Hello fellow anon, I've an interesting story to tell.
I'm a college sophomore, going for a BS in Electrical Engineering. In short, I have way too much school and not much in the ways of free time. Whatever free time I do have I devote to work and extracurricular activities (anime club, kendo, gaming, tutoring, etc.) And I like to help with certain events, like a big science competition between middle and high school kids.
wooww!! thats a nice story ^^ Details Requested!!
Another interesting thing was that during the event, the girl I talked to, her mother came in to spectate their second try. We talked a little bit and she seemed nice enough, so I might be already in good standings with her mom....
thats a really good start!! Good job!! keept it up ^^ what signs did she show??
well if she doesn't want to get into a relationship, why is she dropping all those hints? girls just don't know what they want :P
usualy if girls give out signs, i think they are intrested in you or they might like you... but i am not sure cos i neva had a relationship before ＿|￣|○"
Some girls are naturally flirty and will literally go for anyone, but their conversations are usually meaningless and immature. Since this girl is intelligent and plain out said she wants to talk to you again, I'd say this is a beautiful start to a relationship. And you scored points with the mother? Very nice. I'm happy for you, I love those unexpected experiences. That gives hope to all that have lost hope.
flirty is one thing. but to be so forward about giving/getting numbers?
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good job man, you be one of the lucky ones, id say, go for it
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Go chemistry otoko! YOU CAN DO IT!
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She's a genius because she can get a 4.2 in highschool.. what?
Anyways, she is definately interested in you and you don't seem like a complete geek. Just be yourself.
i wish you luck with that, just keep us updated on your progress.
Yeah people, FFS he's in Electrical Engineering, so he should be...
Even better. >>12
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Electrical Engineering Major with aspirations for a girlfriend. We don't need to tack 男 onto everything
Thanks for the input guys. And wouldn't it be 電工学男? Heres an update: We chatted a bit today and she said she prefers to talk on AIM and through email, so we might end up chatting tonight, I don't know. Most likely we'll do something Saturday, what I don't know. And lucky me, tomorrow's payday so I can afford to have fun, w00t.
That's the point, isn't it? To get advice.
though i am glad to hear what is going on, i dont think this story screams densha, it may feel like it, hell love is like riding a rollercoaster. but the fact is you pretty much set things up for yourself and didn't really need our help with anything, i believe we gave minumal advice. but if things get hairy (which im it will) in the future we will be here to back you up. good luck with setting up something and try not to change yourself too much, be who you are, not who she wants you to be, or something like that.
yea i agree, this is different from densha otoko. I wish you all the best!! tell us more when something happens ^^
Well, we didn't get to talk too much until tonight. Found out she's never been camping, so I'll have to take her out to see that sometime. Also found out our music tastes differ slightly (she does rock, I do techno, but I like both)....hopefully shes tolerant and can forgive that.
I'd aim for reveal with discretion. I (like most here I'd wager) am into very geeky things. I've found that by talking to a girl and getting to know her well to the point where she's happy to run into you on the street and have a converstation, you can just drop the bomb "So I was watching this anime while reading comic books and playing warquest..." and she'll just have a "I didn't know you were into that stuff, huh. Anyway..." reaction.
Hobbies are good, and you seem to have a nice range of them and not devouting your self entirely to one thing. You don't really need to hide them.. unless you are into lolis and/or guro/whatever.
talk about hobbies when you have the chance, like if shes intrested in your hobbies tell her about it then. its better to show it then hide it because if she finds out one day, she will think you have been hiding things from her.
I took your advice and turns out she really doesn't know what anime is, but then she doesn't really mind it either way. THanks for this, its a huge weight off my shoulders.
wooww!!! nice to hear!!!! GOOd JOB!!!ﾟ∀ﾟ~~~~~~
Your support is appreciated. We talked a bunch more tonight (for like 3 hours), and we made arrangements for a date this weekend. What we do I've yet to come up with, but I think I can officially declare she wants to get into this. Saying she'll get dolled up, mentioning how we met was convenient and how she wished for a while she had asked for MY number of all things....oh yeah, I can honestly say I'm too happy. Just gotta stay cool....
mmaann i am so happy fo ya!! your one lucky guy!! if you do arrange on a date, make sure you stay cool and dont get too nervouse about it. make sure you got those minty breath things so you dont have bad breath! Wish you All the best and Good luck!!
I suppose because he's gotten further than the rest, who just had potential to date. Now he's arranged one.
Have a great time and tell us the details of how it went!
ask her what she thinks of your guro collection
Well, I think she had a good time. She indicated to me that I had the distinct honor of being the first guy to ever take her out to dinner, and I indicated that she was doing the same honor for me as well. She was really impressed with the food, I took her some place really nice and didn't have to pay too much either ($35 aint bad). We then decided to go downtown to try some coffee place, but then we found parking sucked and she said she was tired since she'd been up since 6 today. So I took her home and we parted with a hug, and then we messaged each other some farewells. I said something along the lines of "Missing you already", and she seemed to be compatible with that.
This is number 27 ( tripcode was added because I had forgot that the pound symbol was the trip for it, as was found out in another thread sheepish laugh:decided to keep it ). Glad that my paltry advice had helped to lift a burden, and I am glad that things are going good for you. thumbs up
Keep it uP!!!
She gave me her honest opinion of it, and she noted that conversation was weak. Trouble is, I've been kinda respressed most of my life and am not much of a talker, so I might need some advice on what to talk about. Her birthday is coming up soon too, gotta figure out something nice to get her. Any suggestions? (Shes one of those who says "Oh, you dont' have to get me anything", but I know that trap and I aint falling for it)
hhmm denki (if you dont mind i call you that) try and make conversation with her. talk about movies, work, school ect! hhm for her birthday, see if you can get her a bracelet or necklace, i heard girls like those for presents! Hope this helps ^^
jewelry is a little ehh this early on, if you do do it, certailny nothing expensive
flowers or a teddy bear or something would be better imho
well yeah not too expensive but like those nice looking normal ones, not those expensive ones with jewelrys on it. but flowers or teddy bear is also a good choice!
hmm that reminds me i bought a christmas present to a girl i met on the net and i gave her a bracelet.. she likes it alot ^^
Hello, this is denki (an appropriate title for me). I should have expected this, but I think I'm getting the friend treatment here. Tonight we talked, and we got on the subject, and she said outright that shes not looking for a relationship, just as she said on day one. I admit I am quite dissapointed, but all hope is not lost. I should have expected this anyways, but our relationship is so new....shes all for dating and hanging out and talking, but she's not for the relationship at this point. Luckily, its not exlusively for me, shes consistent with the other guys shes been dating. Complicated things have become....what dissapoints me most is that there is mutual attraction and shes sees the potential, but shes worried since shes going away to college, despite the fact that its only an hour away....I suppose I'll continue to pursue things as they are. I said that I think its too early to call it either way, and she agreed. Things could change significantly in the next 3 or 4 months....
Denki, at least she let you take her out to dinner. That might mean you're special, right? Maybe she wants a relationship but isn't totally sure because she doesn't know you...I wouldn't jump straight into a relationship either without getting to know the other person better. Just wait.
"I said that I think its too early to call it either way, and she agreed."
It's great that you've got the courage to say those kinds of things to her, instead of just passively accepting friendzone. If you seem confident, it'll be easier to win her over. Good luck denki!
wow Denki! i dont think she will let you take her for for dinner if it was just friends!~ just dont give up any hope! i reckon you should wait and see what happens later, like you said things could change in the next 3-4 months! i agree with >>44 let her know you more and maybe she might want a relationship with you! you never know!! Wish you all the best Denki!! ^^
You may be in luck. Seems to me she's holding auditions for prospective boyfriends...and you're one of the candidates. It's time to show off those pecs, brutha'! Polish those washboard abs!
She revealed something very interesting today, which explains her lack of desire to commit. She said she was very naive when she was 16 and dated a 20 year old who took advantage of her. Then she got into some trouble with some guy at the college she'll be going to, conflicts and such. And she stopped dating a 3 year old friend of hers. So I guess that leaves just me, but I think she doesn't want to commit because of her troubles in the past. She says I'm more naive than her, instead of the other way around, so she thinks its cool. It doesn't help I'm the same age as the one who hurt her in the past, I think she fears that but she has observed many times I'm not like most guys, in a hopefully good way. Thanks for the advice and input everyone. -電気男
wow!! my advice now is dont rush things, she may need more time to commit because of her previouse troubles. maybe she will see you different from her previouse guys that she have met!~