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1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-22 00:56 ID:Heaven

Singles aren't the only ones with problems. Or just gloat about how great your sweetie is.

2 Name: SynthL0rd : 2006-02-22 02:20 ID:ivTomL9X

I'm not exactly sure if she loves me or she's just shy.
Her friend tells me that she talks about me all the time, but she hardly shows any affection around me.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-22 02:51 ID:xj3YgoTa

Christ I need to get out of this soon. Long distance relationships can work, but only if the person on the other end of the distance isn't a complete arse.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-22 20:08 ID:ph7R5DAN

>>2
You need to be more affectionate towards her, and ask her to be more affectionate towards you - and most importantly of all, ask her what she defines as being affectionate, and tell her what you define as being affectionate. People have different expectations of what a relationship is like, and they see things differently.

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5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-22 21:59 ID:udQVJbNA

'Sup long distance relationship buddies?

My girlfriend and I were only together for five months before she moved back home to Japan. I've spent about two months over there since then (god bless long university vacations and big student loans!), but all the months in between are pretty hard. We see each other every day over webcams, but it's not the same as having her here...

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6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-23 05:36 ID:p+E0eL3U

>>5 GOOD LUCK! (^∀^)

7 Name: G Otoko : 2006-02-23 09:56 ID:ojExTirQ

My girlfriend and I are going to move in together. I am scared since we are doing it for school and it's going to be tough. I think we will get through it. I am just nervous.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-13 20:05 ID:ph7R5DAN

this post is rated: [emo][stupid][hikky][confused]

I don't feel worthy of my girlfriend. She's a beautiful, wonderful angel. She needs me right now, but I'm thinking of leaving her when she gets better. Somehow I just can't stop feeling as if she deserves so much better. She has a lot more money than me, and we're dating over a long distance. She keeps having to cough up cash to visit me, but I can't afford visiting her. I can't hold down a job because my studies suffer too much every time I try. I can barely handle school because of my stupid mental problems. I'm trying to become a better person, but it still feels as if I'll never reach her level. I especially feel embarassed when it comes to how her family must feel when it comes to me. Her father's a rich doctor, and the ambitious type of bloke. Hard worker too, and so is her mom. She runs a successful company. It feels as if I'm a financial leech, since my girlfriend keeps having to visit me, and pay for everything she wants to drag me to. Now, I'm no delusional macho bloke who wants to pay for "his woman", but being able to go dutch would be really good. She's even payed twice to have me flown to to her place. Now, she's not a rich, spoiled brat. She had to work for her money. Her allowance isn't particularly big and goes mostly towards her tuition fees.

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9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-14 05:51 ID:Heaven

>>8
She doesn't want someone else; she wants you.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-14 05:55 ID:6Y+gdhf7

autosage ftl

That isn't to say you shouldn't try to improve yourself, but she obviously is willing to give up other things (she might not even feel that way though as she likely does want to be with you) and work past any of you shortcomings. She isn't an angel either. No one is perfect. Don't put her on a pedastal and be willing to do what she will do for you for her.

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-14 06:54 ID:q/VKuMFn

I'm the anon who started the "Has my time finally come?" thread. Shes very cute and nice to talk to, but right now I'm not quite sure if she wants to stick it out with me. The way we met was so neat though, and we've already been on one succesful date. I'm probably jumping to conclusions, I'll be able to better judge our situation from here on out. My only problem is to be a better conversationalist and not go on and on about geeky things like I have before......

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-17 23:31 ID:ph7R5DAN

>>9-10
I was very much aware of that she wasn't "perfect", I just saw her as very much above me.
Thanks though. I feel a bit stupid for being blinded because of being scared, thanks for the reality check. I need to not use incorrect measures for the things she does. We talked and she said it didn't really matter to her, and that she doesn't feel she's missing out on anything, and by golly I believed her. Meh. I'll just have to work on feeling better about myself, and not feel as if I'm in the way when I'm not.

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-19 21:00 ID:RbK6MnJW

>>7 Here's an idea: don't. Study after study after study has shown that couples who cohabitate before marriage are more liikely to end their marriage in divorce than those who wait until after marriage.

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-19 21:42 ID:ph7R5DAN

>>13
Requesting data for "why", and potentially sources.

15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-20 02:42 ID:p+E0eL3U

he can't there are none.

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-20 03:58 ID:q/VKuMFn

Interesting. My girl admitted to me today that she's been dating two other guys before she met me, and she hoped I wasn't mad. The only reason why I'm not too angry is because we JUST met, and we're not really at the exclusivity point yet, far from it at this point. THings will change over time, but I'm glad she was honest about it.

17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-20 06:55 ID:rJC2p7xE

>>15 Nonsense, it's common knowledge in family sociology.

http://www.psychpage.com/family/mod_couples_thx/cdc.html

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18 Name: 9-10 : 2006-03-20 13:28 ID:Heaven

>>12
You're welcome.

>>13,17

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19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-20 15:18 ID:6qpapd5H

well i believe he is assuming that they are the same culture.

20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-20 21:22 ID:ph7R5DAN

>>17
Financial reasons may the why for one doesn't get married.
A real wedding is rather expensive you know, since usually your family and relative feel rather insulted if you do not invite them, along with other people who consider themselves important in your life.

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21 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-20 21:23 ID:ph7R5DAN

Now, I don't know about you, but as a very picky person, of course I'm gonna make sure I know for certain that it's very likely that I will be able to have a successfull longterm relationship before actually getting married with someone. Some things you can't discover unless you've been in a situation that's relatively close to what you'll be having after you've involved a lot of red tape.

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22 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-20 21:25 ID:ph7R5DAN

Your life-partner is supposed to be your team-mate. Not your subordinate or superior, not a leach nor sugar daddy/mommy.

Having seen my parents' relationship, as well as my grandparents', whose marriage were just as bad, and probably worse, there really is no way I can take someone seriously if they claim that any kind of living together before marriage is a bad thing. Not when you're picky, at least. It's like sex before marriage. It can be a very good thing, and it can be a very bad thing. Depends on why people are having sex, how the relate to it and how they're having it. Especially having unsafe sex when you're not trying to get pregnant/catch STDs is just plain idiotic. And having sex just as a form of masturbation using another human body is rather stupid and inconsiderate too (unless both are in on it, then we enter the "Why" area).

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23 Name: Saw-Square : 2006-03-20 23:43 ID:eKnMqwjG

Well, 45minutes ago I proposed myself to my girlfriend. And she said Yes... I guess things will never be the same from now on... Goind to get rid of some Emo stuff I've gathered from many years, and start saving as much money as we can. Hope it was the right decision.

24 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-21 03:32 ID:1E3UUySD

Congrats Saw-Square. I hope you have a happy future.

25 Name: G Otoko!AboRDsJIEk : 2006-03-21 05:24 ID:ojExTirQ

>>23

Awesome! Congrats!

26 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-21 12:25 ID:XGtaLJLg

>>23 after only 45 minutes from proposing, you are on 4ch...
thx for sharing your happiness :) cong rats rats rats rats

27 Name: Saw-Square : 2006-03-21 13:01 ID:yeVAdwNO

Thank you all for your kind words! I must admit I'm a bit scared. I'm 26 Years old and we have been dating for 6 years. I think it was the right decision because It's getting really hard to, everyday, say goodbye to her (we live 100Km away (62 Mile)). Theres so much things to do first, and that's why we don't have a date for the weading yet. There's a lot of savings to make, be sure that our job's will last long, find a not-so-expensive place to live... I hope everything goes fine.

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28 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-28 05:03 ID:ruiJ7s8c

My husand and I were best buddies for the first 2.5 years of our relationship. It was purely platonic. I dated guys and would tell him all about it. He gave me a lot of advise about dating. After a while, I got sick of dating and I felt disappointed with it. I gave up on men for a while. But he was still there for me as he'd always been.

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29 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-28 05:07 ID:ruiJ7s8c

My husand and I were best buddies for the first 2.5 years of our relationship. It was purely platonic. I dated guys and would tell him all about it. He gave me a lot of advise about dating. After a while, I got sick of dating and I felt disappointed with it. I gave up on men for a while. But he was still there for me as he'd always been.

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30 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-28 16:39 ID:Heaven

>>28 : No.
>>29 : Yes.

Seriously though, congradulations, and also >>27

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31 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-29 15:23 ID:Heaven

>>29
No. Been there done that. Sans the married bit, we haven't gotten hitched yet.

32 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-29 15:25 ID:+QYSP86+

>>23
Wow, congrats

33 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-05-26 11:24 ID:djGXcRt6

>>23
Sell it like it's hot. Boom time for Emo merchandise.