Bored with my girlfriend (9)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-09-09 12:40 ID:EAoiqQHH

My girlfriend is boring. She never initiates conversation or makes suggestions. She has no opinions. When watching movies or listening to music, she never really gets it. She's not unintelligent, just extremely plain and a little slow. Even our telephone conversations will often go for minutes of pure silence. Even when asked a direct question, she will deliberate for an inordinate amount of time before coming up with a short noncommittal answer. Her responses to everything are so passive that it just drains all my passion.

We've been together nearly 2 years, and have both sacrificed to be together. She recently quit her job to move in with me. She is deeply in love with me and I strongly suspect she is aiming to get married in a few years. I love her too, yet I often find myself fighting with feelings of frustration and boredom.

The longer this goes on, the harder it will be to be to end it. Even now, breaking up would be devastating for her. Yet I'm worried that the longer it goes on, the more frustrated I'm going to become. And due to her extremely passive nature, even if I start treating her poorly she'll just sit back and take it. I don't want it to come to that.

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-09-11 17:59 ID:uFNs+Eof

Have you spoken to her about this? How did she react?

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-09-12 12:22 ID:ZW/4G+Lc

You should talk to her about it first off. Bring it up.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-09-12 15:46 ID:mhlZ6eFU

Maybe she really has a lot of opinions and feelings and such, she's just afraid to express them at risk of being criticized or mocked for having incorrect ideas. If this is the case, you should try to get her to open up. Like >>2 and >>3 said, ask her directly.

5 Name: Qante : 2017-12-19 08:57 ID:1/MWQQR1

If you're bored with your girlfriend, then this is your problem. First of all, you know whom to choose, and secondly, that means you did not try to find a common passion for both of you. How do you spend your time? Does she like to read? And you? There are so many topics in the world that can be discussed and will be interesting. My boyfriend and I often watch films, choose good ones https://apkbird.com/en/net.flixster.android , go for walks and meet friends. We are not bored. Think about how to spend time with her and you will have fun.

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7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2018-01-16 21:12 ID:LTW6vK7e

>>1
This explains my situation perfectly however I'm in 6 years now with her. And it's completely got to the point of pure misery. However I can't just leave her because I have no where to go. No license, no car, and no job. I wouldn't be able to survive without her. This is truly suffering.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2018-02-27 09:25 ID:ieAOLyof

>>7

>NEET

That's likely just the point. Get a job and you will appreciate her more again. It's just because you just see her too much. Also likely lurking the whole day in your room/appartment. So the brain won't get any new inspiration and stimulation.

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