also, he doesn't have fb so it would be too creepy to track his contact info down. I like him too much to face rejection :( at least for now.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-05-18 02:53 ID:v2XQHrid

>>6

>I like him too much to face rejection :(

So you'd rather have nothing? Even in the slight change that he rejects you, at least then you can move on.

>at least for now.

What the heck does that help? Your point is that two years is too long to contact him again, so you want to wait longer?
It's not creepy. Just go for it.

8 Name: Paige : 2012-05-19 06:21 ID:Ggii0lRJ

Maybe it's unhealthy that I'm still thinking about him.

If in two years I'm still thinking of him...I'll try to find a way to say hi.

Just this feeling! Ugg.

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