So, how many we got here?. I'll start with myself.
21.5 years old. But it looks like I may lose it within a year.
Can you guarantee you'll lose it within a year? or are you just saying that because now you have a relationship where you see a possibility of the chance?
lol, did you hire a prostitute for a certain day and already paid in advance? cuz, i suppose thats the only way to be, ABSOLUTELY POSITIVELY sure....hahaha
LOL @ #7
Been virgin for 20 years now.
While physically lonely, I wouldn't go out and lose my virginity just to lose it. So, I can't guarantee.
Just having a rollcall is kinda boring. Is there anything to discuss here?
24.75 and counting..
Well, I guess we can discuss why we're still virgins.
Is it a choice we made?, were we just not interested in sex during high school?, or have we never been in a relationship where sex was a possibility?.
I wasn't interested, but then, I almost entirely avoided socializing in high school.
Age = years without a girlfriend. I need to get out more.
I have about a thousand reasons, but I'll only list a few...
1) I don't get out a whole lot.
2) When I do get out, I'm too shy to talk to people.
3) When I talk, people always comment on how monotone my voice is, which pisses me off to the point of telling them to fuck off.
Umm...on number four, I meant to say "which results in number 3".
yeah, I agree with you on not being interested in High School girls, some of them really need to grow up. I'd work on the monotone thing though I started practicing to up my voice a little bit a day a few months back I think I sound a more confident man now rather than a little shy boy.
Thanks for numbering. I'm with you on #1, #7, #8, #9. Also #4 is hilarious, it's like a Douglas Hofstadter quote.
My main reasons are
uhg, I'm with you there #20. Trying to relate to any girl is hard for me. This one I've chatted up seemed to be the right one, both were kinda smart, very sarcastic and easy going, but she's still fucking her EX! and I really don't feel like having sloppy seconds.
Isn't it only sloppy seconds if you're literally seconds after the other guy? :P In any case, you can use >>20 to refer to #20, it makes it easier; you can click on their number in the thread to bring it into the textbox~
I imagine that having sex without having a relationship is rather like eating sugar by the spoonful. It may superficially please you, but there's no flavor and you won't feel nourished afterwards.
And that's exactly why we're all here...
Yeah, trust me, if I had a chance to have sex with a high school girl, I'd do it. Only problem being, they won't give me the fucking time of day.
I have a friend who always bugs me and asks when I'm going to college already, because apparently there I'll get laid like a champ.
College was just three straight years of blue balls for me. Rumours of college girl promiscuity are greatly overrated.
nothings certain, cant definitely rely that youll POSITIVELY ABSOLUTELY get laid...you cant say that about anything, it all depends on you....
Maybe it's time for enjo-kosai to become popular outside of Japan.
Reporting for duty, sir.
Twenty-one years of nothing.
I look too young for my age (My appearance seem 16-ish), so girls my age don't take me seriously.
18, no prior experience with girls romantically at all, much less sex. and >>30, I feel your pain, cos I'm babyfaced too. I probably could pass off as 15.
Yeah, I most definitely belong in this thread. About four or so months ago, I met this completely awesome girl, you know, the kind of chick you love to talk to, love to be around, and most definitely love to get close to?
>>32 It's cool that you like her, but from what you're saying this girl is nothing but trouble. If she's going from wanting out of her relationship to wanting to stay in it forever, she's probably not someone you want to be in a relationship with -- I can smell the potential drama.
Hmm... My problem is that even if I find a girl that I like. I usually get to overthinking about what possible negatives could come out of the situation, of trying to talk to her... I have some friends who are girls but then im always affraid to try to move anything beyond the friendship stage and possibly make things uncomfrotable between us.
Well, I tried to work on the monotone thing...can't do it. So, I'm pretty much stuck with a monotone voice and I'll continue to tell old ladies to fuck off. That's why I'm now a hikikomori. Yup, never leaving my house again. Fucking outside world...
You might want to do something about that, I have a friend who is not very social and has a monotone voice, but he gets around well enough.
You might clean up when you're older. Man, you will have the pick of all the high school girls. :-)
The first few times I got laid, it was pretty bad.
Only the first awesome time really counts, IMHO.
I second that motion orz I still feel like a virgin myself.
Though had I been more sociable in high school I probably could have gotten laid (oh how stupid I've been, so many opportunities lost) I wouldn't have hesitated. But nowadays, still a virgin at 20, I don't want sex as much as I want a relationship. And I've kinda concluded that I'll save myself for marriage. Sadly, I have lots of girl "friends" but never in my life a true "girl friend". All are taken..and school gets in the way. I know this borders on singles rant but its on topic.
21 years and counting. I've never had a real relationship and don't want to jump into bed with just anybody. Not that I've had that many chances to do that - I've had to turn a girl down only once. It was because even though she was pretty, her personality wasn't the type I can see myself involved with for a long time. Currently I'm not even seriously looking for anyone, but if the right girl happens to walk into my life, who knows what might happen. Until then I have Miss Right. Oh, and her twin sister Left.
so what do you guys consider a virgin? How far do into it do you draw the line and still be considered a virgin?
Virgin is a guy/girl who did not had a proper sex. Petting is not a real sex. Anyway, I was a virgin till I was 19 and in my opinion it was way too long. I did not became less romantic after that...
well as long as blowjobs aren't considered real sex i'm still a virgin
I'm a complete virgin. No BJ's, no petting, hell, not even a kiss on the lips.
I'll love you :P
Does having sex with only one girl, but her being a total bitch who totally used you count?
There's nothing shameful in being a virgin. Just make sure when the time comes (heh, comes), your "bark" (how much you profess to know about sex) is indeed as bad as your "bite" (your sexual abilities)
>>51... I think know what you mean. Not about the woman being a total bitch, but only being with one girl ever. I have only been with one girl ever (although many times ;-)) so I feel about as inexperienced as I did while I was a virgin. So I don't see a point in making the distinction, really.
19 years and ongoing. Was more interested in a relationship, but apparently other people weren't. College is more of the same. Not interested in getting hammered and having sex with a last resort sorority girl.
I'm also hideous. I'm the only person who will touch me.
well im a virgin in a way, i had my heart broken years ago and i stop trying to get into relationship, i just go around sampling "escort" from different races.
long story short i fuck lotsa hooker but never been kissed
>>54 lol you sound like a loser. Can't do anything about it if you don't even try... You can either find the love of your life or be a miserable shit... If you'll choose the 2nd option you may as well kill yourself now. I hate people that give up easly.
love of your life or miserable shit
is a false dichotomy
right there with ya, but add to that a double major and family problems that drag me off for hours on end any day of the week and i'm in a worse boat than you. =^_^=
-sigh- I'm depressed now. I think I'll just smoke a hookah and go to bed...
The only reason I'm still a virgin is because there are no women good enough for me. I am an Elitist. I like Heckler and Koch firearms, Audi and Porsche automobiles, and high end science and mathematics. To me, settling for less is not an option. Plus to all the gentlemen here, do not worry. There are no expiration dates on men. It is the WOMEN who need to worry. It is entirely possibly that the women you will "love" may not have even been born yet and you have another 18 years to go. There are more women in the world than men, so I shouldn't worry were I you.
Indeed. From my experience I can say that having a lover is not so necessary as having a companion. I got a dog a few months after a huge break up, and although I was well over it by then, I don't think I could have fully forgotten about it without this companion of mine.
>>may not have even been born yet and you have another 12 years to go
Good post >>60!
Twenty year old virgin!
I live alone (no parents around), am good looking, have girlfriend (officially of five months/unofficially of about eight), etc etc etc. I guess, though, it seems that I just don't care enough. I love the girl I am with so much but no sex has happened and I don't mind at all. I'd much rather spend quality time with people than bother with sex. People always seem to find this idea rather strange..
i wish i was a virgin... does that count? im quite embarrased to admit to being desperate enough to date and sleep with my 2 exs. i hate it when my friends bring it up, especially around girls. it makes me feel so pathetic and dirty...
I don't think that's abnormal at all! It's great that you're in a fulfilling relationship, and sex will come in time. My boyfriend and I waited practically two years before moving to the next step, and I never felt like we were intentionally holding things back. You've just got to move at your own pace -- connecting at a physical level can be extremely important in a relationship, but not as much as meeting on a personal and emotional level.
Yeah because inserting a digit into another person's orifice is really important in the broad scheme of things.
If I was a girl, I wouldn't have sex with a man either. And no I wouldn't "lez out". Think about it, some GUY is sticking something into your body that could possibly impregnate you with a parasitic life form that will one day grow large enough to require PAINFUL extrication from aforementioned orifice. Then you gotta feed it, bathe it, clothe it and listen to it scream. THEN it gets older and you still do those things only know it is INTENTIONALLY ungrateful...then fast forward a couple more years and he is now wrecking your car, getting locked up for stupid shit, AND wants to repeat the same damned mistake you made several years ago....
I think I am worrying too much about being alone.
But I feel that I would like too have a personal friendship with a girl, but I feel that I make girls unsecure sometimes.
I also really want an intimate sexual relationship with a girl, but sometimes after I orgasm. I feel no need of having a intimate relationship, since I have pr0n. But I realize that's foolish, because I'm just consoleing myself with pr0n.
What's virginty? http://www.scarleteen.com/politics/virginity.html
A very good page that I actually have to agree with.
I lost my virginity mentally years and years before I ever had sex, so physically "losing my virginity" really didn't feel special at all, since it was pretty much exactly what i knew it would be like. A year later though, the first time with second boyfriend, that felt so very special, and he pretty much had me "blushing like a virgin". :-p
is it normal to be 17 years old and never have had a kiss? tell me, my anonymous friends...
I had my first kiss when I was 17, share with someone you actually care for. It might not be as dramatic as losing your virginity, but all the same, it's who you share the kiss with yanno :) It's great to think back fondly at first anythings.
My first kiss was at age 21.7
I had my first kiss at 18, almost 19. I then got a girlfriend and we had a superb sexlife and all of a sudden tons of girls started liking me, so there's hope for you too.
my first kiss was with a guy, ugh, it was at a party, some stupid ass game, ewww ugh, why?!?!!?!?! i really really wouldve wished it to be with a girl. if its on the cheek, does it count?
i feel bad for you (a guy?)so im going to say it didnt count
Sex is overrated. Children are the poor man's way of reaching "immortality" through passing on his genes, the basis for the carnal sex drive. Others can settle for swapping fluids with other pedestrian humans, give me a weapon to carve my name as a scar in the Earth.
No need to be bitter and jealous that no woman would ever want to have children with you.
Children are overrated anyway. The world has more than enough population as it is. I'm with 76, give me a weapon and we'll solve two problems at once.
Ah, yes! A thread that appreciates ( or is depreciate ) the value of virginity. Interesting, indeeds. Well, I'm a bit over 27 years of age, and am still a virgin, physically. Mentally, I can be one of the most perverted people here ( currently at work, waiting on work ), but only when in a conversation and when there's a door that was left open by someone else. Fun to get those jabs in, I'll tell you.
It's a curse...especially when watching porn...OW! My balls!
virginity can be a blessing if you consider VD a curse
I am 17 and still a virgin...I am starting to become very embarassed by it. I decided that if I do not lose my virginity by the time I turn 18 then I will just wait until marriage. It is just a matter of finding the right moment and the right man.
if you're a girl, you should know being a virgin is hawt. definatly no rush. guys like virgins
Eh, don't feel too sorry for yourself. When the moment comes for you to die, whenever it may happen, you'll realize that like anything else you've done, any kids you had, any sex you had, or didn't have; your experiences leave this world with you. If you care about making the world a better place, even if it's just for those around you, then devote your life to that and die in peace. If you care about the fleeting pleasures of the world, pursue those; live fast, die young. If you're just waiting to die, then you might as well take it easy and relax; it'll happen eventually.
Funny thing is, my virginity is just a consequence of what I have done, not a cause. I know for a fact I will never leave an impact, that my existence had somehow blessed someone else. It is not sorrow that I feel towards myself, it's disgust. And while I await for the end of me to come, so will my life be filled with bitterness and anger and pain. My choice, so the only lamentation I have is that part of my that's more human than the rest... the part that looks for "the one", that hopes for the best. The rest of me just brutally smothers it... although, every once in a while, it fights back.
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>>86 Kinda, but less Linkin Park, and more of this:
Pull me out of body don't want it don't want in,
Feeble frail and rotting descending I'm lost in,
saw them live a mont or so ago too... fucking awesome
I'm a virgin, but then again, I'm 15, so it's illegal for me to have sex. >_>
However, I plan to stay a virgin until I'm married.
its not illegal for you to have sex, you can have sex as long as the person isnt over the age of consent.
17 and, technically-speaking, still a virgin. I prefer to keep it that way until whenever I feel truly ready.
16 and obviousely stil a virgin xD! havn't thought of when to have sex lol! properly stay til get married xD
I feel sorry for anyone who's virginity has become a "cause" rather than a "consequence" in their life. tl;dr, but I thought I'd express some sentiment along the lines of "GJ"
17, female, and anti-virgin. Seriously, though, I don't see the big deal about getting laid. That's what masturbation's for. Gawd. (...And escorts?)
Well, a lot of people want to get laid for all the wrong reasons.
Like trying to decide their selfworth based on how many chicks/guys they can score. Using others as masturbation tools is wrong too, unless the sex-partner is aware of and agreeing to interaction on those terms.
Hmm I don't really see the big deal in being a virgin or not seriously I rather wait till I find the right person before losting my virginity that loosing it to some random freak town the street.
I've lost my virginity long time ago and never really thought about it as it was something special... Something that I could miss...
I'm as virgin as one can be. 24 y/o male, never even kissed someone. I stopped caring a few years ago, although it bothers me a bit that I will probably die alone. :/
My contribution to the world will be of work, not of kids, it seems.
i think that as long as you dont just "throw it away"(for lack of a better term), then its fine. i mean, as long as you love the person
I claim 100GET in the name of virgins worldwide
it's like saying
well, a lot of people want to eat for all the wrong reasons.
well, a lot of people want to go to school for all the wrong reasons.
a lot of people appreciate people who want to do stuff for the wrong reasons for the wrong reasons?
I'm 24, and just lost my virginity last month. Totally great, but complicates relationships immensely.
By wrong reasons, I meant harmful reasons when it comes to the bigger picture.
If you by your actions efficiently backstab that person (and/or yourself?) then you're having sex for the wrong reason.
i just meant
it'be extremely boring if everyone has the same moral value and ethics
first time you drive a car
If you backstab yourself you're doing it wrong.
Thank the motherfucking lArd!
I thought I was the most pitiful person on this board.
almost a quarter of a century old and still single for the entire time and STILL a virgin but I don't find it being problematic in any way.
two decades of sex prohabition. Hoping a bill gets passed but I doubt my congress can pass it.
22, virgin, and dont really give a damn about the word either way.
if it somehow gave me more money or power, maybe i'd consider it.
I don't think I could visit a prostitute. Maybe, but it's unlikely.
Age = years without a girlfriend
i'm 18 ...
I'm 15, I have a girlfriend, and I think we're gonna wait until we're 18.
i'm 21 few days ago
i often got girlfriend, but for me, sex is somehow sacred, so i wanna wait till i get married ^_^
but a bit petting is, well, >:)
23.45 years, still virgin.
Had a girlfriend for 10 months. Didn't have sex. The chance was given, but I was afraid to step forward. Had only one "real" chance, but at the last moment the girl said that she isn't ready for it yet.
I'm interested in sex, I just don't have luck with girls and I lack in self-confidence too.
> I always try to "live life without regrets" or some other noble example of the same idea.
I'ts perfectly normal. I had my first kiss at the age of 18. It was with my second-cousin... she was my "kissing teacher" :P
didn't you think it weird to have your first kiss with somebody of your own family...?
Maybe it's weird, but she's not a very close relative and of course, we didn't have sex.
Anyway I never had a girlfriend before, I only dated a few girls but always got turned down. Then she came to a visit for 2 months and I found her very attractive (she was 16 back then, cute red hair girl). She used to sleep in my room and I slept in the living rm.
im 27 virgin guys but dont tell me i know for society standars im a loser and for that i must die now
but its not my fault
Me and my current (and very first) girlfriend both believe in saving sex for marriage, but whether she is the one I will wed is to be determined. She is so damn fine though, its tough to control myself but I've managed thus far....
You could drink alot, that should surpress the urges, if not you still have your hands.
Don't you know that society standars are shit !
I have a lot say about myself, but I'm 25 and about to turn 26. I'm still a virgin. I never kissed a girl nor have anything to do with them. I never had female friends in my life, not even friends of the same sex, if you don't count childhood friends as ones, but they are gone. Never personally chatted with a girl. The only contact I have is my mother and sister, but they left. You people should be grateful that you have a friend, I have none, to even have a female friend, is a blessing.
18 year old male
first kiss 15 with a 14 year old girl
first err what you call 2nd base(touching and stuff) 16
I am 23 and a hardcore gamer and anime fan D:
I spend most of my money, time, and life playing games and watching anime or going to conventions besides going to class and when I am in class, I usually keep to myself.
Being a virgin and being stuck in a town where the majority of the women do not find me very attractive or appealing and I cannot have sex just for the sake of having sex, nor do I want to have sex for the sake of having sex or even have sex with a drunk girl that cannot make a decision for herself.
I want a girl like me who likes to stay @home watching anime and movies and playing games and knows stuff about computers & science fiction...
Any girl who likes to stay at home watching anime, movies, and game will be in the same situation as you are currently in.
Why must it be like this?? If a girl like that existed I should have already met her on the net. I only met a GUY instead who was like me and we had those nice night conversations which I should have had with a girl. Fuck man, fuck it all!!!!! I think I'm gonna cut my penis off now and feed it to the cat. Fuck.
1: It's easier to communicate with someone of the same gender like that because we feel more comfortable and confident. There is nothing pressuring behind to take it further.
Wow, don't be so mad that you haven't got laid yet, you fucking virgin.
21 and still a virgin. Never had a boyfriend in my life or even kissed a guy. It seem that I can only have boys as a friend but never had any feelings for them. I guess I'm afraid of commitmend or that every guys I've meet they are only interested on being my friend. I just don't know if they are interested in me or not. I'm not pretty nor ugly. Is there something wrong with me?
You're probably the "good friend" type of girl, that guys like to hang out with but nothing serious.
I have a friend like this. She always plays cool and she's a good friend but she's friendly with all guys and I think nobody can have REAL chances at her.
sigh...19, virgin. I live in an area where the colleges are filled with nothing but uptight fat weeaboo chicks and anorexic emo bitches. I might have had a couple of chances in High School (I had money, but I look like a fat slob) but I don't like high school girls because they're all a bunch of money-grubbing whores. I really like older women (25 & up) but they don't take me seriously because I'm "just a stupid kid". I'm seriously thinking about ditching college, scraping together all my savings, and going to Amsterdam just to lose my virginity. Am I really as pathetic a loser that my friends and peers make me out to be?
I just recently started cumming on my girlfriend's face. Its pretty damned fun! She asks me how to make it better too, and watches porn to pick up techniques. God damn im lucky. I was a virgin until i was almost 18 years old. So, the moral is ITS GOING TO PICK UP! Don't worry about it.
Going to Amsterdam's red light district to lose your virginity? Yes, you're pathetic... You just CAN'T be this desperate man!
Wait util you find a girl who you trust or even love. Don't lose your virginity just to brag about it to your friends. And if you really can't hold it back, there's your right hand...
You're just going to make the people older than 18 feel worse, asshat.
going all the way to amsterdam is stupid. there are hookers in your town too!
Yes, lot lizards. The foulest, skankiest hoes to prowl the parking lot.
I'm not seeking a so-called "meaningful relationship". I have no need for such things. I just want to appreciate one of the finer things in life that I have yet to experience.
But it doesn't have to be with a hooker.
You should be able to pick up a "casual" girl of your age at the local disco. There are girls who only want sex and they can be yours for a night... and also you'll get it cheaper.
Sigh...it's hard to explain. It's not that I'm afraid of a real relationship, per se. It's just that I'm not really interested. I'm your average intellectual (or psuedo-intellectual) who lives inside his own head. I have read about, heard about, and seen (As in, watched through a hole in the wall!) sex. Now, I just want a little taste of what it's like. I have about 20 gigs (Still growing!) worth of hentai and live-action porn sitting on my hard drive. But, my left hand can only hold me off for so long. And before anyone says "Stop looking at porn, then!!1", I want to make it very clear that I can't. I'm addicted to the feeling, but I want so much more.
I understand that some people may hold the general agreed opinion that I am, indeed, a social leper. However, I figure maybe there is someone out there that is open-minded enough to accept my story with a blind eye. But, then again...
If you really want to get laid join a frat, or at least go to a frat party. Drink 'til you get beer goggles, and fuck the first horny girl you see.
Are you trying to imply one can't have a loving and meaningful relationship with a goat?
Not the frat kind, they are all whores.
Why are you of the opinion/under the impression that lack of sex is the same as being a loser?
I lost my virginity at the age of 20, three years ago. Not because I was "saving" myself, but because I'm not interested in randomly having sex with random anyone (I had multiple opportunities for casual sex), but having sex as a way of expressing my emotions for someone. I might as well go jack off if all I wanted was just sex, in my opinion.
>> I might as well go jack off if all I wanted was just sex, in my opinion.
>> I can't decide if I'm gay irl or not. Most probably I am but im a good christian and I don't want to go to hell.
>>153 wins the thread. So virginity isn't the point. the point is the prerequisite to losing it: a woman willing to help you there.
Dûh, most of us want a long term relation. thanks for stating the obvious and no thanks for bragging
>>113, I share the same sentiments with you man.
I choose celibacy, thanks.
I just turned 18 2 days ago. I was a freakish kid when I was younger, so I didn't have much social skills and contact with girls. Then I kinda changed with age, but still failed 2 times to get a hardon with a hooker my friends bought me because I was too nervous and drunk. Almost got my lucky day when I was on a vacation in Spain, but oh woe is me, she was a rape victim and wasn't very fond of this idea. That's ok, I guess. I still get nervous with girls a bit. Not nervous as in "can't speak with them", but nervous as in "can't move conversation and her thoughts in "that" direction".
31 and virgin. I've had 3 opportunities and refused them all. I'm waiting for marriage, otherwise it's probably overrated anyway.
I got a 34 year old roommate 3 years ago that's a virgin, I wonder what happened to him... He wasn't gay or anything, he's interested in girls too, I think his only mistake is that he's too much of a nice guy and sticks too much in his principles, he's also shy I guess... But now and then I see his profile in friendster hoping that he found a girl, it must be lonely (I think), he loves his mom though and I think he's happy.
I am totally fine being a virgin. In fact, I like it. Gives me one less thing I have in common with all the dickheads I went to school with. They can keep their sex and drugs and I will take my anime and my films that strangely tend to involve sex and drugs...
never been laid, never been kissed, but somehow I've gotten to grope someone. I confused
I think the point, here, isn't about virginity - it's about being genetically wanted. It is a drive hardwired into every human being to be seen as having good genetic qualities and passing them along. When this instinct goes unfulfilled, the subconscious actively causes mental discomfort - prompting you to find a mate.
This person is on to something here. I wouldn't say it's the whole picture though. We just can't tell what's hardwired into our brains anymore because of media, save for survival instincts, stuff like that.
Hmm. You've got a point.
Thanks for reminding me about that.
Worry not, it's not worth the time and energy. By the way, if you win a Nobel Prize, I'm sure there are plenty of intellectual women that would sleep with you on a moment's notice. Then there are actually those who remain intellectual despite your achievements.
I wasn't talking about myself, though. I'm off the market, being engaged and all. I just waste too much time worrying about the world. A nasty old habit. And people say watching the news as a small kid won't fuck the kid up... Pfft, my ass.
I'm 23. I was on a holiday with my "girlfriend", my sister and one of my friends (who's actually interested in my sister :P)
We spent one week in the mountains, at a small but comfortable guest house, where we had separate rooms (one room for my friend and sister and one for me and my girl)...
My underpants were still on, she just grabbed my dick. And I even told her that I'm going to cum. Honestly that stain wasn't that big and it wasn't on "dangerous" place. But she put the blame on me for it.
I was trying to find her clit with my hands. I'm very inexperienced and asked her for a little help but she told me that it's my job and she cannot help me. She even never takes the initiative. When I do, she returns it but she never even give a kiss by herself, it's always me who starts it.
Oh yes, and she said one thing that really irritates me:
"If I had known that this would happen, I'd never play with it!" - just how should I interpret this sentence?
Break it off and tell her you'll consider starting the relationship up again when she can learn to deal with sex like a proper adult.
If she won't communicate you have no hope. Communication is necessary in a relationship, and most guys need to be "trained" how to please a woman and every woman is different, so they have to be "retrained" every time. I wouldn't break it off just yet, but you need to talk to her about this, and if she still doesn't care, then you can say goodbye.
I figure that after 19 years of being a virgin, I may as well wait until I am married.
Bah. This is utter and complete bullshit, and when you get the chance, you will take it, and be better off for it.
18 and I don't have a problem with it, seeing as most of my friends are virgins too. Most Asian girls seem to be..
Virgin here, but not for lack of trying. Someone teach me tact, plz?
I am a virgin... for lack of trying :(
Go go social phobia! :D
20 yearold virgin here. It's awwwright.
i have a strange habit of attraction to women with problems, or who are already attached, and since im not prone to move on girls i dont care about i guess ill be waiting longer.
Another virgin here. At least I'm only 17, but it's still depressing considering how many 13-year-olds are out there doing it...
My girlfriend refuses to put out or even let me do anything more than make out with her.
You should respect her decision. I wish more girls like her were around. Instead, I'm stuck with alot whores that put out to every guy known to man.
nonsense, 17 is quite young and perfectly legit.
I lost mine at 18. (Girl here.) I mean, it was the first time I had sexual intercourse. But I felt like I'd lost my mental virginity at 15 or 16 when I gave an ex a BJ. Or maybe even younger since I'd fooled around with a friend of mine at jesus I don't know 10?
I want to lose it, I don't wanna lower my standards to lose it.
Which is probably why I'm waiting until marriage.
Hi, I´m 24 and still virgin, :/
i really don´t have problems with that.
man Im 17 and still a virgin, how i long for that pussy the only action i get every firday night are hentai video from xtube
19 here, also because the lack of trying, and standards set too high.
22. My current social situation is one that doesn't have me meeting a lot of people. My standards aren't high...but then again you can't make them appear low either. That sends off waves of desperation which make the girls run, run so far awaay~.
The thing is i'm so highly medicated that i've lost all sexual desire as a result. I never look at porn, or think about sex and i can't remember the last time i masturbated. I understand this is a problem as well but if i just stop taking the meds i'll get really sick, along with all the problems they prevent popping up as well.
201 is a virgin, and not proud. I'm not using the shitty excuse "I'm waiting for the right moment" because truthfully it can be any time now. It's not like i want to do it in a drunk stupor at some house party. I guess I'm not even really old yet, so I'm not in the biggest hurry. Though, I would like to experience this sex...
lolz at u people! I lost my virginity when i was 16. Sex is awesome! Yay for sex! All of you go have sex!
I rather not lose my virginity when I am young thanks.
People thinks losing virginity is something like trophy but really it's pathetic.
I know sex would be great thing if your in love but if you want to brag about it, then that's just sad.
Remember people getting married and having a long relationship (then having sex and such) is better than losing virginity from a girl who will leave you right away.
what means gaiafag? anyway, nothin with fag can apply to i, (204) cos i a girl :)
its not 'people' who thinks losing virginity is a trophy or something to brag about, its mostly just idiotic males that think that.
I'd rather a female have no experience myself. Thats mostly because I think that if neither partner has experience in sex, that sexual compatibility becomes much less of a problem.
>waiting for marriage or a really special relationship cos u genuinely want to do that is great! but there are a lot of people who just havent had a suitable opportunity and use such things as an excuse, which is dumb.
Exactly how is that dumb? The way I see it, is that anyone could get sex if they really wanted to. Lower their standards, even paying for it. As far as I'm concerned, in this day and age, virginity is harder to keep than to lose. The fact that people lose it, just for the sake of losing it, is dumb.
Is it okay to be virgin with 17 <__<?
i don't think there's necessarily a problem with wanting to keep or lose your virginity. honestly, i think you're all making way too big a deal about it. in the long run, what does it really mean? what does it matter?
IMO, it's better to get some experience so that when you meet the one you really do want to keep forever, you're not completely clueless.
I know what she's saying. I'm saying, so what if they use that as an excuse? In my opinion, it's just the same as people who go around proudly announcing the fact that they've lost their virginity. Quoting one of her previous posts;
Ah, the way you sounded, I thought you misunderstood her.
And sadly, it's way to easy to lose it.
I agree. I'm a virgin so it may not exactly be my place to say that but it isn't really a big achievement.
Actually it would be a bigger achievement to lose it on your wedding night.
in my opinion it's when you're making excuses out of embarassment etc that being a virgin becomes something to laugh about.
my first post, i was just lightheardetdly typing, happily thinking of sex, and now all this lol! i should think before i type, huh? i shouldn't have lol'd, but really, come on.... after that many people confessing to being virgins on a board like this...
Virginity, or just sex in general, should be shared with somebody you care about.
People who wait for marriage, that's okay. People who don't, that's okay also, in my opinion.
Yea, the divorce rate. Thats why I like to go after girls who are virgins. Because if they treasure their virginity that much and worked hard to keep it. It means to me that they will do the same to a relationship.
I think you'd miss out on meeting great people if you only look for virgins, though. Not all people who have lost it before marriage are sluts; and they can hold relationships as well.
Maybe, maybe not. But I feel I really will regret it if I don't look for it. And I don't want it gnawing the side of my head whenever I think about it. I have enough things gnawing at me.
I'm nearly 18, female, and i've only had one boyfriend. And he was an asshole anyway. the relationship was non-exsistant. I tried to make it work, he ignored me.
maybe you should dress up abit and go to a bar or something
22 years old.
I remember back when I was 15 my best friend implied she'd pay me to have sex with her just because at the school she transferred to she was the only virgin so she just wanted to get rid of being the odd one out. I refused...
That's insane. I am in the exact fucking boat.
Come over to my place ; )
Oh, and I must ask for the obligitory PICS. You sound cute.
You look 12? Where do you live? What's your phone number?
I'm turning 19 in December. I'm a virgin. I'm not supposed to be one, but the one time I was supposed to have sex I came too early and it was fucking embarrasing, and she dumped me a week later.
19 going on 20, still a virgin.
Don't worry folks-- if losing my virginity were important to me, I'd have hired a prostitute years ago!
Well it really is not big deal, I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years so I finally let him do it-I lost mine about 2 months ago...girls the 1st time hurts like hell and it will hurt the next few times. But it will get much better ^.^
19 already, still a virgin, in no hurry. Something about learn to masturbate, come in handy.
26 years old. I don't think that with 0 Exp. I can be loved for my sexual performance. I don't want to be 'trained' to do sex the way an experienced woman wants me to, but rather to learn how to with some one of my own Lv.
Good luck finding love in a pinch when the world is about to end.
On the other hand, it seems like the brothels would crowd up too so sex may not really be an option either.
well.. this year i'm 18, and i still virgin.. proud of that though i don't know exactly why ^^; maybe because of my east culture ^^ it's a little bit taboo in my country ^^
This year 21, still virgin.
0! (=Zero) experience with girls/women. And no chance for getting one in the future.
Shit, man, that's not really how love works. It was more than just the damn looks. She was a really nice, likeable person, one of those people that can really understand someone. And that's not even a good picture of her. Here's a video of her for your benefit: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dxmmFXAvXK8
24, a decent amount of experience with women, but no sex. Damned 40 Old Virgin Movie comes out, jokes about my virginity increase exponentially. Planning to put a revolver in my mouth soon.
25, virgin, never been with a girl. I don't feel sad about missing out on fucking, really, sometimes I just feel lonely.
It's not that I'm ugly, stupid, boring or anything like that, I just seem to be too different. People don't know what to make of me. I don't talk much, I save speaking for when I have something I feel is worth saying, but then I'm not awkward about it.
just do it when you ready and you are going to make in love with the person who you really love.
don't do it because curiosity or because you think "it's the time i must do that" =.=
recently 18, virgin
I've had all of one girlfriend, it lasted three months. She decided to become a whore only AFTER we had broken up, though I suppose that's for the best.
21 years old virgin, chain-smoking compulsive gambler. I've had a couple of girlfriends in the past, but they were short-lived and never got far.
I actually had a whole lot of stuff to say but then I scrolled up and saw >>167 who actually put everything I wanted to say and as well as answered some of my questions in those 2 lines. Everyone take notes.
if you're gonna have sex, i don't suggest doing it with a prostitute.
and sex is such a passionate thing to do, why would you do it with somebody random who has slept with all these other blokes?
I'm 19, a virgin, and I've never so much as even been on a date or anything. Being a pedophile doesn't help any...
unless your right hand counts, which i believe doesnt.
Turning 28 in a few days, virgin male. Not even a kiss.
I don't have any particular problem with it, aside from the irrational fears about never finding love and what not. Though this one girl, upon finding out I was a virgin, apparently began to like me (I later found out that she refuses to even consider someone who's not a virgin). That really bothered me. The same way I don't want to be liked solely for my looks or for how well off I am/what I do, etc. Call it a deep-seated insecurity if you will, but I want to find someone that really likes me for me - the whole package - and I want to find someone for whom I feel the same.
One thing you should look at towards that girl, is if she's a virgin herself. If she is, she's probably happy that there is a male just like her.
Don't feel bad at all... I'm turning 27 in week or two, and I'm in the exact same case, not even a kiss... You're not the only one who's feeling scared about being "old"...
I once had the chance when I was 15 with this beautiful girl, we had been friends for quite some time and I really liked her, but when she started coming on to me I got scared of ruining our friendship so I refused her, and then I did something I still can't figure out why. I told her we shouldn't see each other anymore.
20 year old virgin. Bisexual that feels that both genders is fine, but goes after love before sex. Probably why he's still one. Not to mention the fact that he can't really hear that well so he doesn't socialize.
Is dating someone that lost theirs at 18. Person is a year younger than him, and he feels this eating away at his heart feeling. Doesn't know what to do, but that's not for this thread I'm sure.
Have you thought about talking to her about it? Maybe that would help you resolve some of that guilt that weighs so heavily on you still. But you know what? Sometimes people hurt each other, even if they have the best of intentions. You just can't help what your heart feels and sometimes that means another heart gets broken as a result. That doesn't mean you're not a good person - you are. And you deserve to forgive yourself. I think maybe she already did, years ago. And if she hasn't, I'm sure she certainly would, if she knew why you did what you did.
haha, you should read another thread on this board. The girlfriend wanting to have sex or not thread. Very similar stuff for what the girls says about virgins and all.
I was starting to get in her, leaning in.
But she was tight, too tight, it hurt her.
So we stopped. Next day I left for home, relation suspended.
I lost mine to some dude who couldn't give less of a shit about me, but he pretended to. I'm not really sad about it...I chalk it up as experience
19 I don't even talk to people
I was a virgin until 19 (still am 19), and I feel very happy that I waited until I found someone I loved. You don't want to do this once in a lifetime thing with someone who doesn't give a shit about you. However, I'd also venture that your relationship can't progress without sex, because it really DOES bring you a lot closer. That's all the input I have to this thread.
When you lose it you realize its not such a big deal, so getting laid becomes much easier. This is all you need to know.
I lost it and it's a fucking big deal for me. I wish that bitch wasn't the one who devirginized me.
I think keeping sex 'a big deal' would actually make it more romantic, and prevent cheating. I'm not opposed to liberal attitudes, but if sex is not treated like 'a big deal' then why is it a part of the legal, institution of marriage, and why is it people get mad when their partner 'cheats?'
People who rarely have sex enjoy it better than those that do it casually. See, the interest only gets stronger, and so is the fun.
So basically, those who values sex actually have more fun than those who don't.
Lost my virginity at age 19 to a woman seven years older. That relationship didn't last but really glad I lost it to a more experienced person. Learned where the clit is, learned how to be a considerate lover, and experimented a lot. If you can find someone experienced, would highly recommend it. Would think it would be much better than both people being clueless.
Sex is not a part of the legal institution of marriage. Well, if there's a country where the law of the land says it's illegal to have extramarital sex, then I'm not aware of it.
28 y/o virgin male here...never kissed, never had a relationship, etc. Don't know if I ever will, but I'm not going to just go out and give myself to anyone. If I DO get married someday I don't want to be comparing my wife to other girls or 'grading' her on her 'performance'. I only want to know her and nobody else, because then I'll know it as the best, the worst, and everything in between. If I want "experience" I'll just ask for advice from people.
ahh. its hard to find guys like you! =]
>>266 you're the male version of me! except 10 years older!
Don't worry, you aren't alone. It just feels like it because we are spread so far out. I'm waiting to marriage myself. Although I want neither me nor my future wife to compare each other with past sexual encounters. Even if it's unconciously.
I'm 22, never had a girlfriend, never had a date, never got kissed, never made sexy time. And it's no one's fault but my own. I'm 5'11" and slightly (or perhaps not so slightly, haven't checked in a while) over 300 lbs. I can't blame women for being disgusted and repulsed by me. Additionally, I work a dead-end tech support job, so not only do I get paid shit, 99% of the population here is male. All of my free time is spent playing MMO's or fapping to doujinshi.
Is virgin only applied to guy-girl sex? Or would you guys count oral too?
If you're going to stick to the motivation that getting a gf, getting laid and have a family or what the fuck ever is your highest purpose or goal in life you might end up being quite a sad person indeed, a very unfulfilled individual, depressed, lonely and bitter.
ahh even though you're all guys
im not alone!
>Isaac Newton, the mathematician and scientist (said by some to be the greatest scientist ever), was a virgin all his life.
I count oral because oral is like sex, only ten times better.
This speculation cannot be confirmed for several reasons, most of which should be blatantly obvious and outside the bounds of this discussion.
I think that must be the single worst sentence of misinformation I've seen on wikipedia to this date.
(Who exactly is 'some' ...and what makes him the 'greatest scientist ever'?)
Also, Gary Coleman seems to be curiously absent from that list. For shame.
> There are no expiration dates on men. It is the WOMEN who need to worry.
I'm 18, coming on 19, and I'm still a virgin. Call it pathetic, but it really gets to me. All of my friends (the few that I have, for what it's worth) always go on about how it's one of the greatest feelings in life, and just talk about it almost religiously. They ruin it for the rest of the people I interact with, I guess, because every time I'm talking to someone else, I have it in the back of my head that they're not a virgin, then treat them differently (more of a jerk, making obnoxious remarks to them, et cetera). It's gotten to the point where I find it difficult to even listen to music written and/or performed by someone is not a virgin.
Adding to this, it's not like I'm THAT bad physically, unless you consider a 6'3" 140 pound guy with blonde hair and a slim body type a hideous fuck. I get friend-zoned all the time, maybe that's my problem. Maybe I just need to start treating girls like dirt.
Man, you really love to make things difficult for yourself. I was virgin until 19, and did not think much of it, it's not so unusual and traumatic. And guess what, once you did it the first time, you'll realize that it's nothing mystical, and anyways often the first time sucks, because you have no experience.
My friend is ovbiously virgin. He is 23 years old. Do you think that he should buy prostitute to be adult?
I don't think it's even legal for me to lose my virginity at my age, so count me in.
Yes, compound your existing issues with misanthropy and lame pop psychology like the Ladder Theory.
I'm a virgin, i used to want to loose my virginity, but then i thought i'd rather do it later and with the right person than do it now and regret it. Loosing your virginity is like a gift that you give to the person of opposite sex.
I'm a virgin. 24, now, have a fairly decent paying and stable job. Not unattractive, moderately fit. I used to be all bitter and have issues with it, until I realized that being a virgin isn't the worst thing that could happen. If I suck at getting girls into bed, it's not the fucking end of the world, I should probably just focus on what I'm good at, and what I can do.
I was virgin until my 18, i dicided to do it with my actual husband, it worth it, give your first time for the person you love the most.
It feels amazing and i really think you guys are heroes for stay virgins, because most guys have the hormons like crazy when they're that age.
>>It feels amazing and i really think you guys are heroes for stay virgins, because most guys have the hormons like crazy when they're that age.
Depending on how narrow your definition of "virgin" is, I was probably a virgin until late in my freshman year of college--so I was nearly 19. I had oral sex a few times in high school, but not often and not skillfully. It wasn't a big deal when I finally got around to it.
I probably wouldn't be a virgin if I went to the dorms, but unfortunately, I went to a very difficult high school (there was an entrance exam), and as a result I ended up having to transfer into the university from a dorm-free community college and completely bypassed dorms.
16 years old virgin...
guess that isn't too bad ><
currently in a relationship (thats almost 6 month old)
17 year old virgin here. It's not just that I want to lose it, it's more that I want to have someone special enough with whom to lose it...D: Bawww...
well girl, I'm glad there's still a girl like you who cheers us, virgins, in this world.
I'm 24, and I've failed it many times when I've had chances...wondered if I was gay, and tried that but wasn't into it and figured out that I'm just incredibly shy around women (not conversation-wise or socializing, just when it counts) and inept at figuring out if a woman likes me or not.
i got aids from jacking off!
naw just kidding, my girl just don't want to do it yet
Are you serious? You can get AIDS from jacking off?
oh boy, never knew I could get infected by using hand. ><...
I'm on the same page as you. I'm 24 and a virgin as well and no girlfriend...and I haven't even lost my first kiss. My cousin has been asking me to get laid in a brothel. Heck, he would even pay for me. But I didn't take his offer because I believe losing virginity would mean a lot more when you do it with someone you love.
haha i said i was just kidding! that'd be something though to get infected from your hand!
24. Never had a gf before. I'm not antisocial, maybe a little quiet, but I'm pretty loud and outgoing when I'm having fun. I'm athletic, generally pretty friendly.. but I'm 5'2". I don't think I'm ugly, but my height has proven to be a serious handicap. The girls I've been attracted to in the past don't take me seriously because I look really young, and the people that know me are surprised to find out that I don't have a girlfriend, and haven't had one, period. I haven't lost hope completely, but it's gotten to the point where I've just stopped trying recently (though school also has a lot to do with that, constant rejection is the main cause of it). What am I doing wrong here?
I'm going on 19 this Feb. Also haven't had a gf before. It's not that I'm disinterested or anything. I just have other priorities in my life right now and a relationship would be too much of a hassle. Plus, I'm waiting for marriage before sex so clearly, losing my virginity isn't very high on my to-do list.
im 21, going 22 this march... im part of the population they named "no boyfriend since birth"... and in another sense, im still virgin... :3 they all say i have an intimidating aura thats why no boy has had the guts to ask me out even though they say i have the looks... sigh
5'8" male, 18, no experience at all with girls. at this point I'm starting to believe my height is holding me back. f***ing garbage I tell ya, I should've been aborted...
6' Male 18 no real experience what so ever. Never had a gf or anything. so yea im a virgin. Seems to me like there should be a way to pair up each of the girls and guys on here like me and then most of us would at least have some experience.
19, will be 20 in november. I have a bf (2 years in july) and we both are virgins. he's my 2nd bf (ex was a jerk. wanted sex lol) and i'm his first gf. so we wanna wait until wedding day.
I find it kind of funny how people say they are 18/19 and never had a girlfriend and never been kissed, etc. You are still pretty young and you have a full life ahead of you. By the time you are done with college you can lose track of the number of girls you slept with or even better; graduate with a diploma and a wife. So enjoy life when you are young.
Silly me who thought that having a girlfriend and such was part of "enjoying life".
aww... that makes me feel i'm not virgin anymore...
is it true?
17 years old. I almost lost it days ago, but I sort of killed the moment before it got too hot I realised when
Hello fellow virgins, may I ask what is --wrong-- with being a virgin?
Close call for you!! otherwise you would be facing hell now.
Smart man. Very smart man. Losing your virginity is not worth being a baby daddy for. Some bitch tried to trick me once by claiming she was on the pill. The tablets she showed me were actually antibiotics, and she made my life hell for the next month or so until I found out she had a period since.
>>one-night stands just feel cold and empty compared to making love to someone you truly care for.
Are you looking for a social, medical, or moral response?
I can answer the first two, but not the latter.
My question was ambiguous so I thought it'd be replied under the same nature it was asked. However in this context, please explain to me the social purpose, because it seems to be the main concern here.
I'm still a virgin...
I don't think it's wrong... since getting laid just for getting laid is much more like "being a protitute" with the trademark "Free services if customers are cute".
19 year old non-ugly virgin here.
Soon to be 20, and reporting in.
My first time asking a girl out got me stabbed in the stomach. Haven't had much balls since.
19 years old and still a virgin. I'm a frigging card-carrying member of the virgin club.
I don't think there's anything wrong with it. I actually don't want to do it before I find someone I really love. Plus, in a relationship, that bit of sexual tension can be fun and add a bit of spark and underlying tension. Not that I would know. ;_;
I only want sex if there's passion/love. If just for the sole purpose of losing my virginity then no.
I'm almost 25 and a virgin. I'm also worried about my appearance. I appear so nerdy and fat. Social skill sucks. I haven't been able to secure a full-time job yet since I graduated 2 years ago. I've been working on casual basis. But...My life is so empty. The only thing which keeps me going every day is entertainment by playing video games. I'm very worried about my future. I'm afraid of going out at night since the local news have been bombarded with street violence almost every week.
I'm 22 and a virgin, WHAT THE FUCK!!
Continue to search for a job earnestly, if you do it half-hearted, you likely won't succeed. Eat healthy, do fitness, sport, whatever to lose weight.
Was still underage B& back then, perhaps 14. My sister threw a house party and the girl that I had a crush on showed up to it. I was never into parties so much, but decided to mingle with the attendants. Long story short, I ended up trying to ask her out. The unfortunate part was the fact that she was emaciated, pissed as hell from some kind of shit happening with her boyfriend earlier that night, and carrying a pocketknife. The knife only penetrated like an inch though, perhaps less, so I was (unfortunately) ok. I think the bitch is in rehab lately, like most of the females in my area.
Work on it, anon. Keep talking to girls, even if it's only small talk. You'll get over your trauma eventually. Keep trying, otherwise you'll never get what you want.
I think your story's interesting... getting stabbed, not fun definitely...
I've been going to clubs, talking to girls at my school, etc. I even went to a dinner (all you can eat/drink) with one male friend and 2 other girls. I believe I'm a bit less awkward than I was 6 months ago, which is good, but I have a language barrier to get over where I am living.
you could at least punch her in the face. She'll know what it's like living with flattened Nose. ROFL
21 years old,
social ineptitude as a result of being a loner and a recluse for most of my childhood has lead to a state of involantery celibacy.
now thats a kicker...asking a girl you had a crush on, and instead of saying no...she stabs you...