Hello. I am an 18 years old guy who has had severe problems with acne for some years. Because of that, I have bad self confidence, and I don't have very good social skills, especially when it comes to "chit-chat". Because of my bad social skills, I tend to get into girls' friend-zones. I need help from you guys. How does one get social skills? It is not that I don't have anything to talk about, it is just that I find it difficult to talk in a "relaxed" manner, so I end up quiet a lot of times >_<. Please provide me with tips, links, anything that will help me...OTL.
Focus on anything but yourself. Do not think about yourself or what people are thinking about you, think and focus on them. You will find that you may relax and open more this way, not only that but you may feel happier.
I don't know much since I've been caught in the friend zone a few times but would dropping hints that you like her keep you out of the friendzone? I haven't tested this out yet. Anyone ever tested out my strategy? Also, try to make the girl laugh or giggle when you chit-chat. Almost all girls like guys with a sense of humor. Though joking around can get you trapped in the riend-zone...Ahh....I'm having trouble giving tips. Other guys wanna drop in and help?
Have a couple of drinks. They don't call alcohol a social lubricant for nothing.
Unfortunately, there is very little you can do at the outset to try to avoid the friendzone. Alot of it is your physical appearance and presence so when it shows that you lack confidence and social skills, women tend to feel sorry for you instead of wanting to hook up with you.
perhaps one of those toastmasters things?
As odd as it sounds, apparently try not to give women to much attention at first. Girls are crazy and don't have much interest in someone they can actually get and rather a person they might not get. They love a challenge. Go figure!
qft. I guess something that's important is just be natural, whatever that might be for you. No one wants what they can get too easily, but that doesn't mean being evasive either... or something like that, I'm not in a great position to be authoritative about it I suppose, haha, since I am at heart a goofball and that does land me right where you don't want to be most of the time. I just don't give a damn, I'd rather be being myself when someone ends up wanting to be closer, than trying to put on a show that would be a strain to keep up over time.
oO This section of the board is very empty......almost no threads in 2007 -.-
You're right, I hadn't noticed, maybe everyone stopped having love issues =P
Well Hikkies don't have any love-issues to beginn with.
They have only dreams/ imagination of love-issues.... :D xD^^
My impression is that girls like to be poked with "what could be" in a just kidding manner. There's a limit to what you joke with of course depending on how close you are with the person, but as you get to know each other options will expand. And somehow when they realize you're a stable presence in their lives that you can trust, and not in a bland/boring way at all .. then somehow they end up tilting actually toward accepting those things you joked about.
JUST BE YOURSELF
If you have a problem with acne try Clean and Clear, me and my gf use that and it works miracles. Also just try to find out what the girls like and don't like, and buy them gifts, girls love gifts. Tell them how beautiful they are and how their clothes accentuate their body, you know tell them what they want to hear.
I feel you man, there's this one girl i like that i cant do anything about. The dropping hints idea may work depending on the girl, I know this one person who it worked for, been dating his gf for almost a year (curse him), and it would probibly only work for friends of yours, not some girl who barely know's you.