Alright, I don't know about anybody else here, but I've never had a girlfriend. At least, not in real life. I've had one real girlfriend online, and we've had our problems and our.. not-problems. Anyway, we're not together anymore but we talk almost every day still, between friends and more-than-friends. I feel that I'll never have a real-life girlfriend, and that nobody will ever admire me in the way that I admire them. Am I just unlikeable? Is it because I'm 40 lbs overweight? I can't help it-- I eat 600 calories or more UNDER the recommended amount for my height and weight and I still manage to stay at 200. I'm more of a quiet person, I haven't asked many people out. People say that I need to concentrate on my schoolwork before a girlfriend and/or a job; my response is: I have concentrated on school for 15 damn years, I think I deserve a distraction. I have straight A's and I have nothing to faze that. I sometimes find myself flirting with a girl in German class, only to be kicked in the shin twice because she's aggressive and I said a minor sexual slur. MINOR, mind you.
With that negative attitude, no wonder you're so depressed! Cheer up and things will work out. And you're 15 years old. You've got all your life ahead of you.
Love is one of those things you can wait for. Don't rush. As Phil Collins once said, you can't hurry love.
>>2 thats so damn true.
I have no clue about your weight. Only KG tells me something. But even if you're fat you can have a girlfriend. We (guys) are basicly ugly, and girls don't really look for someone cute. Maybe they do but first thing that counts is personality. So even if you are looking like a total looser, don't act like one. Stop whining and do something with your life. You think that you are unlikable? Fell bad with it? Then change it! Try to find something you are good at and just enjoy it. You are only 15 fuckin years old! I had my first girlfriend when I was 19 (she was 16 though...). And I can call her girlfriend cuz I was meeting her in real life, we kissed, we had sex etc.
lmfao @ 3 - I don't eat McDonalds or KFC. I rarely eat that, and it's only when I'm looking for "fast food" because I'm on the run. I guess it doesn't help that my last quarter History class viewed me as a terrorist... and I'm not kidding on that. My teacher did this little "torture or not-torture" game. I didn't raise my hand to count for "torture" on any of the methods he listed. He said, "Since I know that everyone else in here, including myself, is wondering, what do you percieve as torture?" Now, having read Vince Flynn's "Memorial Day," he describes various methods of torture that the main character uses to get information. I described a few of these methods to the class, and made the girls next to me wet their pants with terror [not literally, but they were seriously scared, I guess]. Anyway, pretty much anyone besides guys was afraid to sit next to me in class [we have assigned seats]. I was, from then on, percieved as a terrorist to my 7th hour History class. The word spread by miouth throughout the entire "girl" network in my grade [we're in a Freshman center] and I basically was cut off from the opposite sex.
about the weight, do you exercise much? it isn't just what you eat - being active really helps too.
well at least u realize your problem yourself. work on having someone to care for you. dont just expect them to pop up into your life. if the girls hate you for what they think as being a 'terrorist', then just explain to them to change their perseption towards you and maybe they'll be interested in knowing the real you.
Kid, don't worry because you are very young. I got five years on you and I too haven't had a girlfriend and I chose a major in college that consumes my life (Electrical Engineering, I chose it to challenge myself and because I like it). Sorry you got other problems, but what alleviated the pain? Extra curricular activities. I'm part of five clubs, run one of them, and am involved in a UAV research project. I keep things busy and I figure that I might as well not be in too big a hurry. If you are in a hurry though, wait till college....I noticed that for some damn reason, EVERY one of my friends who lives in dorms has a girlfriend that they got freshman year. Me I'd rather not pay the fucking $7000 per semester living costs and save some cash. Everyone tells me I'm young and shouldn't worry too.
>>8 True. If I would have a crush on girl, I would just go to her and tell her about it.>>1 I don't worry about being rejected. Don't be so serious about it. Come on 95 Kg is ok when you'll turn the fat into muscles :P. One of my friends has 130Kg and he's got a 16 years old girlfriend. He loves young girls so when one gets too old he picks another one ;).
>It doesn't matter if you're the nicest guy-
Er, it sounds to me like you're a jerk. I'm a girl and I already can't stand you just from the way you talk about yourself. "Minor" sexual slurs to a girl you don't even know? Saying you're "too smart"? You keep blabbing about how the only reason girls don't like you is because of your looks, well first off, it's pretty obvious that is the last problem here. And there is no way EVERY girl at your school is a beauty queen princess. I'm sure the overweight girls at your school have all the same excuses you do, so why don't you go talk to one of them? You yourself said it didn't have to be a sexual relationship, so that shouldn't be important to you, right? Or were you just trying to make yourself out to be a saint?
Number one, the sexual slur was something about 69, and I DO know her- we talk all the time in class. I hardly consider a joke about 69 an offense to anyone. And with the sexual relationship- it doesn't make a difference to me. I want to wait anyway. Number two, the "too smart" thing was that I do nothing but school and computers. Everyone at school who knows who I am knows that I'm an expert with computers. I'm in every single Honors class I could take this year, so what does that make me? I don't know, fortunate?
>>11 Change your attitude or stay as a lonely fat ass forever.
PS. I'm a guy.
Trust me, I've seen relationships at 14/15 fail miserably. Your vision of a perfect girlfriend, that is, this:
>I want a girl who honestly cares about how I feel, how my day was.
Actually, I'm a guy and I know yokken personally, yet I still manage to agree with >>10. The impression he gives in this thread isn't the same as he gives me on AIM.
agrees with sakurina
stop making excuses and try to deal with the situation.work on getting a girl.
if densha could do it. so can you!
Uh, right. Densha. Sure.
>>11, Let me tell you a story. Every girl that I've ever gone out with that has been attractive, has screwed with m one way or another. Pretty girls will do that. The more attractive they are, by and large, the worse off you'll be, 95 times out of 100. They're not worth your time.
you sure sound experienced billy_uno, and your points are very true. expecially on the Densha Otoko issue.
thx for sharing it with us
What's with all the stupid names in this thread? Let's go back to being anonymous, people!
if you want someone to care for you, START CARING FOR OTHERS FIRST. Don't just wish, go out and do it.
Learn to talk too. And learn most importantly to listen to them:
I agree with peip. and I do prefer "anonymous" to these names
Do not wallow in self-pity, it is ugly. If you keep it up, nothing is going to change. Being miserable and doing nothing, only brings more nothing. If you want a girlfriend, do something about it. Make an effort to find someone, even if it is only little things like smiling a little more or making eye contact when speaking with women. These little things can sometimes have a big impact on how people see you.
Don't worry; when you get to be 30-40, love is destined. All those pretty girls who would never give you the time of day will come crawling back when they need a successful man to provide for them. Just try to find one that isn't such a whore, k?
Funny, most of the very attractive people I hang with are constantly used, and somewhat paranoid or oblivious because of it. Either they've noticed how many people just hang out with them because they want to get in their pants, and trust noone, or they take that behavior for the norm.
Oh noes, you got kicked in the shins. Move on.
I find this thread kinda sad because >>1 could fix himself up. However, I've been trying to fix myself up (pretty good job so far too), the biggest obstacle has been acne. orz. I'd be considered quite handsome without it. I've tried everything! Damned teenage years. At least I can always hope for a solution, and be thankful that it isn't as bad as other people. Some people have it crazy bad!
Seriously, what have you tried, because there are some over the counter things which I've found effective. I was mostly too lazy to stick with them.
my mother ended up sending me to the doctor for my acne, cause she didnt want me to end up looking like my father (lol).
he prescribed me some stuff called roaccutane (sp?)... strongest medicine ive ever been on lol, but it sure fixed my problem ;)
Proactive Solution being the most recent, pretty expensive for stuff that doesn't last too long, but really no effect >.<
A bunch of other things, doctor prescribed things that had little effect...
I always wondered if I was screwing something up or something like that.. Like too stupid to apply medication correctly? sigh, lol
Go run your fat, sorry ass around the block a couple of times, get over yourself, and quit whining about being single. Pissing and moaning will not get you a girlfriend. Why don't you join the marines or the peace corps or something...that will totally get you laid.
hi i'm new to this thread, I'm 16 years old = years being single. I currently have a japnese friend (girl) who i talk to using SKYPE. we have talked for 6 hours once which was the first time for me to talk to a girl that long ~"~ I have sent her a christmas gift and she liked it alot.... the problem is here ~"~ I start to like this girl now and the problem is i live in australia and i'm so far awaay ~"~ i am thinking of confessing to her next time we talked but i havn't heard from her for 3 weeks now >"< can someone please give me some advise?? I'm afraid i will get rejected if i say it >"<
Long distance relationships are hard, esp if you have never even seen each other.
How long have you been in touch with her?
Have you talked to each other often?
once you do confess to her whats gonna happen next. When do u plan to meet her?
Confessing is somthing done in real life not on the phone, perhaps you should consider going to Japan, if u realy like her that much.
Well..just be careful.. Hopefully, the situation wont turn out like what happeend to the other guy who went to Japan for a week to visit a girl he liked and got turned down.
thanks for the advise! i had a think about it again and thought maybe its better just to remain good friends otherwise if i get rejected maybe we wont even be friends. well we use to talk alot and seem to be intrested in the same things, i was thinking of visiting her in japan during the holidays but that seems to be impossible. its really weird cos she usualy replies my email in 2-3 days and latley i just keep waiting for 2- 3 weeks now...oh well i think i will just remain friends haha xD
maybe she has been busy lately, or have u increased the frequency of the emails? But i think you staying friends with her is a good decision, instead of just confessing.
i think she has been busy because i only sent 1 email. yeah i though that was a better idea as well