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How to tell a guy is attracted to you? (65)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-05-04 22:53 ID:6ePgztGo

How do you tell a guy is attracted to you or just being nice and friendly? I'm a terribly shy girl, so I often blush and look away when a guy even looks at me... so any advice whatsoever would be much appreciated.

2 Name: Nirt : 2006-05-04 23:54 ID:3/gMSiuS

don't worry, you'll find that out soon enough if you give it a little time. You wanna know real bad? in that case you'll have to try and talk with guys more... or allow them more to talk to you! smiling and an open mind to contact will do the trick. Difficult though...especially in the beginning. so good luck.

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3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-05-05 00:45 ID:vs2QnIIb

so I often blush and look away when a guy even looks at me...

thats probably the cutest thing ive ever heard, thats so anime cliche, yet cute anyway.

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4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-05-05 05:32 ID:Heaven

Make sure you go to easy areas first, if you die then you lose XP and gil.

Seriously, though, most guys will ask you out or something if they're really interested. I do! Also look for guys that make an effort to see you or who talk to you only even though there's other people in the room, etc etc.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-05-05 06:47 ID:NDwg6Bs9

Guys who are interested in you are guys who are willing to go out of their way to make you happy and because making you smile is what gives them happiness. At least, that's how I think. I'm an 18 year old guy btw.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-05-05 07:22 ID:1UtVVVwx

How to tell a guy is attracted to you?
Look dowm there... you know ... is it hard?

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-05-05 07:27 ID:nWdre7AW

Sorry but just look at the mirror. It will tell you a lot. Truth hurts.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-05-05 13:52 ID:Ul8rD8N9


9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-05-05 17:15 ID:Heaven


a greater number of details is required for an analysis.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-05-05 18:40 ID:7x2eQdMG

>>7 Just because you can't live looking at yourself, doesn't mean everyone else is as ugly as you or whatever creature gave birth to you.

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-05-05 19:52 ID:9psioak8

If he covers his penis area with a folder or other item when he talks to you, he likes you!

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-05-05 22:34 ID:nRI2dw+Q

If a guy wants to talk to you, he likes you, at least a little bit. The important thing to learn to pick out is which ones like who you are and which ones want to get laid.

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-05-06 01:08 ID:M/v4ETow

Guys lets get back on a topic and give more helpful ideas?

As said before if a guy is interested in you signs are:
-He will go out of his way to see you or to talk to you

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14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-05-07 05:00 ID:Cu/dk4nX

>>7 is some extent, but an ugly girl who knows many men will have better luck than the beautiful girl who does not know any. The reason why the ugly girl would know many more men is because she would have to try harder to get their attention, while the pretty girl tends to expect men to just come to her. Men will not always do that because her beauty can be intimidating. So, maybe they will go for the ugly girl because she is easy and desperate.

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15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-05-08 04:15 ID:FC9CyYS7

If I guy likes you he'll make an effort to speak to you. Be aware of distant staring. Most guys will try to make you happy because they'll feel happy when you are.

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-05-15 03:33 ID:sWsceElY

If you've never spoken to the person then the only thing he can like you for is your looks. If you are interested in someone you should try to spark up a conversation to get to know each other better. I'm sure there are lots of guys that can like a girl for just her looks but I think the crowd here (and probably quite a few men in the real world too) need something more than that. Even if you're not hot you can easily charm someone with a great personality and personally I think a decent looking girl with a nice personality and cool interests is way better than a gorgeous airheaded girl

17 Name: Admirable Secret!3pI2s8EqCA : 2006-05-16 07:16 ID:pDpAFKaP

If he's stalking you and holding up a stereo outside of your bedroom window, he's probably attracted to you.

Either that, or he's your crazy uncle Bob. You've got to do something about that guy.

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-05-24 13:30 ID:tX+5w3ox

Learn to relate to guys on a friendly basis, and don't see them all as potential dates. We all hear about guys who have that mindset.

19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-08 14:31 ID:8U2lHcEO

I used to be like you too. Infact, I still blush easily when I'm being teased, but at least I don't feel awkward when talking to guys now. I think the best advice is to make guys aware of your presence instead of waiting for the signs. By this I don't mean undergo a complete makeover, but at least start talking to guys and finding some common points. I find that talking about things they're interested in catches their attention especially. Make sure you have your own opinion though, rather than laughing aimlessly at whatever they're saying, otherwise you'll make yourself out to be a bore.

20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-08 21:55 ID:Heaven

some guys can't really talk when they see a girl..
if they are willing to say something they are stuttering. or their voice is just changing from normal.(like getting really high)

uhm..they are looking at you.. like whenever your around and just gazing in your eyes. or fast turn away when you look back..

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21 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-09 14:15 ID:8U2lHcEO

ok wtf my post got deleted?!?!?

22 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-09 17:07 ID:Heaven

>>20 they probably have more info bout you, than you can think of :P (telephone, mobile, adress,a lot of pics bout you.. but you won'tfind out ;) )

hahaha, oh wow

23 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-09 17:10 ID:ZI/qiyyh

There is so much shit going on that there's no way to tell how people will react if they're interested in you. People are not predictable machines. Some dudes are so shy that they'd never even act interested in you even if they had a huge crush. Some are such the opposite that they'd seem to be flirting even if they wouldn't touch you with a ten foot pole.

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24 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-09 20:59 ID:Heaven

Fuck that. I'm going to keep it all in and die a lonely bitter old man.

25 Name: Nautica!r02sLb16Pc : 2006-08-10 00:17 ID:ym98mcMx

the truth

26 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-10 04:36 ID:O05JwPob


uhhhh what. i think we have a stalker in our midst!

27 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-10 06:18 ID:MBFwbH3q

yeah, sounding kinda stalkerish...

28 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-08-10 10:42 ID:s5EcqSGS

>Some dudes are so shy that they'd never even act interested in you even if they had a huge crush. Some are such the opposite that they'd seem to be flirting even if they wouldn't touch you with a ten foot pole.

Yeah... I, for one, have done both.

29 Name: Kiyani : 2007-11-15 04:16 ID:3vQ7ya7M

Your not a mind reader.. Dont try to tell if a guy likes you because everyone is diffrent sometimes they'l tell you sometimes they wont it's pretty extraneous but, go by your feelings most of the time you can tell if they like you, the guy your interested in, he will give you many hints. The look in there eyes, touch, smile. These are good signs but dont force youurself on him.

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30 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-15 04:44 ID:VZ7Qnwo2


Yeah that's pretty true. It really depends on the guy and his personality. Some guys are really obvious about their intentions (whether purposely or not), where as other guys are impossible to read. I personally like the hard to read guys, because you don't exactly know where you stand with them. In my experience, they are often more perceptive of your feelings. The easy to read ones on the other hand are quite often hopeless romantics who are bad at reading others.

31 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-15 05:34 ID:U/QrlLwB

Guys are pretty easy. Make a judgement on wether you're in the same league, appearance-wise. If you are and if you're interested, find out if he has a girlfriend. If he does not, get to know him. Once you know him, and unless he has a hueg fucking crush on someone else, it's already settled. Just make a little push and he's done for, in case he's too shy to make one himself.

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32 Name: ... : 2007-11-18 05:58 ID:5t+K74sb

If he looks over at you in class, tries to talk to you, heart rate increases when he wants to talk with you, tries to contact you through any way he can, presumes to be shy around you, he probably likes you.

33 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-19 08:26 ID:bn+U2CqO

>heart rate increases when he wants to talk with you

how can you tell?

34 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-19 17:01 ID:b/ZKymO9

veins on his face asplode

35 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-20 03:58 ID:tqDrOpVD

When mine are going off, they're audible.

That aside, I think the easiest way to find out if a guy likes you is to find an excuse to touch him. Find a way to "accidentally" touch his arm. If he doesn't move away, or if he moves away only as a reflex and then accepts it, then he likes you. If at the same time his pupils dilate to the size of marbles, then he likes you a lot.

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36 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-20 04:03 ID:muGPg4ib

Just walk up to them and feel their pulse on their neck. If they ask what you're doing, just say, "Checking to see if you're dead."

37 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-20 04:31 ID:VZ7Qnwo2

Pupils dilating? I didn't know that was noticeable...
I spose you could only tell with blue-eyed guys..

38 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-20 06:16 ID:iBfRgSBb

Pupils are psychology 101. They tell you a lot about whats going on in the mind.

39 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-20 11:42 ID:tqDrOpVD

Well to be fair, yeah, you can't see the pupils if their eyes are black or dark brown. Which rules out this strategy for myself as those happen to be the eye colours I find hot.

40 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-20 19:12 ID:2YO+DIPa

this is relevant to my interest. explain please.

41 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-20 21:20 ID:b/ZKymO9


I think in terms of attraction, if you see somebody you like/love your pupils get bigger. They also do this in the dark, which is partly why places like bars are darker, so people's eyes get bigger and they are in the mood for meeting romantic partners (and buy drinks)

42 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-20 22:59 ID:crA5bxZ6

hello i am yamada i am densha !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

43 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-20 23:25 ID:8ymwmHpV

that doesn't make a lot of sense.

44 Name: ... : 2007-11-21 07:09 ID:5t+K74sb

>>35 larger and faster chest movements when they breathe.

45 Name: ... : 2007-11-21 07:11 ID:5t+K74sb

meant >>33

46 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-21 19:42 ID:b/ZKymO9

Well it's like the feeling is associated with your eyes getting bigger. It's like if you smile, you can make yourself feel happier just because its a motion associated unconsciously with being happy.

47 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-21 20:12 ID:JCHWSlT9

got it. makes some sense now.

48 Name: SCG : 2007-11-28 09:58 ID:Ll5+xC1W

the best ways to tell someone is attracted:-
Raises there chin so you can see more of there throat
Eyes dialate.
Stares at you(Including mutual staring).

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49 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-28 19:32 ID:b/ZKymO9

Also one thing about lips is that if they look at your lips and have their mouth slightly open (when not talking) it's indicative that they would like to/are thinking about kissing you.

50 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-28 22:48 ID:clOFA2Ka


Eyes dilate? That's absolutely stupid. Your pupils dilate or contract in response to light, some drugs, and nothing else. Emotion has nothing at all to do with it.

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51 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-29 19:17 ID:LYTAohKo


> Your pupils dilate or contract in response to light, some drugs, and nothing else. Emotion has nothing at all to do with it.
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52 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-30 10:28 ID:VZ7Qnwo2


Emotion has a lot to do with it. When you're excited (ie: object of your affection is infront of you), your sympathetic nervous system (which deals with stressful situations) takes over. As a result, one of the automatic reactions would be the dilation of the pupils. On the other hand, when you're bored, laidback or relaxed, the parasympathetic nervous system takes over, and pupils will contract.

53 Name: person : 2008-02-18 17:03 ID:wSgGDS4c

Actually, it can be based upon emotion. When you look at someone you love your pupils will dialate. And when you look at someone you hate, they will dialate also. Someone also said you won't be able to tell with brown or black eyes, well, you can if you look hard. You just have to look harder than normal.

54 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-18 17:11 ID:9rhiX8Zx

I guess you never heard about how hormones are natural drugs. Calling something absolutely stupid and saying even more stupid things is... well... nevermind.

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55 Name: da PG king : 2008-02-18 17:48 ID:zNIloUP1

When I like a girl...

... I tend to act like a dumbass...

56 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-19 00:43 ID:Heaven


...that's because you are a dumbass...

57 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-19 11:53 ID:Heaven

He is, but usually he acts like a nigger.

58 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-23 12:50 ID:8H5hwTT5

>>55 How do you deal with the nervousness when you're around someone you are attracted to? I can't stand it.

59 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-07-28 19:23 ID:6ZRtn5B3

UR UGLY JUS ACCEPT IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

60 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-07-30 04:56 ID:6OviQivs

>>59 lmao.. THAT IS NOT TRUE!!!

61 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-07-31 18:14 ID:Nb7PnilH

More boobz plz.

62 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-08-03 11:09 ID:rPHSN4Kd

maybe but i think the girl is making the boy feel comftable, not happy

when i like a girl, i make her happy, when i dont like a girl i just make her laugh. no differences?

63 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-08-03 11:12 ID:DwS76540

most important if you caught a guy staring at you, BINGO!

64 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-08-04 04:46 ID:zzITJO1w

is he interested if he comes to my place and we kiss.. or is he just another lurker?

65 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-08-04 19:51 ID:Heaven


I have no idea whether the boy contributes to any forums, anonymously or not, or if he just reads threads as you imply...
But kissing is generally a good 'tell' that a person digs you.