I'm a 17 year old girl and I'm afraid to start dating because I honestly don't know what guys expect from girls.
What I'm asking is, what is it that guys like about girls, and why?
A girl on the internets? Okay, for now i'll just have to take your word for it...
What your peers are telling you about guys only wanting "that" is, well, mostly true. But once in a while you'd come across somebody who just wants your company. Maybe you have the same hobbies or think the same way about stuff. The trick is to look for those guys and be careful not to rush into things.
Pretty much sums it up. A good guy will like you for your company and thoughts rather then your body.
zomg, a girl on the intarweb, U 60 year old man wont fewl me!!!! if ur real, then, just be real with the guy...thats all. and, coming from a guy, well, i dont expect much from a girl, except for the fact for her to like me back, thats all. if i like her too, its fine, isnt that all that matters?
Oh please, if I were a 60 year old man posing as a 17 year old girl, I'd be on myspace, not 4-ch. XD
Guys like girls for the same reason that girls like guys.
Genetics, Hormones, Nature, Nurture, and a desire to perpetuate their genetic lineage.
I'm gonna give you teh same Internet Advice that I give everyone. Which doesn't actually say much, har dee har har.
The advice is: grow yourself a personality and/or cultivate a real character. Being just a heap of knee-jerk responses and a sense of self that you'd rather totally conceal is just as big a turn-off for men as it is for women.
humans are more than animals. god, i hate people like this.
Humans are a higher form of animal, but do not deny that we are indeed animals.
There is no shame in it.
> Pretty much sums it up. A good guy will like you for your company and thoughts as well as your body.
humans are more than animals. god, i hate people like this.
Humans are animals, just particularly unusual ones that often prefer things not beneficial to themselves or the perpetuation of the species.
Let it suffice to be said that any guy in highshool wants to use you for sex.
Any guy in college/university PROBABLY wants to use you for sex.
Any guy past that point may or may not want to use you for sex.
If he has a penis; he wants to put it in your pooper.
Yeah... it's true. But that's the way the world works.
It's not my fault I like boobies so much (´・ω・)つ(・(・
i'm a random 20-something loser guy and having a girl i could share tenderness with would be way more awesome than just having lots of sex. some see sex as most important but people have lots of strange ideas in general anyway
You're generalizing quite a bit. I think you should get that problem sorted out first, 1, before you try to figure out other matters.
You need to decide what you want out of a relationship and work from there. As for the guy's expectations, they damn well better jive with what you want, otherwise there's no point.
well i'm a guy and not that intrested with sex ~"~ dont know why everything a guy say has to do with sex.... well depends on the girl, if shes nice and easy to talk to then most guys like about that. i think mainly just find someone to talk to otherwise (typical) its cos of ur looks and they properly think ur good looking ect ect...
you should know by now that trick doesnt work...
>>1 Girls are ultimate robots for sex preaching and cleaning purposes.
Girls are NOT robots!
They're slaves, get it right......
I like girls because they're warm and they can smell intoxicatingly good, even if it's just shampoo.
What I want is someone I can talk to without worrying about what kind of impression I make while I have my head in her lap, and who's not too reserved about sex.
>>21 what trick?? well i cant really say much cos never had a relationship, but thats just what i think and i understand its pretty abnormal for a guy not intrested in sex ect, i'm just sick of seeing guys talk about sex sex sex.... cant talk about nothing else ~~"
>>1 think of guys as just a best friend expect a lil bit more
What do I look for in girls?
Well, I just want a companion. Someone to keep me company, that I wouldn't mind spending my whole life with. Sex comes later, IMO. Once companionship has reached it's peak.
Girl, start dating when you lose that fear and find it fun to date.
Let it suffice that being who you are will make the guy like you.
Be careful when you fall for a guy. Girls are usually blinded when they like a guy. At your age, you don't date cuz u want to fall in love. You date to find people you can trust, and eventually, love. Yes, highschoolers are difficult to trust, they're kids after all.
Bad generalization, now that i read it. Young people are just more unstable, not less trustable. It's difficult to trust anyone, if you don't know the person well.
In nature, the only purpose we have to get together is to reproduce. Naturally, this will probably be most guy's motive. If we wanted a companion, we would talk to our guy friends. If we wanted someone to talk to intimately, we might talk to our mother. A girlfriend or wife can eventually fill this void as we grow up. Truely, we can talk to them about things we could not talk about with our guy friends.
I want someone to leech my money, try my patience, and waste my time! I want someone to bitch at me if I do things correctly, incorrectly, not at all, or with my most effort. I want someone who is not in control of their emotions and has the potential to fly off the month at least once a month. On top of that, I want someone who has the legal right to 50% of my stuff if they should divorce me!
I look for a Valkyrie
all i'm looking for is a girl that will understand me and accept and like me for the person i am and i do the same back.
thats all a relationship is...
>>32-34 are sexist and overgeneralize. I suggest you posters start dating men or your mothers.
How about starting to see people as humans and individuals, rather than gender stereotypes?
>What I'm asking is, what is it that guys like about girls, and why?
If I had a girl friend, I'd wanter her to be someone I could play games with adamantly. I'd like to be able to shout at her BOOYAH when I beat her in a fighting game, and vice versa. Something along those lines would be enjoyable.
Reproduction is in our nature. It is only natural that we wish to reproduce. Not all guys want you for sex. You can tell by the way that a guy may act. If he makes jokes around you refering to sex then most likely he wants you for that.
As you can see, many males in this thread want different things of women. You must first identify your target and analyse to the best of your ability what they want, then find the parts of yourself that naturally fill those wants and go from there. Please do not try and mould yourself to fit someone else, male or female; it isn't just what they want, but what you want and what you are willing to give as well.
I think your problem is that you're asking what guys like about girls. When you ask that of course you get generally responses about anatomy. When it comes to a relationship, you're going to be looking at what you like about that particular person, and hopefully, that should be much more than their body.
I think that for a healthy and good relationship, you need to be on an eye-to-eye basis. Meaning you're both on the same level, and you can look each other in the eyes without having to hide anything. In fact, I wouldn't want the balance to be shifted either way. For this once I'll not try to be very wise, and just give you my personal opinion, but I believe you shouldn't settle for less. Honesty and integrity are also very important to me.
>Any guy in college/university PROBABLY wants to use you for sex.
Harhum! may I vehemently contest this ridiculous and simpleminded idea? please? Grant me some authority on this, I am a university student after all... No, its very much different, if not opposite (at least not where I come from).
There are guys who act like "chicks" and chicks who act like "guys," so there isn't anything you can say about all members of either sex except their reproductive attributes.
>In that case, just present yourself as a vulnerable, tasty piece of prey.
I've seen better advice yet!
I've found myself asking sometimes... Why the hell do girls like guys. I guess we are pretty much the same.
That is referred to as a false causation ... oh sorry, you asked me to speak English :(
hmmm. when it is about becoming better at english, I'll always want to know. Please enlighten me about what you mean with 'false causation.' are you talking about the subject matter or about a grammar/sentence structure/wrong word?
You are sayi that a rape victim is a prey, therefore a prey is a rape victim. That's like saying that a potato is a vegetable, therefore all vegetables are potatoes
Whatever you do, just don't come off as a slut to people, it's just what idiotic sex-driven teenagers think is "in".
>>55 I am saying that presenting oneself as prey may lead to becoming a rape victim. Which obviously is a small chance, but I hoped to show that presenting oneself as prey is stupid.
Repeat: playing pray is stupid. Don't do it.
whoops. that should be prey. sry
You can present yourself as "prey" and remain relatively safe if you have confidence in yourself. Women do it quite often, especially in places where that kind of thing is appreciated such as nightclubs, concerts, sports events, and downtown urban areas .
>>59 Sure you can, but you'd be in a short line to prove Darwinism to the rest of the world.
The great things about "society," "humanity" and "civilization" are how much they guard against Darwinism.
But.. What's the point in presenting yourself as "prey"?
Could someone define properly define "prey" in this context? Sexual prey? Status prey? What?
Isn't that only useful for one-night stands and such?
good point. do we need to define prey? The purpose of prey is to be eaten.
This thread is terrible.
This is what you need to know about dating:
The goal of dating is to find a sexual partner that you are comfortable with. There are men who play the dating game because they think they can pay for sex at a premium (discount for bulk purchases) and women who date only to get someone else to pay for dinner and a movie. You want to avoid people like that.
Replace "sexual partner" with "life partner" and I agree.
Sex isn't the only thing everyone wants from a relationship.
I'll have to agree with you. Not all men are the same having only a sole interest in sex from a partner. A relationship will only last if both parties have an interest in each others personalities.
It's not about who spends what on a date or expecting sex for dinner.
I agree with you... from a girls point of view...
A relationship is really about companionship, with bonuses ^.~
why do guys like girls...
luckily you don't ask why don't guys like guys (most of the time) lol
It's important to remember that if you present your self as the "prey" archetype for long periods of time around the same person you might find it difficult to step out of that role if you are taken advantage of. This among other reasons is why its very important to give an honest display of your personality as possible, otherwise it will begin to become a strain on your psyche.
if they can explain it, leave them.
you can't explain love--
I like girls who will take a shit on my face.
The goal of dating is to find someone who you can get along with well enough to stand living with them for the rest of your life since it's a lot harder socially, financially, and for men to have sex, than any other way of living.
Guys are looking for, at least I am, (other than sex) just the perfect girl. Don't ask me what that means, because it's different for every guy. But trust me. Somewhere, there is one for you. And when you find him, you'll both know.
keep writing... i myself am interested in hearing what else you have to say
Beauty (Art, lol) is in the eye of the beholder. When it comes to looks or aesthetics (Redundant?) it's really a matter of preference. A man may find a woman with acne all over her face attractive (I don't) ... Or it may just be lust and he needs to get a nut... That's not to say the same doesn't apply to men, a girl may find a three hundred pound man attractive. As 76 stated its also a number of other things that appeal to a person, but when it comes to beauty (And I repeat myself) it matters what that persons specific preference is when it comes to that.
lmao @ 78...
i agree with 75 and 76
>>76 As soon as he tells you "You are beautiful," which he should do if he is trying at all (if he isn't, look out), be prepared for some dicking because he's trying to get laid.
76. i can't speak for other guys, but i can say i'm looking for that ideal. i don't think i'll ever find it. and i'm ok with being single for life. that ideal to me - isn't just about looks - it has a lot to do with intelligence (academic at the phd level), common sense (most females lack this), and an ability to restrain emotion (stop crying bitch). most females are not very practical and too emotional and retarded... anyways..
I think women often have another type of 'common sense' than men. Which has its own intelligence.
Guys, don't think too much, you are spoiling the channel. and I agree with >>80 to a certain extent.
I believe there are three criteria for liking a girl: 1.intelligence, 2.looks, and 3.something the korean word "chakjae" conveys. Chakjae has many meanings, as when someone is genuinely nice, obedient, morally correct, reserved, not self indulging, usually virgin, etc,etc,etc. In English it's something like "nice girl".
When I and my friends get together, they're always talking about girls (i'm not really fond of talking about girls but that doesn't mean i'm not interested). If it's not about sex they're looking for, it's superficiality, mostly on the looks. But not all guys are like that, it depends on the individual. I'm not looking for anything in a girl but i'd really be grateful if a girl catches my attention, i'm still looking for an unknown attraction which I never found. I don't know if it grows or if it just pops up but i'm working on both. :D
girls who like it in the butt are the best
thats no where near fair ... i'm a loveing, caring individual that is very attractive though more modest then could ever imagine and the only thing i want in a girl is to love and be loved ... please dont lose site of whats so growingly becomeing a fad you losers... love will not die, it's only getting hiddin but recent judgemental standards
I like a girl that can whip my ass. Just somethin sexy about getting the shit knocked out of my.
Becoming Densha Onnako is the best advice yet. That would be freakin awesome.
>>81 harsh standards
What will you do with a woman like that?
Guys usually do enjoy randomness but common-sense is still compulsory.
hay guyz why do we drink water?
Not for the same reason why we fuck girls...
That's the most intelligent thing you've ever said.....even then that sounded somewhat stupid.
>>94 No, you fuck men dressed as women.
To me, thats not the same.
That was supposed to be our little secret.
Anyway, wear one of those little black dresses next time and shave your damn legs.