Here is the story. I like this girl (lets call her jackie) along time ago (elementary school) alot but I was known as a cry baby because I always cried so I think she might have a bad impression of me. Anyways after a couple years a friend brought up her name and I thought I probably wound't even like her anymore. Then this year in high school I was doing some work and a girl came over to me and said "hey, it's jackie from elementary school". For a couple seconds i didn't know who she was because she is now using a shorted version of her name. So I was totally shoked and my heart was beating like crazy, and i realized I did like her like i used to. So being shy like i am around girls I like I said "oh, hey". I didn't think I did too well there she just smiled and went to meet her friends. I saw her a couple of other times and said "hey" but nothing else much. All this happened about 3 months ago so it might be too late. I haven't had any classes with her and don't really have a way of talking to her without just going up to her out of the blue. So i was wondering what should I do I really like her and want to be atleast friends any sugjestions keeping in mind i'm preatty shy around her?
...Grow up, say something to her, and stop acting like a pussy?
The best chance you have is probably to just suck it up and go up to her out of the blue. Just keep asking her questions to catch up with everything so you can get a better idea of how you should act towards her. I know you're probably self-conscious and afraid you're going to come off as a loser or something, but you can't wait around forever.
hmm i know your right and i'll try to do that soon. thx for the help.
Go go go!
Be romantic, but not too stalkerish.
Be honest, and face your feelings. Tell her you get shy when she's around but you'd like to talk more/catch up with her. (is "catch up" correct? as in getting updated)
If you have no experience in being romantic, I suggest you don't try that at all. An honest straightforward man is more attractive than a badly acted wannabe romantic.
Thanks I will try that when I see her. And yes it is catch up.
don't be her friend. beware the friendzone. just go for it. ask her out on a date
Guys that are scared of "friendzone" are wimps. A man never becomes anyone's "friendzone". It just takes more time with some women than others to "break them in".
Mireille, your post really made me stop and think...
...about how little thought you always seem to put into your posts.
ah... i think u better ask her out and things first...
i mean u hvnt seen her for like... how many years?
then u would get a chance to develop a relationship...
further into the friendzone is brother zone. or stalker zone. it's like changing into your second class. you start with one job and then from there, depending on what job you have, you can either be one job or the other
Today I was gona try and talk to her but she was sitting at a table at lunch with another girl and a guy_|￣|O. I know the guy as an aquatence but not too well. I'm pretty sure there not going out but there is the chance that they are. I decided not totalk to her then. I will wait until a good chance comes and she is alone. hopefully soon.
let it rest for a while. pursuing her would be against her will, and doing so would tell her that you don't care about her wishes. Unless you truly know that she wishes for you. But if that is true, she will come back.
K-Man, how old are you? Can't you be casual and join in their conversation? Is there a big difference between your and her or her friends' ages? Can't you introduce yourself casually? You know, join in the conversation and bond a little with the girl you're seeing? A little prudence and caution in your approach is fine, but to avoid them completely tells me you're a little too childish or way too shy.
I'm only 15 right now. I guess i must be shy and also i don't know them too well so i wouldn't know where to start to talk and what happens if they like tell me to go away
Jumping into somebody else's convo is kinda rude, and they will both be able to tell that you're just trying to hit on her. Besides, don't hate on that other guy's game.
Maybe it's just me, but I insist that the female actually like me back.
Just ask her if you two could catch-up. CATCH-UP! Juuuust the 2 of you
then when you're catchin-up, ask her out. I know it sounds easy but its actually really hard, but just don't let the "catch-up" stay like that. Otherwise its friendzone, and for a shy guy like you, friendzone = death. :D
You never see her alone? Really, wait until she's alone, and just talk to her.
K it's been a while so here is what has happened. I talked to a friend and he helped me by talking to his friend which knew her. It turned out the guy was my friend so he gave me her msn. And now I have had 2 conversations with her on msn and have said hi in the hall way a couple times
press on K-man!
sounds great...reminds me Densha Otoko LOL