>>27 as far as I can tell, he already is talking to her on an emotional level, and perhaps already gets fed up with that. Your remedy is for those kind of relations that only don't fall apart because of the memories of better times.
For all I know, women won't have sex for knowing that their partner is a soft landing place. They want to experience strength, know that with your support, she's standing on rock. Or sitting down on one, for that matter ;)