>>"They want to be taken, not begged over."
This ties very neatly into the whole tired "women fall for jerks" argument. Women don't fall for jerks. Women just find high self-esteem attractive. Surely a guy who is more confident in his abilities is more fun to be around than some whining kid?
But yeah, >>14 has a nice point. Complimenting your lady is very effective. Some don't do it because they are afraid of putting themselves on the line. "What if she takes me the wrong way?", they ask. Well, you are trying to land her, aren't you? So what's wrong with letting her know you are interested? If she gets put off by your compliments, you have no chance in hell anyway.
The whole concept of "working up the courage to confess" is wrong on so many levels it isn't even funny. If you just hang around her and never get your flirt on she will lose interest even if she was interested you first. If on the other hand you keep dropping small hints by flirting stroking her hair and what not you will never have to come forward with your feelings. She'll know.