Seems more appropriate to have a thread like this in here. I'm opening this one up to any gender, any sexuality, if you HATE BEING SINGLE!!!
Being single irritates me, but apparently not enough to do anything about it.
I'm single, but this is something that is both bothering me and not. I'm an Electrical Engineering student with a full time internship, and I'm absolutely kicking my own ass at school to bring my GPA up. I unfortunately have come to the conclusion that if I get a girlfriend (big if), I'll either fail school or lose my job. So I, like a few of my peers, have decided to wait a while. Single life isn't that bad anyways....its cheap at least. I do prefer to hang out with girls though. I have plenty of female friends, but I've never had any bona fide "girl friends" in my life ever. Sad isn't it?
>>3 Not really. What's wrong with waiting a while? You're still young.
>>I'm an Electrical Engineering student with a full time internship
I think I'm afraid to enter a relationship becuase I'm afraid I'll become one of "those" girls. A girl I admired very much growing up for being so independent changed entirely when she fell in love, as if her entire happiness depends on this one guy, and her personality changed. She started to do things like pouting to get what she wanted and I became really disapointed. I'm really afraid of the idea of relying on someone else for my happiness.
Every time I meet her my brain shuts down and I am unable to think of anything to talk about, and the uncomfortable silence is dumb and embarassing. At this rate I'm getting nowhere, fast.
I have the same problem. When I get a chance to talk with her, I try to keep the conversation going but it peters out, and partings always end up being awkward. The worst of it is afterward I can't remember if I looked at her eyes or her chest when I talked to her. I do make an effort to look at people's eyes when I listen, but my mind shorts out when I have to talk.
I'm 17 years old = the number of years I've been single, and this number is probably gonna become 18 barring any miracles or drastic change of fortune.
It's tough seeing how friends get all attached while you're still alone.
Oh please, the stupid teenage girls who like the jerks fad dies after college, he still has a chance....
If you think it's bad now, wait until you're over thirty.
No woman under thirty will give you the time of day, and the stupid teenage girls who like jerks grow up to become stupid, sullen divorced women with litters of screeching, projectile-vomiting brats and the rather odd belief that you owe them anything and everything that it crosses their minds to demand, "because I'm a MOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOM and I have CHILLLLLLLLLLLLLDRUN."
there was someone i was completely in love with for a while, a friend of mine from university. i haven't seen him for a couple of weeks due to the christmas break, but i thought was getting over him. then i came across some pictures of him on the internet. myspace and such, you know. i am so not over him. when i get back i'm probably just going to get drunk and tell him everything, then he'll want to avoid me for the remaining two and a half years and i'll turn into a creepy obsessive stalker with printouts of his myspace pic on my wall or something. yay.
Good job, >>16! If you're going to do it, go all out!
There's currently one girl in this world that is single and won't judge me on anything other than personality, and I can't stand her. >_< We dated for a year before breaking up, and she's still very hopeful of getting back together with me. It's gotten to the point where I want to find someone else just to drive her away. I feel bad for her.
Wouldnt it seem to be more appropriate to tell her how you feel for her (or actually more lack of feelings) so she doesnt have false hope?? That seems like leading her on a bit.
I've told her how I feel several times, and that doesn't seem to be working. I'd like to stay friends with her if I can, but she wants to be more.
>>19 hmmm sounds like a bit of a catch-22...and a little scary...*Theme from Psycho plays
You may have to give up on the friendship if she cant live with the fact that you are not "into" her on that level.
That's what it seems like it's coming to, but the thing is, at college we have almost the EXACT same friends, and I'm not really THAT desperate to shake her off that I'd switch schools to do it.
I wish I understood this thing you humans call "love"...;_;
I freakin hate being single too, age=years without girlfriend, currently,i live in a high school world where the girls are either bitchy and vain, or obsessed with their school work, or both. its a cold cold world out there...so...so...cold....
and what disgusts me though, sometimes i cant help but look at the cute bitchy vain girls and stare, cuz, theres this one girl, whos, just, so, damn pretty, but her ditzy personality makes me wanna slap her so badly, gah! damn impulses....
>>14 i feel that ill fall into that category, im 22 sooon to be 23 in a few months...and ive given up on finding love again. (yes i once had it) Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh ugh im even more depressed.
19 years old, not in college, unemployed (been for for 4 months now) and single. The thing I hate most about being single is the little women. the ones that are just a couple years younger than you and are your best friends sister and no matter how hard you want it you know that it's not right or weird. I have several of these women attracted to me and because of my good morals I reject them all, I understand though that the only reason they're attracted to me is because they're looking for a mature male figure, and I'm the only one they can find apparently.
It really depends. I'd rather my sister date one of my better friends than random dudes. I suppose it would get weird when they started showing affection though.
>>26 are you nuts??? what does age have to with it...i mean if they ar 12 or something well ok, i can see your dilema..cmon man if she is a grown (you said a couple years younger) then GO FOR IT!!!! Curse?? You are putting up blast doors yourself my friend!!!! Maybe they REALLY LIKE YOU!!! FOR YOU!!! NOT CAUSE YOU ARE OLDER...sheesh some people dont see a good thing when its right in front of them...
I've studied women like this for 5 years now. believe me, they just want a mature guy. and I still think it's moraly wrong, but that's just me. So what if they got a nice rack and an ass that won't quit, I'm not all for that I'm more of the emotional good girl type who's at least the same age as I am where we're both at the same level of exp and can progress together. I don't think a relationship with a youngin would work out with me, honestly.
>where we're both at the same level of exp and can progress together
this made me lol a little :)
If you make a party and you're not close to the same level, one of you will face the penalty of reduced experience point gain.
Sometimes I think the worst part of being a single female is having to deal with lame/gross pick up attempts...
A seemingly nice guy who worked at a store was always very nice to me at the check out. He wasn't really attractive but seemed like a really nice guy so I enjoyed talking to him and was interested in getting to know him better.
You didn't work in an adult store, did you? :3
Er, I mean he- oh, just delete this and >>33. I failed OTL
>>29 you hit the nail on the proverbial head...i have had ass, and tits, and probably more then the majority of singles here have had...now that i am totally housebound...i realize that... "THAT" doesnt matter, i want a girl to talk to, to cry on her shoulder,tell her my secrets AND to tell her how beautiful she is, to be complacent with a wonderful HUMAN being...looks really are nothing...love breaks all those barriers...hopefully ill bring down my own fence down. Being sick, its not like youd think. Today i couldnt even step out of my room...my wonderful mother (hwo goes through so much to indterstand my condition) deliverd to me Ramen and beer!! I feel as though im going to die without loving again...im capable of being a man, of using my heart...but i have lost that gusto...4 years had taken its toll...but i will try...
You better try. Get out there! The gusto will come back I'm sure.
Being single is both a blessing and a curse.
It is a curse in the sense that I don't have anyone to tell my intimate thoughts, someone to share experiences with, to love, etc, all those things that are involved in love.
i definitely agree. ever since a year ago, my friend got a girlfriend, hes never been the same. we just, stopped talking. i miss my friend. out of anyone i know, he was the best mmorpg-er i knew, and then yesterday he asks me
"yo, can u send me solitaire?" thats how much hes changed
but, hes happy, so, im not gonna do anything outta respect to him
Totally been there. Friends hook up and then they're like, totally dead to the rest of the world. That situation is way too damn familiar to me -- been there, done that, got the crappy t-shirt.
Agreed. I had a good friend, we'd been friends since kindergarten... about a year ago he got married. He's really happy, and I'm glad of that... but we don't talk much because he's just so domestic now. I'm still in school (even though I'm 24, lol), he's graduated and working. They just bought a nice house, and I'd lay money they'll have kids within the next year or so. He wasn't really a wild guy to start with, but now I see him maybe 2-3 times a year, and there's no drinking, no staying out late and having fun, because THEY GO TO BED AT 8:30.
Anyway, my 'being single' rant:
I've never dated anyone in real life. Sad, huh? I was in a serious online relationship for over a year, and while I think I understand a bit about what it's like to care deeply about someone, the reality of relationships is still a mystery to me. I'm a shy person by nature, and it intimidates me, the thought of dating girls my own age - because most of them have a lot of experience in this area, while I have none. What's bad is that I realize this problem will only get worse as time goes on, yet I still can't seem to make anything happen.
>>42 is an exact reflection of my traits and weaknesses. can somebody help us?, lol.
I just got done watching Densha Otoko, and while its a very funny and romantic drama it just brought up some very painful thoughts.
Quite frankly, I don't think a change of scenery ever changes anything. What I personally believe is that a change of scenery indicates the person's willingness to start over. It's not the cause, it's the symptom.
This is now the official Singles Rant thread.
giving advice in love is a hard thing to do. Everyone is so different and have gone through different things.
but to those who are sad, dont be. dont give up but dont be desperate. there is someone out there for you and you owe it to yourself not to give up.
I 2nd the notion.
I've been single my whole life. When I was younger, I tried asking out girls, but I didn't really know what I was doing. Since then, I've been fine with just being friends with a lot of people. I have no real desire to go out and date but I am wondering if it's just a delusion...
same here... I had no clue as to what I was doing. I don't know if I have improved or am still as clueless as all those other previous times.
I've dated a lot of girls and had long relationships, and still I really dont know exactly what I am doing, I probably never will. But don't give up because of that.
Did we move here now? (general-dudes)
I suppose so. Are you going to the party? (read: go to the party!) :3
Sorry to make you guys (and myself) excited, but I talked to her again today and the party's off >_<
Also, I'm getting kinda frustrated. (With myself, not able to ask her out.)
I have been single for about six months. I know, not long, but it feels long. However, my last relationship was only for 2-3 months. The one before that ended last January -- it was nearing 3 years (online relationship lol).
Most guys would "enjoy some sex" right about now lol
Single since i was born. That's 23 years in all, and probably remains the same status in the short term future. Even densha otoko is luckier than me, since he got a nice gal and lives near Akihabara. T_T
> 480 Name: Random Anonymous 2006-01-08 00:39 ID:Heaven
> THOUGH I ENJOY MY SINGLE LIFE I AM STARTING TO GET SEXUAL FRUSTRATION
is being single that sad?
I know if I lived in Tokyo I'd never get a girlfriend, partly on account of Akihabara. PORN GAMES AND MAID CAFES ARE A PERFECTLY LEGITIMATE SUBSTITUTE FOR REAL HUMAN INTERACTION.
Go out. Do the first step to save yourself. Read Gantz. It sure as hell helped me.
Didn't that just depict a bleak future for everyone?
i read the wikipedia entry for Hikikomori, and its basically what ive become. i didnt notice, and i denied it to myself, but, it was all clear, so so clear, it was so exact and right there, it was like a description of my current lifestyle. freaked the crap outta me, im gonna get outta here. this years challenge for me: get a girlfriend. ive never really tried before, gave up many times before, but this time, i suppose im gonna try. come on guys! lets do this thing! (yeah, corny, but lets try anyway)
"True" hikikomori is pretty extreme. If you skipped enormous amounts of school and wouldn't even leave the house to get a job, then you probably qualify.
I'm as close to hikikomori as you can get while still having an income (well not quite... I could probably find a job where I can work from home.) I only leave the house for work, it takes friends an enormous amount of pressure to even get me over into another house, and so forth.
A little pick-me-up for the single men: What women like about men.
I could find myself in the main character, who was a pretty big nerd. That and his monologues opened my eyes.
i've been single for like... er.. this is my 18th year single. Yea, single since I was born, kinda like densha-san :D
I don feel sad, I am quite contented and happy with my life. It's just the fact that i do feel quite lonely sometimes. Hmmm...
Okay, so I think I got to asking her out to see a movie.
I liked the poster who hinted me on what not to do (or do) in the previous thread,
so if anyone has any hints, I'll gladly take them.
Damn, didn't mean to sage ヽ(´ー`)ノ
Oh, I'm an idiot.
While I was eating lunch at the student union today, I saw a girl reading a volume of the Chobits manga. As far as I could tell, she wasn't ugly or anything... and yet I didn't go talk to her.
You would have gotten into an argument about how Chobits isn't a shoujo manga, and she would have punched you in the face.
What a fool I was. :(
Your only choice now is to spend your every waking moment staking out the student union until you see that girl again reading manga.
As untrue in nature as it is in romance. She might show up again, or you might see another girl reading manga. If you see one, just go for it!
so far my bad luck has a way with preventing me from getting a girlfriend i think XD When I was going to try and give a girl i thought was hitting on me a gift, she got a bf before i gave it to her XD I laugh at how perfect the timing is.
Start your conversation with "On! Off! On! Off! On! etc" and see where it gets you... you never know ;P
"XD" is not actually valid punctuation in English.
I wonder...what percent of the people who visit here are women?
Good question. Count the number of posts that start with "I'm a girl, "?
Well I'm sure in a lot of cases a poster will omit that detail because it's irrelevant. e.g. for this post that I am posting right now, would it matter?
It sort of matters because if it's just a bunch of guys giving advice to each other, wouldn't that advice be wrong at times because the advice is what seems to be right in a guy's point of view but may be totally bad in a girl's point of view?
If guys' and girls' points of view about what was right and wrong when courting were really all that different a significant amount of the time, there probably wouldn't be 5 or 6 billion of us on the planet...
> were really all that different in a detrimental way a significant amount of the time
really hope that someone replies to this, need to rant too
there this girl, who ive been close to for about a few months but weve been nothing but friends. in fact weve been considering ourselves as brother sisters, she treats me like an older brother and vice versa.
Doh, I was trying to post that without an ID. It's not mine but a repost from a latecomer to the /general thread.
You can either forget about it, or wait. Or interfere.
Don't interfere in ways which can be traced back to you, though.
The key is to occupy yourself dude. If you don't have a million things going on with you, she will be in your mind all the time, and it will just drive you up the fucking wall. Join a sports team, dive into a good long book, or pick up some hobby to occupy your mind off her. Things will only just get worse the more and more you think of her.
i wont interfere , im just happy to see her happy nowadays with the new guy. not expecting anything new though. ill wait for the right one for me comes..;)
no one else have any problems on being single?
Eh? No, not really. One typically has fewer problems when they are single than when they are not.
Damn it >< I'd like to see some Densha Otoko in here :(. I'm full of advices and noone got any serious problems...
Anything related with dating, sex, etc. Maybe I'm not too old (still in my 20's) but I went through a lot ;).
lol nope I still dun understand this shit you guys call "love"!
It's just a funny state of mind, when people do creazy things. Maybe in the end you'll fail, but it's always worth it. Just for this one thrill... I think that I have never felt more alive than on the times I fell in love. In my opinion love is the meaning of life. Can't find any better reasons...
i lol'd at your so-called "human emotion"!
Ugh, I've seen a bunch of my single friends who probably love a girl, but they have an unhealthy obsession about her. They shower the girl with gifts, and say "ZOMG I LOVE YOU" all the time, but that just led to more and more rejections, and them complaining to me about it. -sigh- I wonder what the border between "Love" and "Unhealthy Obsession" is...
>>116 is a jaded teenager who substitutes cynicism for wisdom
Hello to all.
Today, I went to school like it was a regular school day, but as noonhour approached, I had a feeling something peculiar was going to happen. People were being a lot nicer to me all of a sudden and I had no clue why.
isnt too early for u to confess at this stage? she just got to know your existence, let her welcome you as a friend first. feel acceptable to her first, then you can decide how and when to confess
u are implying that she is single right?..:P
I think you should at least confirm she is single and like, get to know her or whatever. Maybe invite her for coffee after fixing the comp or something?
Its still too early to confess. She might take it the wrong way..
(As for the name, she's a host on the student radio station.)
>>118 First meeting is way too fast for confession. If you have watched densha, you should remember that fixing the computer wasn't his first step and he still did not confessed to her then. So firstly try to fix her cpu. It's a good chance for you to
Thanks for the replies, 4-ch.
I've decided I'll use the nickname SAS for her. Short and Sweet, since she isn't very tall but she's quite sweet.
If the comp is slow, reinstall with Windows 2000, her comp probably has one of those old slow Windows 98. I had a similar situation where I went to a friend's house to repair her old comp (and I did have a crush on her too). We just sat and talked about various things while it installed. I can't really remember of what we talked about though as I was also very nervous.
well now we know she is interested in something that you too enjoy, if you are good at it then you can somewhat maybe impress her with you skills. not sure im using the right words here.
probably you already on your way to her house by now cuz im not sure were on the same timeline here. really hope that you could work on the conversation during the installation process and maybe if things go well, you;; be seeing each other again..;)
If her computer is not too old, just use windows XP. Don't forget about some firewall. I would also suggest using cracked counterspy ;).
Anyway, better than just jumping ddr is a normal talk. Most of the people think that guys jumping on ddr looks really funny. If you want to impress her, just fix her computer and try not to say anything stupid.
Fixing computer = blowjob as payment...
Isn't this customary?
I've fixed so many computers and never had a blowjob as a payment... thank god...
radio, dont look for a blowjob as payment that may be worse than confessing too early.
lol. If he would take it seriously, he would have 100% chance for failure :P
Well this didn't go well at all. I showed up at noonhour where she was going to tell me when I could go. She shows up, looking gorgeous as usual, and then, she tells me that her computer was fine. ;_;
I feel like a loser now.
Crap ><. Now you have to give up or try to do something. Maybe ask her out? It's not that hard really... You just need some place where you'll be able to talk with her. Without any friends. Just 2 of you.
Radio, thats okay. A misstep at this stage isnt that fatal... I think. You guys are just acquaintances right now, right? You should probably try to get to know her more, and stuff. If SAS has a boyfriend, well...
I know where her locker is, I'll see if I can talk to her tomorrow morning. There's just a minor problem... I don't know how to ask a girl out. ;_;
Try to think about any reason. Maybe just ask her out somewhere. Like for a tea/cofee/ice cream/pie/lunch so many options ><. BTW. how old are you?
Oh.. I've almost forgot. Don't ask her out to the cinema.
Not to mention I'm not much of a movie-type to be with.
just go ahead and talk to her. ask her about her pc just to see if she has any other problems about the pc that maybe u could help. when youve got a nice talk going on then you could ask her out
follow >>138's advice, just ask her out for a coffee or somn..
Yeah, your main priorities right now are to check if she is single, talk to her more and maybe ask her out to someplace casual. Er, unless you know she plays/is interested in/knows about DDR you better not talk about it. Might sound creepy. Eh, what do I know?
You're 14, so it's really lotta easier. Just meet her somewhere @ school (somewhere far from her/your friends) and ask her out for a lunch or something. Don't tell her when, just ask her if she would like to go out with you sometime. And If she'll say that it's ok then you can choose the date. So don't treat it like a date but just like a meeting with a friend. "Friends" is a good begining. You have to talk a lot. One of my friends told me, that there is no such thing as a friendship between girl and a guy. Sooner or later it'll turn into love and it'll be the end of friendship. So, make her your friend.
>Er, unless you know she plays/is interested in/knows about DDR you better not talk about it.
SAS is quite the fan. She even plays DDR music on the station sometimes. :O (And now with Supernova, probably more IIDX songs since there are lots of IIDX transplants, but I'll shut up now since this is /love/ and not /games/)
Hmm.. I've got an idea. Just download stepmania and loads of packs for it (I've got personally 12GB pack of songs ;)) and ask her if she wants you to install it for her ^_^. But thats the idea for later. Right now just try to talk with her in some quiet and maybe a bit romantic place.
Now now Radio... just because she's 15/16 doesn't mean you can't get her. You gotta show her yo' moves. Not on DDR, though. I'm talkin' about "I SIMPLY ROCKED TOO HARD" moves. Yeah, you know what I'm talkin' about. You know, things go well, you might be showin' her your "OH" face. You know what I'm talkin' about- "OH OH OH OH" xD. Buuuuuuut anyway... seriously, Radio, don't sweat it. What you gotta do is like, break something minor on the comp, then be all dumb and be like "zomg wtf hapened 2 my c0mputar!?!??" and you'll go up to her and be like, "Hey, umm, something happened to my computer and I have no idea what I did. Can you fix it?" And she'll be like "5UR3!" So then she goes over, you sit down, she fixes it over your shoulder, and after shes done, you thank her profusely. You then proceed to ask her out on a small little meeting- but about computers. Ask her to tutor you, because you're OBVIOUSLY not good with computers, LOL! She'll say yes or no. If she questions it, tell her that it's purely as friends and it'll only be like 30 minutes. If she accepts, w00t. If not, oh well, try again later plx.
Ekhm... But she asked him to fix her cpu, not the other way. So probably she thinks that he knows quite a lot about computers. So playing dumb won't help him ><
No, she asked him to fix a problem on her computer. He could possibly not know enough to fix a different problem. Sometimes even I have problems fixing things. But in the end, I do, because Google is my second best friend. :]
>>149 Thats just perfect. I gave him so many advices but none of theme was as true as yours ><
>>147 Dude, I have a Mac. She doesn't know anything about Macs. Also, I don't know what you mean by
>I'll be here if you need me, if you know what I mean.
I don't want to know where. Just give me some weather report. Is it snowing? Is it sunny? I've never been closer than x000 miles to USA...
-10 Celsius. Approximately. There aren't tea houses around here (that comment made me think of Hermes :P) but there are coffee shops not too far from school. :)
Then invite her to one of those coffee shops, Radio! Not as a date, but as friends... I.E, at the end of school or whatever, you can go up to her and say, "Hey, you want to go grab some coffee?" or whatever.
YES!!! Thats a good idea!
It sucks man. I can't meet a girl. I don't know any girls. I don't know anyone!
19. Anyway, it's like after high school I don't know anyone. I go to college, but I commute so I don't have much opportunity to meet people. And actually not even in college this semester cause of some screwup which I won't get into. I'm not a bad looking guy or anything, it's just like I don't know anyone and have no way to meet people.
>>157 It's so common in here >< People should just change their attitude...
So what's your age?
Don't tell me that you don't know anyone...
19 like I said, and it's true! I have not a single person in the real world that I would even call a "friend," no one who I hang out with or talk to or whatever. I mean, in high school I has sortafriends. But they weren't great enough friends that I kept in touch outside of high school.
Well that might be something, but see now this semester I'm stuck not even being able to attend college because of some mixup in which I have to find some sorta job to pay tuition money I suddenly found out I owe. So it's like I'm just stuck at home all day now. Haven't found my job yet or whatever.
What I can't MULTITASK
u really need to consider ur priorities first, man. u need the money to go to college and to financially go out on a date with anyone. if u cant multitask then dont. do things step by step. your 19 so im sure your able to work it out somehow..
the problem is reality is kinda sad sometimes. work on making it better. lets hope for the best
RADIO OTOKO! WE'RE WAITING FOR THE REPORT!!!
Actually, I'm not at school. We don't have school today. Ha. I can't really do anything until Monday. You'll have to wait until then to find out.
And >>171, you don't even know me. Stop pretending you do.
now that'l take a while..
take your time and looking forward to this coming monday for both of you..;)
just don't stress yourself out over it
You got 2 days for planning. Thing about the perfect tactic ^_^.
>>175 I'm seriously considering asking her friends about her status before doing anything. That way, if she's taken, I can get over it and she won't notice a thing.
But the least you can do is get to know her and become friends, right?
IF YOU'LL ASK HER FRIENDS THERE IS A GREAT CHANCE THAT THEY'LL TELL HER ABOUT IT ><.
Better just ask her out. Don't call it date. Just ask her out for a coffe like a friend.
If you'll ask her friends, you won't stop gossips around you. It may become your curse ><. If you'll just ask her out even if she have a boyfriend she may go out with you. Then she'll tell you. Just as a friend. If she'll say "no" only both of you will know about it.
Hi, I am 180, I will ask you guys for advice then completely ignore it and get all pissy with the people who tried to help me!
Looks like we have ourselves some serious business here.
Ok. if you think that they won't tell her, then ask them. But I would still recomend you the things I said in 179. Why? Because I went through the exactly same thing. I asked few of my friends if the girl is free, and what they did? They promised me not to tell her about it and guess what was the first thing they did when I was gone? >_<
let radio otoko make his own decision. we're here to offer advice not tell im what to do. it's up to him to pick and choose what to do. I'm glad you aren't blindly listening to us. ADD OIL RADIO OTOKO!
come back and report again plz!
>>185 Thats what I tried to say in my 184th post.
We are only giving our own opinions and you can either use them or reject them. It's up to you. After all it's your life ;). Don't forget about it Radio!
I understood your message. :) and I whole heartily agree!
Oil? Whatever. :P
See you tomorrow afternoon, guys.
the anticipation is killing me! @_@
If you ask about her status her friends will tell her, assuming her friends are all girls. Most girls do not really know how to be discreet in this aspect. That might not be a negative thing though. That way she knows you are interested so she could also initiate something. At that age girls have not learned how to be patient and graceful so they do not fear looking too eager or desperate as girls my age do.
And I'm back.
Sadly, I didn't see her at all today. The bad news is I have nothing to report to you. The good news is that this incident gives me an extra day to figure things out.
But did you talked with her friends yet???
Oh well... probably not. We are waiting ^^. Don't act too fast and don't be too slow ^^. Just find the good speed and always go forward never backward ;) if you know what I mean...
im stupid, last weekend, on friday i went to this con, i saw this pretty girl there, who also kept checking me out. this kept happening thru the day. then, i went back again on saturday, she was there again, with buncha friends, and she was still checking me out and glancing at me, was thinking of talking to her, but, ah, too many people. ok so, heres my folley, so, i start to go home from the con and get to the train station, and who do i see, but her, with no one else, and, she sees me, and then looks away. but the thing is, im frozen, trying not to look at her, couldnt even say a single word, i couldnt move, i just stood there, and so, my train came, which wasnt hers, and i went home. god, im so stupid and shy, but, i suppose we all learn from our mistakes, and i will NEVER let this happen AGAIN. i so regret this, so so so much. pretty girl, who just went to a nerd convention, and looks slightly interested in u? i mean come on, thats a perfect setup, ah...rants....im stupid
>>195 WakabaMark strikes again! I didn't talk with her friends since I only saw one of her friends today and she was busy with a teacher, and class was beginning. I then tried to look around for her but had no luck.
I do have some news though. Our school is having its annual snow day on the 16th of February so I'm just hoping we pick the same activity (we can choose to go to one of two or three activities out of town that day, which is awesome since I'm getting sick of this town) and get to hang out together that day. Of course, that's if she comes, but I hope so! (I'm getting carried away, where was I?)
and >>196 it's good to learn from your mistakes. you'll do better next time!
Damn... Italy is a perfect place for love. Warm night, big moon, you cannot risk not confessing before her trip! Just ask her out. After all if her friends will tell you that she's got a boyfriend you won't do nothing it's the same situation as if she would reject you. So just better talk with her. Come on, she's your future girlfriend! You should be able to talk with your future girlfriend!
So where do you get to go for the snow day thing, Radio?
>>203 We have three choices of ski stations and other snowpark-type things.
>>201 I will talk to her. Except... whenever she's around I just lose track of what I'm doing and fuck things up. I need to concentrate. Tomorrow's my big chance. Every Wednesday she gets her lunch from a restaurant close to our school and brings it back to eat during songs on the station...
why dont you go with her?
Or maybe sorta like.. "bump into her" and then ask where she is goin, and ask if you could come with. I dunno...
I have never had a real boyfriend. For the longest time I have tried to be the ideal female to a man. Like being sensitive to his wants, being feminine, reserved, and polite. I am not ugly or fat either. My Mother had me practice these things when guests would come over to the house, and the men were always impressed. I thought that these things would guarantee a boyfriend. WRONG!!!
>>207 Come on, you have to look into his eyes or he'll think that you don't want to even look at him. I have only one advice for you: Always be yourself and find the person that will love you when you'll be like that.
Goddamnit. My best friend knew about SAS and myself, and at lunchtime some DQN in my class blackmailed him into giving him information on both our crushes. It's not the fact that he knows this that pisses me off, it's that he blackmailed my friend into knowing this. It harms me even more since I'm bitter against him for doing this to use.
don't worry about him, if you are able to get a date with her and he tells her that you have a crush on her he would look like a fool. i mean, why would you go out with a girl if you didnt have a crush or some sort of attraction to her? so ask her out before he can talk to her and ruin everything. and in the mean time, find a way to get him back for blackmailing your friend.
wish there were more girls like you locally.
Wow. Radio, it becomes more and more complicated. As a >>210 said, try to talk with her before this idiot will spoil everything. It really sucks to be shy. But what do you have to lose except your pride? God damn it I would rather ask 10 girls for a date if I could do it instead of going tomorrow to the dentist >< (he'll remove my 2 teeth).
>>213 is right. Any girl who is worth dating understands if the person asking them out for the first time is nervous while doing so.
He came in today, and I made sure that I was the one to attend to him. I was so nervous to talk to him, because he seems like a sour person so I did not want to displease. He was picking up an order that he had made over the phone, but the order was no where to be found. So, displeasure was inevitable. He looked directly into my eyes for a moment, but I had to look away because I always think that the person will say "what are you looking at?!"
SMILE AT HIM! guys go crazy when a cute girl smiles at them
>but this is a business, so it may simply be expected of the staff by customers.
even still if a cute girl smiles deep down inside i know she is being nice, my simple man brain tells me "hey stupid, she smiled, i think you got a shot."
I just came back from school.
That fag from the above post, >>209 was going to tell her late this afternoon, so I simply wasn't going to risk her being told by him and confessed to her less than an hour ago.
damn radio, you have BALLS. i give you much respect. try to follow up on your confession, if she does feels the same, then congrats man, and if she doesnt, its not the end of the world, just get back up, hold your head up high, and find another horse to ride. you have done something the vast majority of are not able to do. you are the FUCKING MAN.
Radio, you gave me first chance to say: KITAAAA~~~~~
Congratz. I'm proud of you. It was allright. She didn't said anything? If she have to think about it, it's ok. Now it's her time to do something. Just don't try to ask her everyday if she made up her mind (it's tottaly not like you, but I had to say it). Anyway, there was only one thing that you should do and you didn't. You should offer her your umbrella. Maybe it was a bit too much to expect sharing it, but an offer would be good (if you had an umbrella :P). So my crossed fingers helped you ^_^.
I'm 222. I talked with my girlfriend about it. She asked me how did SAS reacted when you told her about your feelings. She have also asked did you just said everything and run away?
These questions are quite good. Come on, give us some more details about such an important moment of your life ^_^.
Wow, good job, Radio! I give that a KITA!!!
Even if it didnt go the way you expected (I think thats why you think you fucked up), but at least she now knows that you like her. Now you should probably let her sort things out and sooner or later, she will tell you her reaction.
>>218 has a point.
However, at the same time, she hasn't mastered the art of looking at him. One step at a time.
>>207 ID go out with you! lol...if you really fit the description you said....but anyway...that whole thing about you, being all super feminine and everything, is that really you though? or some image your mom told you would work? like, really, wouldnt want to put out a false image to someone, and they fall in love with that image, and thats not really the real you at all, so, just, BE YOU. as for the guy issue, contactttttt is good. gettin betting with the eye stares, but, course a smile would be very good too, lucky for you, hes a regular too
>>227 I am feminine because I like to be, it feels really nice. So I do not feel like I am putting out anything false. To be otherwise would feel strange.
It would be impossible for me to make the first move on him because it is not my nature and he is a customer. He comes across as cold, so I do not want to be annoying by being really sugary when he comes in. Eye contact and a nice smile is a start, but I do not think he would take a hint from it.
btw, valentines day is coming up (not that it matters to me or anything), chance? same with u too 207
>>207 you said he was the geeky type, how geeky is he? If he's really geeky, his coldness could just be because he's shy towards people too. I don't know as I wasn't there but do you think that might be why he seems cold? You don't have to act sugary or ask him out. Just talk to him. Maybe, once you talk to him, you find out he's not your type. But then again, it could also be a first step right? ★☆(~_^).v ☆★
Very good advice, and with cute emoticons too!
>>Radio, if you didn't had an umbrella, then everything was ok. My girlfriend told me that she was also shocked when her friend told her about me. So it seems that it's a normal thing. Now she knows what you feel ^_^. Just let her make the next move. Now we should just shut up and wait. Damn this weekend is soooo long ><...
>>227 No, SAS and I don't communicate out of school. To be honest, I'm not too fond of talking to others in French (aww, I think that's a huge clue as to where I'm located, especially to #4-ch-ers). Also, I have no cellphone, so to avoid any interference from parents, I don't plan on giving her my phone number.
-sigh- I recently had a girlfriend, but she was such a psycho-bitch. She recently came in during lunch and handed me a note telling me she was going to kill herself if I didn't give her more attention. Only problem being, I'm too fucking busy writing a fucking research paper, so I can't be arsed to do anything except research at the moment. Either that, or I could show her more attention and fail my class. Either way...
find her some help, tell her parents or someone
>>234 you may lose her if you won't pay her enough attention. Is it a sacrifice you can afford?
Whatever the outcome, be proud of yourself.
duct tape really clears out the pore
Oh ffs. Is it usual for girls to invite a girlfriend along on a not-officially-a-date? It's really annoying, I mean, what am I gonna tell her, "no, your friend can please stay the fuck away"? :/
>>239 What interests me about him? I have never really thought about it. I just saw him one day, and was just attracted.
He does not come across as shy, just nervous and agitated sometimes. I asked my manager about him because she interacts with him the most and she laughed at me. She said he was ugly, prissy, high matanience, awkward and a dweeb.
Goddammit. Valentine's day is coming.
>>241 you go to dinner, the friend laughs a lot and seems like they are having a good time. Then after the friend says how boring you are while your love interest defends you! ~_^
you need a wingman, to take care of the extra girl.
I don't trust women. Therefore I am single and plan on keeping everything I struggle for, for myself. It does not bother me to be alone for I do not feel as though I am missing out on anything.
What can a woman do for me?
Sex? Sex is not the answer to anything. She doesn't like it...and if she does then she is whorish.
Not to flame you, but it sounds like you desparately try o justify your inability to find a partner and cope with your loneliness.
Radio Otoko please post wonderful news today! everything seems so dreary for me, I hope you have something cheerful to report! no matter what, we support you!
Good report please! ☆*clasps hands in prayer*☆
your thinking of a partner in term of UTILITARIAN need. i mean, who knows, you might meet a woman who totally cant cook or do laundry, but ull love her anyway. its a feeling, which many people here want to experience but cant seem to get. for you, itll happen someday i believe, or mabye, has happened to you in the past, and youve just become emotionally scarred or something. im not saying you NEED anyone like, zomg, i need a woman to cook and clean for me and stay home with the kidz0rz. not to mention, the way u put them as, is very very masculine chauvinistic, which, is a bit ignorant btw. mabye if you talked to some women these days you could see that not ALL of them are the way that you described.
Hi people. Newbie here. Need some relationship advice. Thanks for your help!
Is it normal for those people who are having long term relationships, to have crush on others every so often?
yeah i guess it is normal to have crushes on other people. just dont act on these crushes are else that would suck royally, just stick to the girl you have and you will be fine.
This is a battle between emotion and reason.
youre human, its that simple, dont try and hide it and tell everyone youre an emotionally cold robot, cuz, you probably arent. I know someone like you, and, inside, he actually did fall in love with someone, and it was the creepiest and weirdest thing ever, because he talks and thinks exactly like you, but, even someone like him was capable of love, course, got rejected and all, but he was still capable of it. and, with a mindset like that, who would want to "procreate" with you anyway? mabye thats your problem
How about drawing a little heart on his receipt? :3
Do not try to offer emotion or taste into an argument and then end it with a personal barb.
Thanks. Is it okay for me to be a female in this thread, while asking for a guy's opinion?
Actually I've been with my bf for 10 years now, met him when I was still in High school. He's very caring for me over these years, although I had realized in recent years that there are many things we are not in common of, and I can hardly see a future of us.
How does he feel?
How was the relationship in the early days? Did you have deep conversations with him, was it filled a lot of passion? Basically, why did you fall in love with him in the first place?
Sorry, I maybe misunderstanding you. Do you mean how does my friend feel?
10 years huh? You're long past the "Infatuation and Attraction" stage of relationships and have naturally entered the "Uncertainty " stage. Heres what my relligion teacher, a certifiable expert on this kind of thing, had to say about this step:
It's like love at first sight when I first met my bf. We met thru internet as friends, and later on went out for the first date. It was then we start dating naturally. I don't even know why I fell in love with him in the first place, it just happened. We have same hobby, same interests. I like the way he showed me a different world, broadened my view, and guided me when I needed advises.
Thank you very much for your analysis and advise. It's a relief to hear that it's normal to feel uncertain at this point. I've been hearing from many friends that ten years is a whole lot of time, and I should treasure this relationship.
Ah, so you're the type that let's her man think for her. Are you doing anything else but house work?
I'm working. Plus we only see each other 2 days a week.
>>262 Well, I saw SAS a couple times yesterday but the one time she actually saw me, she was with her friends and I felt like she was avoiding me. :(
she is probably still shocked, give it a few days, and if she doesn't come up to you, you need to go to her.
Just thought I'd post my own minor success...
Got a girl to agree and study with me, but with two minor annoyances:
Radio, don't worry! She can't just come and talk with you when her friends are around. I've talked with my girlfriend and she told me that it's true.
Whatever happens Radio, you did great. I have my fingers crossed for you too! And keep your head up high! keep us posted!
DETAILS REQUESTED!!! （＾∀＾）☆☆☆！！！！
radio, dont worry i think you should just give her some time.
Radio, I just started reading your situation so I may not have a complete idea of what is going on. However, I do know that patience is the key. Just give her time to recollect her thoughts and the time will come when she'll give you the answer. Don't rush her. Anyways, I'm hoping for the best!
This is a bad situation... I think the best move is to tell your friends to leave you the fuck alone for a bit and go talk to SAS. Thats what I think, at least...
I am sorry Radio Otoko...but maybe she is not as sweet as she seemed. It is often that a person's true nature is revealed after this sort of thing. I am not suggesting to give up, but maybe treat her as she treats you.
i was afraid this was going to happen. 80% of the time, a premature confession freaks out the girl. the shock and the gravity of the confession scare girls. but have faith, try to follow up on this. first of all tell your friend to give you space, also tell the kid (aka the douchebag) to fuck off, he already ruined your plans, he will probably make things worse.
>>289 She doesn't go on 4-ch... that is, I don't think she does. >_>
I think I've found out what his plan is. And it's very clever.. IF you want to destroy someone's relationship. There is a Valentine's Day card trading thing at school. The cards will be delivered to people who are recipients on Valentine's Day.
you don't sue him for identity theft, you beat the shit out of him.
rofl, ive done that before, and im doing it this valentines day to some douchebag (not for a girl), TWICE.....
dude, odds are, your handwriting wont be the same, also, she'll know its not you...considering, you just confessed like, 2 minutes ago. just be like, yeah, it wasnt me man...in a more, sincere way of course....
get her alone and try and clear things up. Have faith, but...a girl I confessed to turn cold towards me too. much the same way with SAS. In some ways, i think it's her way of helping me get over her and plus things do get awkward after something like this and if she doesn't love you back. However, it's good you confessed early as sooner or later, it'd explode. betters ooner than later.
I think most girls turn cold towards people they do not like. It's almost like a natural instinct. To me, it seems that they just move away and run from this fact because they don't want to deal with this uncomfortable situation. If your friends are always following you, why dont you tip them in on the situation so they can help you get some alone time with SAS?
Send her your own valentine, marked with a fingerprint?
Wire yourself up with a hidden recorder and confront him?
>>298 My first name has a spelling distinction from all the other ways of spelling my name. Mine is the most uncommon. Therefore, if the guy misspelled my name, I've got something to use against him.
Besides she has the same problem as I do (when it comes to names), so I wouldn't be surprised if she understood.
Radio, just get rid of your friends and talk with her!!! I told you that if you'll try to talk with her, she'll tell you what she feels. Come on! It shouldn't be that hard and it'll really help you. You won't be so confused after that cuz it'll all get clear. If she'll dump you, take it as a man, and if she'l laccept you, just be happy and don't care about idiots. I just came back home and I had to read about your problems. So tell your friends to just get lost even without giving them reasons and go talk with her. If you have enough feelings for her, you should do it. I'm counting on you.
radio i hope it works out!!
Make sure you talk to her before Valentine's day, and then you'll have the upper hand over the other guy no matter what he's planning. It won't look good if he tries something while you're still not talking.
don't give up!
Actually, the cards are given on the same day as they are sent. So I don't know if she got it yet or not.
hey hey hey...
RADIO! We need some new info!
I have nothing to report. orz
This is the second time I've confessed to a girl and haven't ever heard from her since. Way to fail. :(
whenever you fall off the horse you just get back on.
Try to TALK with her! You went through a lot. Don't just give up!
I don't know how many times I have to say it~~
is she still avoiding you?
Hmm.. Tommorow is Valentines Day... The best time to go TALK TO SAS! C'mon Radio... Just say 2 letters. H and I. Then, let her respond... or something.
>>311 It's more than two letters in French. Actually, I might not even be able to see her much at all due to something I mentioned a while ago... We have to go to the university in the afternoon so I won't be there when I'd regularly see her. :(
awww :( so what do you plan to do now Radio?
I suspect she's actually taken. From what I've heard, the MVP from our school's basketball team is dating her. If anything, going any further would get me beaten down by the basketball team.
I just think I'll remain an acquaintance from now on and bump into her randomly once in a while. I don't think this will go anywhere, but I can stay strong and move on (yet again)...
Well..at least you can honestly tell yourself that you tried. It's better than not having done anything at all and wondering what would've happened if you did.
yeah, radio, seriously i once let a girl go, and man i regret it to this day. i still dont know if she was taken or not, but man i really wished i had the balls to asked.
There are no successes and failures. There are only successes and experiences. So just go on, and maybe try to talk with her one day.
and she didn't say anything to you about the fact she's going out with someone even after you confessed?
Well, she didn't go through with it. She dumped me yesterday. No shit off my ass...
Damn! Why is it so hard to talk with girls nowadays? Specially pretty ones! Sometimes its like I have a huge tag on my head that informs them that I'm a level 4 to their level 1. HOw do you talk with someone that already assumes that you've got nothing to offer? In case you're wondering about the levels...
Level 1 - Attractive and wealthy.
There are no successes and failures. There are only failures and lesser failures!
Level 2 and 3 would be reversed in the past... still might/should be reversed.
just gotta level yourself up by gaining more experience points and gil
You sound like the gods bigest failure.
I don't ever feel like failing. I just have experiences. I'm trying to learn and be better each time. That makes me winner every time.
sounds like i got a big number 5 on my forehead, girls just ignore me these days
There is no number for me ><. I'm a bit attractive, not wealthy, good with computers and anime related stuff. Never had problems with girls though >.>
Anyone notice in >>320 when I typed the sentence: "HOnest to god, some girls (the pretty ones)I knew rated people this way!"
I typed the "HO" in the word honest in all caps? Which would exactly describe these girls I meant. Is that some sort of Freudian slip or somthing?
CONFIDENCE is the answer. You can be only mildly attractive and not at all wealthy if you have confidence. Girls want to know that you can protect them, and care for them. Moping about how girls don't like you all day is only showing me that you have no confidence.
This is why we dont have girlfriends. =p
But according to this, hot asian chicks should be all over me unless a bix nood intervenes! However, this is not the case. What am I doing wrong?
anyone ever tried hypnotherapy to get over someone?
BE A MAN HULK, do it the hard way. You know, hard liquor.
tried that. didn't work. hard, soft, fruity. nothing :(
I'm not visiting this place that often anymore from the time when Radio Otoko gave up on SAS :(. It makes me feel sad...
nothing new, Radio?
this thread seems dead
God all of you sad people talking about girls. Look at it this way: You don't have to prove a damn thing to these women, but they have to prove they are good enough for you. REAL women worth having don't want some wishy washy nice guy. They want someone capable of being an extreme asshole without being creepy about it. This way they know exactly what they are getting and will be able to live with it.
Hah. This chick pretty much picks me up at a night club, asks for my number in 10 minutes, and texts me the very next day offering to meet up, saying she's free anytime. Then she hasn't written back for a day. How weird is that?
I tried to pick up a older girl (23ish, if that gives anyone a hint to my age...) at Barnes and Noble...
She punched me in the stomach and told me to go away. Am I a complete freak?
She literally punched you in the stomach? Ouch....What kind of clothing were you wearing, what do you look like? Details!!
Barnes and Noble 'study sessions'... good times
You probably did it wrong. If you had a bunch of manga, girly books, or something in your hand then I would probably punch you too for being creepy if I was a girl.
>>348 you sound like a sane person!
I'm sure if I punched a girl because she tried to ask me out I would be convicted of assault instantly.
There is a double standard in the world get used to it.
In this world, it's automatically assumed that most guys are more perverted, creepier and have more power, both physical and social, than females. I've been told that the correct way of translating a unwanted guy hitting on a girl to a male situation, isn't by just reverising gender, but by a gay guy hitting on a straight guy. And unfortunately, I'd have to agree.
Ehrm, not justifying >>348's actions, merely stating why they're unfortunately understandable. I do not approve of people beating up someone who is asking them out, unless they're threatening that person's safetly. For instance, someone who doesn't take no for an answer and keeps following you like a hawk. Potentially getting rape or stalked is not good. Though the best option would be to call the police.
I was wearing an A-kon 16 t-shirt. As for what I look like...something like Densha Otoko except a taller, more overweight version. I didn't even really say anything too creepy......<< >>
what did you say?
was the imperial march playing at that time?
but seriously dude wtf. what a bitch she was.
>I was wearing an A-kon 16 t-shirt.
Herein lies the root of your failure. Was there an anime character on this shirt? When you wear it you are a freak to anyone who doesn't like or doesn't know about anime. A tall, overweight guy in an anime shirt is going to set of female nerd alarms in a 100 meter radius.
Dammit man. That was your first fatal mistake. Shirts like that will only attract overweight creepy fangirls who are so damn wapanese that it makes even the most hard core "otaku" cringe.
and then you show her this message board and she and her brother gets mad at you. then she reads this board and realizes how much she means to you and you both get on a train and fly off to happiness as we cheer you on.
People overreact too much.
Every guy is not a god damn rapist.
You do not have a right to assault someone just because they offend you. You do not have a right to not be offended.
Lol, yeah. I think I did hear the imperial march in the background.
Shit, forgot to take the "sage" out of the link field.
（ ＾ω＾） yay replyGET
Wonder why I'm still paranoid about this... Probably because age=years without(ry
this is my first post ever. firstly i cant belive radio is got snaked, also what happened to 207. details requested!!!
my own rant is, that i'v been seeing this girl for like 2 months and it doesnt seam to be going anywhere. she always says that she dosnt want a bf right now, this is because at the time we met she got just broke up with her ex which she was dating for 6 months.
Go for another one, I guess she isn't interested in you. Tell her to make a choice if you want to search for another one.
>>364 yeah but at least with her i got something, i figure its better to have someone then to have no one?
depends. I rather have no love than unrequited love. I would VERY much rather have that.
I disagree. I have a ex-girlfriend that still loves me, I'd much rather want her finally getting over me than to continue to hurt someone in the end I don't really love.
we are realy close right now and i feel it would ruin our relationship forever, wheres as if i think would wait a couple of weeks and then sorta tell her how i feel and, brake it off?
we are realy close right now and i feel it would ruin our relationship forever, wheres as if i think would wait a couple of weeks and then sorta tell her how i feel and, brake it off?
you know, that's exactly how my relationship with this girl went. and then before you know it, she only sees you as a friend and you're screwed.
Guess you'll have to drop hints so you won't be seen as only a friend?
Don't die on me thread!!!
my best friend is asking me who i have a crush on, it happens to be his ex and no way in hell im telling him
damn...he is a good guesser
Does it count if I'm ok with being single?
does anyone think long distance relationship will work?? alot of people tell me that its not gonna work but some say that depends on the people....
i say 60-70% they dont work
i agree, the relationship is so far away and plus you cant see each other so whats the point of it??
begin in a relationship means spending alot of time with ur partner, so with that logic long distance relationships dont work, it realy depends on when ur gonna see her next or how often u see her
While I'm very much a hopeless romantic and wish to believe with all my heart that love counqers all, I must sadly report that all instances of long-distance relationships that I've been witness too have failed.
One succeded, but that whole "long-distance" thing lasted all of four months or so, and they moved in together.
one could say that about relationships in general
Last night I realised that the girl that I've loved all these years died (metaphorically) a while back. Which is probably for the better considering it was unrequited love.
Happened to me not to long ago. I guess it helps you move on. I dont know though, ive yet to find a girl in which I can seriously like. Alot of the girls ive come to know are just party heads, and very high maintenance. Ones that wear too much make-up, really obsessive about clothes...you know those type of girls. Which I generally dislike.
I agree. This is one of the reasons I've been getting by even though I've been single for quite some time now. It seems like the few girls I think would be the effort are taken, and everyone else is just so high-maintenence or so completely into things I'm not.
I've been thinking alot latley whether i want to try long distance relationship but its very true what you guys said.. whats the point of it? your so far away and cant even see each other. i mean just now i havn't heard from her for 3 weeks so i dont think it will work, its best to stay good friends. sometimes i really wonder what a relationship is like cos i have neen single for my whole life at the moment ＿|￣|○" most girls i know are those "cool" types, i say hi to them and dont even get a reply ~~" by the way... if you have a dream... do most girls think your immature or something??
I don't know about the long-distance relationship, can't really say that if it's ever a good idea or not. However, I have a friend who's been in one for 7+ years, and is better off than when I first met him... even though he laments here and there about not being able to talk to her.
hmm i see! thanks for that!~
most girls i know think having dreams are immature people or something ＿|￣|○" this girl i like is the only one that doesn't make fun of me because of my dream..
i don't think i've ever met a person that thinks having dreams is immature. foolish maybe but not immature lol
maybe i am just unlucky that i met those type~"~
btw if a girl ask you out... does that mean anything?
depends what you mean by ask out. like on a date or just to hang out? she could see you as a brother or something.
well... shes just returning some stuff she borrowed... but last time when we met, she dragged me to buy books with her and i bought her lunch. hhmm mayb just me thinkig to much ~"~
that doesn't really lean one way or another. that could be interpreted both ways.
really?? well i will just see what heppens later
hmm i just messaged the girl to see if shes free on wednday becasue apparently in the city there is going to be fireworks so i'm hoping i can ask her if she wants to go watch the fireworks... but maybe she doesn't want to go >"<
Gahah, she does it again.
Me "Yeah so next week let's go to [....]" (awesome date spot)
Her "Ok ^____^"
Ouch, that must suck. But I dont think you should give up... just yet.
Bumping as well. Eheh.
sigh..... I don't know if its sad cuz I'm alone or its sad that I'm posting here =P
my parent finally left for Hong Kong for a while leaving me in canada a house/5 floors of emptyness... normally I would be like w00t, but now the house is just slient,
*woo! 400th post! xD
anyway it turned out she never replied me back and stil we dont know when we are meeting. I'm also waiting for a reply from a girl that lives miles away from me! *sighh!~~"
I say, blast extremely loud music as you lounge around the house.
And on the subject of dating, I myself believe that if youre single, youre single, and if youre dating someone, youre dating. Theyre two different experiences.. Both with their pros and cons. Being single means you can basically do what you want and stuff, without someone there to be like, sorta nag at you in a way. But if youre in a relationship.. theres that whole "love" thing.
>>401 (sorry I don't know how to do that blue thing please teach me XD)
ya I know what you mean hmm I guess I'll rant a lil last winter/spring I was in a well not soo great relationship (she wanted me purely for physical reasons and I didn't want that so I ended it) afterward in summer I dated again but I just can't get the feeling out of my mind that I was being used so thus before anything got too deeper I sorta politly ended it with that other girl saying I wasn't ready yet and I don't want to hurt you she understood and was like but when you are ready if you ever wanna date again gimme a call
Man being fucking single sucks, I just left a short lived relationship a month ago, and before that not much else happened, a friend of mine is a total friggin tease and drives me off the wall, and so do afew others.
It sucks, but what can I do :/
errr kay I'm probably gonna get called a lair or something
first I'm not gonna say I never masterbated nor will I say I will never do it again
I am giant vagina when it comes to women. I am a freshman in college, and I am sitting terrified that I am going to ask a girl I really like out. I have asked out few girls out before, but I didn't care about the girls. They were just challenges me and my friends gave each other to pass time during our 'study sessions' are Barnes and Noble. I asked out a girl once, and got shot down. It didn't really bother me, it was a random girl, I didn't fucking care if she said yes or no.
wow. damnit. i just dreamt about someone i had a massive thing for a year or two ago. someone i haven't seen since back then, and am unlikely to see ever again, in reality. i suppose i'm not over him.
>I am giant vagina
the size of a hallway.
I agree with >>409 perfect moment isn't for waiting, you have to act to get it. if you never experienced being shot down by a girl, its better if you try it cos you would know what its like but i must warn you its not a good feeling, the thing about being shot down is you must get over it ASAP otherwise it just drags your feelings down and you will feel even worse. I'm not trying to scare anyone here but just a warning about it! currently I'm waiting for someone i really like and i properly said that so many times xD anyway have some confidence!! you can do it!! ^^
Don't wait for the perfect moment that never exist if you want to ask her then just do it before its too late.
Girls are usually sensitive... she can feel that there is sth going on.
Thanks for the advice. I was reading my little rant, and man I really must have been stressed out. I had to write a history paper and a physics lab (in fact I had to do the lab twice, since I messed up the calculations). When I am really stressed out and left alone to hear my thoughts, well lets say things can go nuts. As of now I am far more calmer (skipped my morning class to get a extra hour of sleep and I eat a full meal for once). I'm hoping to ask her out by tonight for a date on Thursday. I have leave campus for the weekend, so I can't plan anything for the weekend. If I can't find her today, I will probably ask her out Monday after lab. Anyway thanks for the help, I'll try to keep you updated on my progress, if I get time to post (I am sitting in history lecture right now). Again thanks for all your help.
I wish to hear ur good news :)
Don't freak out or act weird in front of her though, give her a good impression!
Busy, I am way too busy.
I was able to see her at the dinning hall, as she was leaving while I was eating. I quickly ended my meal, and i hurried to catch up with her. Our dinning hall has two different exits on opposite sides of the building, and I chose the wrong side. orz
Awww, at least you tried^^
if you haven't already though try to get her contact/phone/msn/ for ummm "study purposes" XD and do some small talk after you ask about the lab to get to know her more likes/dislikes, and maybe just casually ask her out to lunch or something to start with then go from there
TEXT MESSAGE HER if you get her phone number.
It works really well, believe me.
texting wont work, they see each other at least once a week, i say next time u see her ask her out to lunch or somthing then working your way from there
actualli i think Text message is better, cos u at least can talk to her but never double send, reply when she replies and if she doesn't reply then leave it, or u can ask for her email! GOOD LUCK ﾟ∀ﾟ
the only problem with text and email is that well its not instant contact and also since its just word you won't get stuff like the tone of her voice or hints/ stuff like that, as in you won't have as much time to adjust accordingly to the situation.
your right but you usualy start from text messages or email then later start from phone calls. like you can ask "hey do you want to talk on the phone? its easier then typing messages all the time", really depends on the girl actuali
there are no set rules on "first u start texting then....",
its basicly whatever works, i think the best thing u can do if ask her out to lunch or somthing, basicly where u just see her more often, and this will allow for you to get to know her better, text thing is somthing quick and for people that u dont see on a regular bais, but then again i never use sms unless some one texts me
personally depending on where you are the situation changes like in Japan most people text msg each other a lot.
but if you are in North America or Europe I think mostly people either use a msging system or phone.
ya personally I would try Msn or Msging system since it also gives you the option of Webcam and voice chats, for times when you want it.
hmm back on the topic of being a single rant thread
lol thats normal, some people prefer to be single but some people preger to have a relationship. the good thing about being single is that you can do what ever you want without someone stuck on you, but the good thing about relationship is that you can be with someone without beeing by your self.
I know how you feel but I guess you can't always have the best of both worlds, or I guess you could depending on how close and understanding your partner is.
sorry to hear ~"~
my life of nothingness seems to come back to me.... i feel like i lost something but cant tell what it is~"~
lol the feelings of nothingness in our lives I think is something everyone in this single rant thread shares
and after joining 4-ch for a few weeks now I finally found out why this board appeals to a lot of people and why 2-ch got so famous, having the ability to post anonymously has allowed me to post a lot of aspect of life I haven't be able to share with other people^^ it really takes the weight off my chest I guess.
>>433 your so right! somehow i enjoy being on 4-ch although most of us are just being anonymous. but somehow i have lost my intrest in girls for some reason, seems because in the past i been tricked by girls to many times that i properly just cant be bothered going for it anymore. somehow i think the girls i met are just using me for something..... well anyway i'm gonna try and find something to do rather then sit here all day reading the board!~ you guys should do the same! I'm using my time on my movies now xD! doesn't make me think that much when i work on my movies!~ find something to do and get stuck on it and you will find you life more intresting ^^
can anyone translate that? sorry I don't know japanese XD
hahaha yeah xD!
If it's copype, it's not really important. Just some random usually unrelated rant copied and pasted in.
oh actually I tranlated some of it and its actually related
it was something about this rant about
a guy going to a new school
wooww this reminds me of this movie i saw where he took a drunk girl to a hotel xD Details Requested!
would that movie be My Sassy Girl by any chance?
i was thinking of the exact same thing !~
lol that sounds very much like My Sassy Girl XD
except the childhood part