Have any of you guys ever made a confession to a girl you truly admired?, and if so what was the outcome of doing that?.
I did it once and she was perfectly ok with it but we never got together or nothing. She was pretty understanding though.
Actually i did it a week before christmas.
She told me that she had a boyfriend, but she also said that she wasn't sure about him.
yes, i got....lets just be friends orz
After angsting a lot about it, I did... her answer:
1) "It's important that guys I date be the same denomination as me", and
2) "<mutual acquaintance> likes you."
The CUNT!, omg if I ever experienced that, I would have told off the both of them. I have no problem with offending or being upset at women, just the talking and being romantic part. =D
Ouch >>4 that really does suck.
I've confessed once, and I don't even remember what time it was, I think it was just a regular day after school in autumn or something. I met her like usual everyday after chemistry, and asked to talk to her about something after school. That's where I sort of blurted it to her. She told me she needed to think about it, and I let her bring up the topic when she made the decision. I got my answer in a week ^^
Well, in fairness I was kind of a freaky kid back then. Didn't talk much, wrote shitty emo poetry... hell, I was slightly stalker-ish. -__- I think a lot of my classmates had me pegged as 'that quiet guy that's going to snap one day, buy an AK-47 and take out a K-Mart'.
How about some success stories after a confession? :D
I confess to a girl and she rejects me. Then, she says that it's not possible to have things back the way they used to be (before I confessed)...I wish my end result was like Linus11's result...
I'm female (yes, I know; I don't exist) and I started to hang out with a classmate in college. One day he finally got up the nerve (on ICQ!) to confess that he really liked me more than as a friend, and asked if I would go out with him. Actually, I'd hoped he'd ask at some point, since I wouldn't have the nerve myself. It's been a few years, and we're still together (married and happy and everything). And he had been convinced, before that, that he was too weird and geeky to ever find a girlfriend. So don't give up!
>>12 I suppose that is pretty encouraging
Well, I've had my successes and failures, but more failures than successes.
Thank you so much madam >>13 and your spouse!!!
You've brought hope to us single men! KITAAA!
grrr, madam >>12 I meant...What can I say, it's late..
The closest I've come was essentially confessing to the girl I've let ruin my life; but there was too much drama involved and the Internet is too small for me to go into detail here. Suffice it to say it sucked (ry
Other relationships I've been in, there wasn't so much a confession as a period of mutual realization, which is fine too ...
I was about to, but when my friend confessed to a girl and she rejected him (she freaked out and stopped talking to him). Now he drinks any chance he gets and tells any girl he meets to fuck off. I wussed out because I didn't want to end up like him.
sounds like, me, minus the alcohol o_O, how long that been going on?
It happened about a year ago. He was going to talk to her about "closure" this past Christmas, I never followed up on it however.
That's what happened the last time I confessed too. The rejection reason was "I'm not ready for a relationship", and like with practically every time you hear that line, she meets some other guy and is then seen together with him less than a week after giving that reason.
Haha, a perfect thread for my story. I wrote about it soon after it happened to keep the pain alive! Just joking; I laughed and learned. Here it goes: (Ctrl+V)
I was confused. For months, it seems, she had been making subtle hints, leading me on to believe that she liked me. Touching me, leaning on me in the bus for long periods of time, grabbing my arm in the winter and pulling it close to her body (breasts (´д｀)ハーハー) to keep both her and me warm as I sat awkwardly, but not uncomfortably. Mentioning that in her family, touching is a sign of affection for someone. Things like that, I picked up on. And these things had all been adding up in my memory until one day, after the “final straw” per se, I decided to do something about it.
That really sucks. But it is common and normal.
Rule number 1
Girls are stupid
Ahh.. girls that give all the wrong signs are generally flirts that don't know what they want, or have fun teasing boys. This is behaviour exhibited by immature girls who are usually still in school, but some women don't grow out of it. Touching can be a sign of closeness.. the whole brotherly thing as well.
Most girls tend to be cryptive in weither or not they like someone, but if they tell you these lines..
I'm a girl too. If we say we want to stay friends it means "I don't want to have sex with you but I think you're a neat person. Please pretend I have a penis too from now on and don't be a baby and not talk to me because I don't want to have sex with you."
Could they be interested in the whole spending life together aspect of a relationship? Maybe that has something to do with why guys respond this way when rejected? Just a thought.
>> 27 Just because you're friends with a girl does't mean you can't date other girls at the same time. You're putting too much vagina into the "friends" concept, see? So if you find another girl while you're waiting around for girl #1, you now have a friend and a girlfriend instead of a string of girls you no longer talk to who probably think you're a jerk now. Just sayin'.
Hmmm, I haven't had the problem of continuing on after a confession ... yet.
Perhaps it's because I repress my feelings, and forget that the event of confession even occured. So I continue to socialize with her (whoever I confessed to, and that's about 5 people on this rock we call earth) as if the confession never occured.
I never thought about it that way, thanks
But I can't remain friends with her, though. I almost think we both went out of our ways to avoid each other after that. It's not like she said "let's just be friends" either, as how do you just return to that? It seems hard, especially if you weren't really friends but rather very close acquaintances.
In a perfect world, we would do this. Unfortunately, this ideal cannot be practically applied.
Congrats for one of the best posts ever made here.
>>33 Indeed. I act very different around girls, even online. Although I act different around different people in general - not that I pretend to be someone I'm not, but you know, I sort of have the habit of emulating the person I'm conversing with so it's easier to get along/connect/whatever. Especially obvious in IM's: the way I type to one person can be totally different than the way I type another. The most obvious difference is the use of "EMOTICONS," which I more or less only use when talking to guys for humor purposes, while when talking to girls I actually use them to give emotion to my text. This whole thing isn't very relevant, but it does add as proof that we treat girls differently, and do it subconsciously at times.
I dunno, I would probably do that for anyone who isn't a healthy (or obese) guy under 60 or so （´・ω・｀）
>>35 I can totally relate to you on the online thing. When conversing with my guy friends I'm crude and funny but around the women I'm a little more polite, caring and watch what I say to them because I might say something offensive. Lately I've realized though that this isn't good, I should just 'wing it' like I do with the guys, because being too nice is a killer, I've gotten into many scraps online for being too much of a nice guy. As crazy as that sounds it happens...
in fact, I think the whole "nice guy" might turn some women off. It's hard to balance being a jerk and being a nice guy perfectly. Do you think even comedians have this trouble? Sigh it's a confusing world we live in.
The confusion is the pleasure and the pain of living in the world, I think.
33, I have applied this in the real world four times, and am still friends with my exes (two of which got married to very nice girls, and yes, I went to the weddings.) Maybe it's not human biology that has to change , but the way you approach the situation. "it can't be helped" is an attitude that is an easy way out.
Argh. Rewriting this all so that it's not an off-topic tangent about what happened to me ...
>>33 can't be generalized too far; for example, I treat all of my friends basically the same, minus differences in the way the relationships have played out due to things like who I've actually gotten close to and who I haven't. I also tend to gravitate more towards girls as friends. I really don't have problems leaving any of those relationships as "just friends" unless something really bad happens (which has only really happened to me once, as alluded to in >>16, and >>26's characterization doesn't fit that situation. At all.).
I think you sound pretty normal, don't worry.
hi.. i'm pretty new here...
even tho back in the past i had 6 girlfriends, i didn't have that much feeling for any of them...... (yes, i was pretty much a pimp back then.. :p)
I can tell you one thing. Just try to get as close to her as you can. I had the same situation, but I was a dumb teenager. I was in love with a girl for a very long time. She was a daughter of my parents friends. We were meeting each other about once per year cuz she was living in another country. And after few years of my iddleness I have invited her to a party. We came back, but she was hugging one of my friends. Damn bitch >.>. So be fast or depressed. Just act while you can, or you'll regret it. You have to think about what can you gain and what can you lose.
that's the whole point... i can't preactically get close to her...
1st, we dun live in the same town anymore...
2nd, something worse is goin to come... i might hav to move to another city on the side of the globe for my study. the chance of seeing this girl again will reduce..
Since you don't have too much to lose, you can try to call her. If you feel brave enough. You don't know her name, so a phone call may be troublesome. But... how can it be that you don't know her name? You said that you know her friend. Can't she tell you her name? Anyway, maybe letter would be more proper? You don't have to worry. Even if you fail you will probably won't have another chance to see her. But... if you won't try, you'll be thinking for the rest of your life that there was a chance.
well... practically, we dun know each other's name...
but of course, i managed to know the name from my friend who happens to be her classmates...
and about the letter?? are u sure?? i mean.. letter?? during these days??
Now why do I suggest you letter:
In the letter you can tell her all of the story. Your point of view.
Telephone is for the short message. When you'll call her, and even when you tell her your name she may say "Thats nice but I don't remember you". That would be a total failure...
Oh crap... honestly, i haven't write any letters by hand since..... god knows when!!!
all wut i've been using is SMS......... or MSN........... or email.........
Yeah, thats ok. But...
DON'T EVER CONFESS YOUR LOVE USING SMS or MSN. Same goes to breaking up with a girl. Thats the biggest mistake you can make.
Maybe you'll try to call her, and ask her out? I htink that it'll be better to tell her personally than to use phone or any other media...
man... i never knew it was so hard to actually confess to someone you actually really like......
It's not that hard. But for the people that berely know each other it's not so natural...
I confessed and got shot down. friend zone FINISH HIM! orz
I just made a confession (Valentine's Day) and she said drumroll yes! （ ´∀｀）I'd like to thank the academy.
I've known her for two years and all. Problem is, we still haven't established a solid talking point (like how you can always go back to a particular topic with a friend). We're both really random and stuff. Hopefully I'll find something that I can always talk to her about.
congrats man, im sure you will find more things to talk about.
Hearty Internet congratulations, good sir.
heh, kickass bro. My relationship sort of got established yesterday too, I bought her a box of chocolates and I have her face as my cell phones wallpaper and showed it to her. I think we're pretty offical now.
hehe congrags to you both ^^ lucky bastards
Congrats to you two...Hopefully I can change my name one day....
congrats i hope you both stay together and be happy.
I made a confession to a girl I liked, like a year after I had gotten over her. She was flattered and terribly amused. Her being my best friend probably helped. I probably also should mention that she's straight and that is why I never bothered to ask her out, because I knew there was no way in hell she'd be interested.
i made a confession once. i was very drunk. i don't think he was even there, to be honest. but there's a door somewhere that knows the extent of my love.