I am male, 20, and very single.
So, assuming I can manage asking a girl out and getting a positive response (a big feat in itself), what do I do?
Exactly what makes a good first few dates other than eating or seeing a movie?
Thorough examples and results would be nice.
Going to the zoo? Museum? Playing a sport together? You could also suggest going on a picnic together in a nice area, and suggest that you both prepare food for it. That way both of you are contributing something instead of one or the other. Just suggest a nice, pretty place and make sure the weather is nice before you go. If it happens to rain or the weather isn't so great, then go with the backup plan of having it indoors with nice music and stuff instead.
Would you give us some advance about this girl?. Maybe, she and you likes at the same things. If you find it this things have in common, you can stay more close to her to ask her with more confidence.
Cinema, dinner, it's good, but maybe you don't know what is really she like it.
I think, if you can date with a girl, you would have to know about some things of she like. I'm a girl, and if one man ask me for a date, i prefer date with someone who knows me .
>>5 Yeah, but some dates are meant to get to know the person. Otherwise, what is the point? Of course, if he knew the person beforehand, that's a different story altogether. But if he's just asking someone out on a date, then I'd be freaked out if he already knew the things I liked or didn't like. That just screams stalker.
>>6 Movie, dinner, dance... those things are a excuse for know 'this person' and [[talk]], that's its the point. MSN, Skype, phone calls, letters, museums, beach... all stuf only can make one thing: talk to her/him and know it. If you wanna know it, you can choose anything. The question is, if you choose movie or dinner, dance, museum, beach, etc, What of those stuff like her?, maybe she/he don't like dance or movie, or else, and don't date with you.
Ask her what she likes to do, if she says "whatever you like to do" then go do what you like to do.
gotta love wikipedia
"In Western societies, a date is an occasion when one socializes with a potential lover or spouse. In this sense, the purpose of a date is for the people dating to get to know each other and decide whether they want to have a relationship. "
If a woman says "What ever you like to do" it's secret code for "Make a guess of what I like to do. This is a test."
Also stands for "I want to know what you like to do."
Has always been that way in my case, at least.
>>12 FAIL HARD!
Women, they don't ever know what they want. Don't get me started.
In my case it's always been the other way around, the guys who dated me couldn't make their mind up about what they wanted. Not about the relationship, nor other aspects of their lives. They just kept whining about shit instead of actually doing something about it. Which is why I got frustrated after a number of months and told them to either make up their mind or bug off. Guys who claim they're not clingy and then go insecure and clingy on your ass just because you're not suck. Fortunately enough I finally found a bloke who actually knew what he wanted two years ago, huzzah. That took long enough.
Sigh... why can't I find women like you in real life?
>>15 so you attract a nice crowd it seems.
Women will never find happiness. So to find happiness they complain about unequality etc. etc. typical feminatzi shit. When they get what they want, they are still not happy because even though all the laws are made for them and the whole media is pumping anti-male propaganda 24/7; they are still alone.
Errr I know a lot of women that found happiness, by themselves or with a spouse.
There is no ZOMG ONE TRUE HAPPINESS. I have found happiness in many fields, including a good S.O. However happiness is a relative quality. Happiness is when you feel that what you have is good in comparison to what you take for granted, what you feel that things should be like. One can be perfectly happy in most fields while still being unhappy about a few things - that doesn't mean the person is unhappy in general, that does however make the person human. Which is partially what helps make one want to improve. To become a better person, to achieve a better feeling about things one cares about. If I would be unhappy about e.g. my performance in a course I'd be attending, perhaps the first assignment didn't go too well, then I'd do something about it. There is no point in making oneself suffer without a good reason, except for perhaps mental masturbation for the warped ones.