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How to date a Japanese girl? (87)


1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-01-27 14:32 ID:+0Z1XWt2

So I live in the countryside of Japan. Not many opportunities to meet pretty girls out here, but I have met one. The problem is, outside of hand holding, she has been very non-commital. But whenever I give up on her, she emails me saying she really wants to do something with me.
I'm not sure about the rules in Japan. Does one just go for the gusto, like in the Japanese movies? Somehow I doubt life is like the fiction. I'm a relatively shy guy that got tired of being burned, so my progress is glacial to say the least.

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2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-01-27 14:41 ID:Heaven

Maybe she wants out of the country, like most Japanese women dating foreigners.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-01-27 16:22 ID:0BzrKixk

"Most" Japanese women? That's a generalization. In fact, this whole thread is a generalization. Why do you ask for directions for Japanese women, instead of just women in general? Think for a moment; is it the girl you have fallen for, or the girl's ethnicity? Do the same things with her you would do with a woman back home, and you should be fine. And even if you do end up screwing up, you have the foreigner immunity of not knowing any better to fall back on.

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4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-01-27 17:02 ID:+0Z1XWt2

you guys aren't listening. The question is how to deal with a woman that comes from a Japanese cultural background. Each culture has its dating rules.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-01-27 18:58 ID:4WX5bGD9

>>1
Just give up. From your post, it is obvious that things won't get anywhere between the two of you.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-01-27 20:29 ID:1sI+h2sB

>>1
Bridge the language-cultural barrier with obscene amounts of sex.

Seriously though, don't ask a bunch of English-speakers for advice. Ask a Japanese guy how to date a Japanese girl.

7 Name: jomblo : 2006-01-28 22:33 ID:wN8eRD7n

okay... i was dating 4 Japanese girls back then... n' it was good, until i f**ked it up myself... yea, i was pimp, n' i'm proud... =D

rules:

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8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-01-28 23:33 ID:Heaven

>>7
Please stop putting stuff in the name field.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-01-29 00:50 ID:Heaven

>>7
"and"
"fuck"
"you"

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-01-29 02:04 ID:Heaven

>>7
clearly too much dating japanese girls and not enough learning english for this one. gb2/school

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-01-29 03:12 ID:8CUcLg+k

well since Im in japan right now also, and have some insight on this, don't be shy. be considerate, but somewhat assertive. Its the same as America in the sense that if you dont make a move then nothing will happen.

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12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-01-29 09:57 ID:Jm54xs/r

see someone else...if it's non commital, then there isn't a big deal.

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-25 05:51 ID:Xq8oLlRk

>>6
I don't think asking Japanese guys such advices is a good idea. Japanese men hate Japanese women dating with non-Japanese men. They sometimes insult couples of Japanese women and foreign men on their BBS.

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-25 14:12 ID:iv14F465

but they enjoy Manga and Anime with a bunch of big breasted white-looking women? lol...

15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-25 18:19 ID:Heaven

>Japanese men hate Japanese women dating with non-Japanese men.

yay, just what this thread needs, more gross generalizations.

16 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-02-26 11:44 ID:TDSTLwnq

hi i'm new to this thread, I'm 16 years old = years being single. I currently have a japnese friend (girl) who i talk to using SKYPE. we have talked for 6 hours once which was the first time for me to talk to a girl that long ~"~ I have sent her a christmas gift and she liked it alot.... the problem is here ~"~ I start to like this girl now and the problem is i live in australia and i'm so far awaay ~"~ i am thinking of confessing to her next time we talked but i havn't heard from her for 3 weeks now >"< can someone please give me some advise?? I'm afraid i will get rejected if i say it >"<

17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-26 12:07 ID:JIXp/6zu

>>16
I wanted to point out that you are 16 years old and your post number is 16, congratulations.

if she accepts your confession (which i highly doubt will happen) then good, but good luck going to Japan and going to school having a relationship at the same time.

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18 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-02-26 12:14 ID:TDSTLwnq

hmm i see, thanks for the adivice ^^! i will try my best!

19 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-02-26 12:20 ID:TDSTLwnq

my friend said mostly what you said. he told me not to say it because i will just hurt my self... i have one more question to ask.... do you think i should confess or better if i dont??

20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-26 13:08 ID:JIXp/6zu

>>19

"you must do what you think is right for yourself"
i dont know how well you deal with rejection, or how you can handle situations so i cant be the judge. hell if i was in your position i would think about if it is even possible in the first place.

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21 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-02-27 07:17 ID:TDSTLwnq

hmm from your oppinion, i did think about it more. maybe i shouldn't confess after all but i think i will just remain good friends, it seems to be a better choice xD

22 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-28 02:12 ID:iv14F465

as time goes on you never know what might unfold, so I agree with your choice to sit tight for now...hell, something a lot more local might come into your sight sooner than you think young man!

23 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-02-28 07:39 ID:TDSTLwnq

thanks for the help! i could have done something extremly stupid!~ OMZ

24 Name: Mireille guy : 2006-03-02 01:08 ID:qxVLenLm

i agree with >>6
it's the universal language. there are no rules when it comes to love.

25 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-02 09:48 ID:M3kEskh7

really??!

26 Name: KUNNO : 2006-03-14 03:27 ID:LWG/h4gT

i think secret admirer is good at giving advice

27 Name: KUNNO : 2006-03-14 03:28 ID:LWG/h4gT

i dont have girlfriend for a very long time (three weeks) am i bad?

28 Name: KUNNO : 2006-03-14 03:31 ID:LWG/h4gT

why there are alot of secret admirers?

29 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-14 03:46 ID:xKTRPjA9

That's the default name if you leave "Name:" blank. Like I did for this post.

30 Name: KUNNO : 2006-03-14 03:52 ID:LWG/h4gT

ah something for me
:P

31 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-14 04:29 ID:G/nNjrcB

>>27 well techinicly some people here hasn't even got a girlfriend in thier life! like me, i never had a gf yet ! >"<

32 Name: KUNNO : 2006-03-14 05:32 ID:LWG/h4gT

lol

33 Name: Khurram_777 : 2008-01-18 10:26 ID:DCk0yIJG

I want good relationship with you.im a sincere.romantic and ..................

34 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-18 14:21 ID:YOT8iUul

>>2
They only want out of the country until they leave...then they miss Japan and want to go back. Maybe it's cause they suffer their first mugging. Who knows?

35 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-18 14:24 ID:YOT8iUul

>>14
No, Japanese don't watch anime, only Weeaboos on 4chan watch anime.

36 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-18 14:31 ID:Heaven

This thread is what happens when people who've never dated give dating advice.

37 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-18 16:04 ID:Heaven

Densha Otoko is what happens when people who've never dated give dating advice.

38 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-18 17:09 ID:xVcvocrF

>>36
>>37

But it's all good entertainment, right?

39 Name: AmericanGuy : 2008-01-19 02:14 ID:DFN/WGwT

Dont do it kid, you dont know this girl. Shes 16, and in JAPAN 16 year olds are considered ADULTS!

For all you know she might be in some BUKKAKE FILM?

40 Name: AmericanGuy : 2008-01-19 02:14 ID:DFN/WGwT

Dont do it kid, you dont know this girl. Shes 16, and in JAPAN 16 year olds are considered ADULTS!

For all you know she might be in some BUKKAKE FILM?

41 Name: AmericanGuy : 2008-01-19 02:15 ID:DFN/WGwT

Dont do it kid, you dont know this girl. Shes 16, and in JAPAN 16 year olds are considered ADULTS!

For all you know she might be in some BUKKAKE FILM?

42 Name: AmericanGuy : 2008-01-19 02:15 ID:DFN/WGwT

Dont do it kid, you dont know this girl. Shes 16, and in JAPAN 16 year olds are considered ADULTS!

For all you know she might be in some BUKKAKE FILM?

43 Name: AmericanGuy : 2008-01-19 02:16 ID:DFN/WGwT

Dont do it kid, you dont know this girl. Shes 16, and in JAPAN 16 year olds are considered ADULTS!

For all you know she might be in some BUKKAKE FILM?

44 Name: AmericanGuy : 2008-01-19 02:17 ID:DFN/WGwT

Dont do it kid, you dont know this girl. Shes 16, and in JAPAN 16 year olds are considered ADULTS!

For all you know she might be in some BUKKAKE FILM?

45 Name: AmericanGuy : 2008-01-19 02:18 ID:DFN/WGwT

Dont do it kid, you dont know this girl. Shes 16, and in JAPAN 16 year olds are considered ADULTS!
For all you know she might be in some BUKKAKE FILM?

46 Name: AmericanGuy : 2008-01-19 02:19 ID:DFN/WGwT

Dont do it kid, you dont know this girl. Shes 16, and in JAPAN 16 year olds are considered ADULTS!
For all you know she might be in some BUKKAKE FILM?

47 Name: AmericanGuy : 2008-01-19 02:20 ID:DFN/WGwT

Dont do it kid, you dont know this girl. Shes 16, and in JAPAN 16 year olds are considered ADULTS!
For all you know she might be in some BUKKAKE FILM?

48 Name: AmericanGuy : 2008-01-19 02:21 ID:DFN/WGwT

Dont do it kid, you dont know this girl. Shes 16, and in JAPAN 16 year olds are considered ADULTS!
For all you know she might be in some BUKKAKE FILM

49 Name: AmericanGuy : 2008-01-19 02:24 ID:DFN/WGwT

DONT DO IT BENSON!

In japan 16 is an ADULT, and she could be in BUKKAKE MOVIES for all you know!

50 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-26 22:42 ID:Heaven

16? Adult? No, not really.

51 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-02 10:57 ID:Heaven

20 is the usual age at which someone becomes an adult in Japan. I think it differs in some areas, but yeah.

52 Name: Japan Educated : 2008-06-12 02:11 ID:ct3NaIbT

first about Japanese NOT watching anime...I think that you are forgetting who created anime to begin with THE JAPANESE. Anime and Manga are sold everywhere to the Japanese, they read Anime and Manga more than most American or Brits read Tabloids.

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53 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-12 03:47 ID:Heaven

>There are a total number of 4 religions and 24 Japanese cultures
>Anime and Manga are sold everywhere to the Japanese, they read Anime and Manga

thanks for that informative necro

54 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-15 14:06 ID:NLbcTOIE

>>52

leave.

55 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-01-31 23:39 ID:gcqyPtNS

I like chocolate!

56 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-02-01 00:21 ID:GlOQx4WT

OP
I can't offer you advice that comes from personal experience on dating japanese women however i had the same problem as I was working a co-op term in seoul, Korea. Having studied in japan for about 8 months i found that they are very similar in that they are very shy and will almost never make a first move so it is up to you to make a first move and let her know you are interested.

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57 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-02-03 02:55 ID:z9z53qnY

Nice 2 year necro, guys. Just let this thread die in peace.

58 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-03-25 16:46 ID:o3zMQVjX

2 years old? Try 4! HOLY MOLEY!

59 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-03-25 23:48 ID:z9z53qnY

Use sage next time, lol. This thread refuses to die, it seems.

60 Name: No LYFE : 2010-03-29 03:29 ID:W53Fgla1

FUCK ALL U PIECES OF SHITS

61 Name: No LYFE : 2010-03-29 03:32 ID:W53Fgla1

NICE WET PUSSY

62 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-05-18 03:13 ID:4z7TnArs

BALLSACK

63 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-05-23 17:23 ID:7XL9U/YK

AWWWW YEEAAAA

64 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-05-26 01:04 ID:z9z53qnY

LOL DIPSHITS.

65 Name: unDead : 2010-06-11 13:59 ID:HvVvoWWM

Love is Love. If you choose to give up on her, then DO so. ~ If you choose to have a relationship, then go find one ...with someone who is worthy of YOU. (NOT the other way around!)

Even in the remote country-side, a person will find choices. And Love, ...TRUE Love... is never hidden. TRUE Love is not found by playing (her)Game-of-Confusion or Condescention.

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66 Name: Your Mum : 2010-06-24 03:18 ID:aNKzpqE3

Hey jap addicts, stop being a noob and go back to your own fucking country =)

67 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-09-21 14:57 ID:ah+GjhhD

http://jpnladies.blog.shinobi.jp/

68 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-09-23 05:34 ID:Heaven

>>66
No. I love hearing a jap girl squeal when I have my way with her while her husband is working. Feels good, man. =)

69 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-08-25 06:32 ID:m/zqiKoc

Response to >>1 "I'm a relatively shy guy that got tired of being burned, so my progress is glacial to say the least."
Be shy, you have your reasons; and in your own time-ing you will grow less shy. Until then seek slutter women, play in the sac (to some degree) and build your Confidence.

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70 Name: sweet mullet : 2012-05-01 19:12 ID:cWeLLa/n

oh my jizz! it got necro-ed 5 yrs... let this thread die guyz

71 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-05-02 04:42 ID:Heaven

>>70
your words are at odds with your actions

72 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-05-10 11:10 ID:Dghv3CGi

OK Japanese women are just like any other women, they all want the same thing, kindness, protection and providence from their man. A girl may already like you and is hoping that you do to, so they wait for you to do want thing, and that's to confess to them, because they're afraid that you might not like them back, so if you really love this girl confess to her and she'll tell you what she wants, unlike the US, Japanese woman are very considerate and will accept your feelings, but they'll tell you that they're not interested if they don't like you. My apologies for this being late, I just found this site.

73 Name: ham : 2012-06-06 18:30 ID:cWeLLa/n

hm... really? i thought jap babes usually are the more forward types who will confess their feelings for you like those cliched jap high school movies? and give handmade goodies on valentines too?
i also here they are a bit more materialistic? is that true?

74 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-06-11 04:20 ID:RllnNF0k

SOS!
【Japan is being in a critical situation】
In spite of this is an important time for Japan to revive, Japanese Government keeps trying to profit China and Korea.
So China has been invading Japan, and Korea has been eating at Japan.

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75 Name: Wolf : 2013-08-14 14:52 ID:I51loVbF

The Japanese are very reserved with their romance. They tend towards subtle flirting with gestures, body language, and indirect statements much more than western cultures which emphasis bravely pursuing a kiss or embrace. While they MAY find western bluntness some what endearing they will also shy away from it if they feel it is too much too soon or too fast. The Japanese do tend to put a lot of importance on the social bonds they form with others and as such take longer to reach a level of even friendship with others. The most you can do is be yourself but moderate some of your affectionate behavior so you're not "coming on too strong" and just take your time. Eventually when you've known each other for a good amount of time I think a minimum of a 1/2 a year would be ok you should admit how you feel and ask her on a date. There are some culture differences but women like feeling special and that's universal.

76 Name: Secret Admirer : 2014-03-27 16:06 ID:I60K8yIh

Japanese Cute Girls Photo
http://girlsjapanese.com/

77 Name: Secret Admirer : 2014-03-27 17:51 ID:4SPAXk6j

They DO NOT date otakus and freaks.

78 Name: Anonymous : 2014-06-09 07:27 ID:8s/YwKFq

you need to do her in the butt

79 Name: gorrillaconvention : 2014-08-03 20:58 ID:Heaven

i dont care who says theyre hot or they arent id still put it in all their holes

80 Name: Ernesto : 2014-08-05 06:25 ID:xzrR3YTL

Try online dating like POF eg. The simplest way facebook or video-chats like originclub.com dating-chat and so on. There is nothing difficult man. A friend of mine met girl from RUSSIA on such a site. He even moved to Russia to met her IRL. I think it's easier to meet girl from Japan.

81 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-10-24 03:37 ID:OnsW5Gk8

hello!

82 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-10-24 03:38 ID:OnsW5Gk8

i'm japanese high school girl.

83 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-10-24 03:45 ID:OnsW5Gk8

I may be able to answer this qestion.

84 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-10-25 10:03 ID:sU/tsnT6

Please do.(〃・ω・〃)

85 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-10-28 01:41 ID:u4h0B6Jz

(ノシ´・□・`)ノシ What about Japanese boys!?

86 Post deleted.

87 Name: Secret Admirer : 2016-11-02 04:26 ID:aEUYGwtI

I want to hold hands with someone cute in the Japanese countryside (´・ω・`)