I'd like the hive to weigh in on the following issue.
I've been with my current girlfriend for more than four years, and we've lived together for more than two years. The problem I'm facing is the lack of sex.
>>27 as far as I can tell, he already is talking to her on an emotional level, and perhaps already gets fed up with that. Your remedy is for those kind of relations that only don't fall apart because of the memories of better times.
When you provide a soft place to land she feels more in control. If she really wants to be with you, she'll want more of you. If she backs down then she probably didn't want you to begin with.
Of course, >>29, but how soft do you like the matress on which you sleep? if its too soft, you'll get a back-ache. Know what I'm saying? Women want to know they can connect to their partner on an emotional plane, but they don't want him to be preoccupied with his emotions. Not too emo.
You shouldn't have moved in together.
maybe. but how does that help him? He said it was normal around his place. But I also feel that it might not have been the greatest move
IMHO: The problem could be contraceptives! The P-pill simply kills the sexdrive. The same thing goes for the spiral too. Its to do with the all the hormones which upsets the balance of things in your partners body.
There is another thing too. Women are somehow programmed to want children. They may not be aware of it themselves, but its there. Sex without a chance of pregnancy may seem like a waste, but thats psychology and I'm not into that. Just a thought.
So what do you propose? loose the pill and switch to condoms? Shouldn't be all too hard to convince her since they rarely have sex anyways.
But what if her sex drive never ended, but another guy is benefiting from it? Don't think someone asked that yet.
> But what if her sex drive never ended, but another guy is
> benefiting from it? Don't think someone asked that yet.
Well, if the basic trust in gone, then what's left in a relationship? Can you trust your partner? Has he/she ever told a lie or how does he/she relate to lies in other circomstances?