Hello fellow anon, I've posted here before. This girl I met a month ago is kind of getting on my nerves. Why? Damn friendzone, but then, not 100%....very confusing it is.
Before and after our first date, when we were talking, she kept dropping hint after hint that she wanted us to stick together, and I was all like "Yeah, sounds great" and was really happy. But this was in conflict with one of her original statements when we first met, that she wasn't really looking for a relationship. I kept that in the back of my mind, but she still kept hinting so I went with it. Then she drops the bomb that although we are dating, she can't give me a relationship. It took a lot of self control to not say "WHAT THE FUCK BITCH? You misled me greatly with our earlier conversations". But I'm a rational man and realized the error was mine, so I'm just kind of going with it.
I personally think if she doesnt want anything with you, and that you know she has a rocky relationship record and you know how she handles things, you should think twice about liking her from today and on. Girls tend to do that, and sometimes they dont notice they are giving off signals to guys. And guys are by instinct pick up these signals.
dman i cant imagine how that feels.... knowing the girl you like is dating 2 other guys...sometimes i just dont understand why people play with other peoles feelings. but 電気 i think you need more time! dont give up now cos she said she doesn't want a relationship. in time maybe she might change her mind so keep it up! ^^
'Damn friendzone, but then, not 100%....'
In other words, she's got you so wrapped around her finger that you don't even realize you're completely in the friendzone.
Hmmm.....Perhaps I can help you.
First of all, you are in the friendzone, but I have a simple fix.
And i thought I had it bad when I was 100% in the friendzone. I never realized that it could be so tough not being totally there. >>5's advice seems a bit...harsh..dont you think?
it means you must go with the flow, court her and have sex. then think about wanting her in a relationship later.
you gotta take a definite stance and be agressive.
as 4>> said, "Until you take this bull by the horns, you're just going to keep getting played like a fiddle."
another example of the fact that girls don't know wtf they want.
girls exactly know what they want, the problem is we dont have it.
This is where you all have it wrong or at least half wrong.
It is true, girls do not know what they want. It is your job to tell them what they want.
No you don't want new expensive clothes, you want to wash dishes and make me a sandwich while I sit on my ass and play video games and unwind after a hard day at the office/slave pit/battlefield/poker shack
I think she's a fucking lesbian; what's this 'dating but not in a relationship' bullshit? At the very least she's abnormally stuck up. Screw her.
Women are women for a reason.
They don't have what they want because they are afraid of getting what they want. They expect men to know what they want and give it to them. Yes, I agree that men have to tell her what she wants, but there are ways and ways of doing that. It's all about making her believe we are what they want by "selling" ourselves in a certain "package". If she wants danger, mystery and rough guys, we have it. If she wants romance, sentimentalism, and cuddling, we have it. If she wants sex, sex, and sex, we have it too.
Wouldn't it depend on the guy and what he was then and now? If he appreciates the change, then in his terms it would be "worth it". I don't expect it to be the same for every guy, and I think the attributes that they would have changed would be different depending on who the girl/guy is.
>Until you take this bull by the horns, you're just going to keep getting played like a fiddle.
I think the mixed metaphor train just sailed.
You need to fuck the shit out of her for a while then "she'll be yours"