>>1: she's probably either a) the insecure type or b) still clinging on that ex that she dumped on the first place. at this point...i would bounce and keep the workplace relationship as co-workers only. however, if you still like her...i would try small talking with her. try talking about yourself and how the day goes. if anything, maybe try talking about your friends and family. when the conversation gets more and more insightful, she'll probably open up and mention y she's still wit her ex.