Relationships and feelings (2)

1 Name: Archie : 2012-07-20 20:38 ID:PSO0RF3v

I am 21.
I haven't been in a single relationship.
Last month, there came a guy, we had loads of things in common. He is so kind too.
And, he has fallen for me. That scares me, because...I like him but I merely care about him. (An instance- When he sends me a heart, I respond hesitantly only with a hug emoticon)
When I think about the 'getting physical' bits, it feels awkward.
As much as I want to give him a chance, I can't find myself to be sexually attracted to him.

Well, I feel lost. I need some clarity.

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-07-22 18:40 ID:iemYiAtz

Hm, that's tricky. Love is a really confusing thing, and it's hard to know when it's "there".

First, I think you need to try and analyze your own feelings, and see whether you simply care about him or indeed love him. You need to be able to define it and then put it in context, and then differentiate between love and all the other emotions that come when you're close with someone.

If you decide you love him, sexual attraction should come natural, especially as you grow closer and learn more about each other. Sometimes, all it takes is a look or touch, and it happens. Whether this attraction stems from your interest in their personality or physical self is (in my opinion, anyway) irrelevant, because when you love somebody it doesn't matter if they're the most physically attractive person in the world or not. It's the act of making love to each other that matters.

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