Wow. I must say, this started out a little too "ideal", and I was half-expecting a Bel-Air.
Unfortunately I can't offer you any advice, but you do have my sympathy. Our views are similar and this is the sort of thing I would dread if I tried for a relationship. It's a complete shame that so many wonderful people--men and women--prefer non-serious flings to actual romances. Maybe it's a sign of the times, or maybe the world was always like this.
I really hope you have better luck in future, and hopefully this at least served as a learning experience. Please report back if anything happens to you!