My name is Joseph and I'm a college student living in Florida. Recently my girlfriend of 4 months hasn't been herself. Recently her sister has moved to Japan, her hometown hit by Hurricane Wilma and her mother broke her hip. She had mentioned after we met that she had suffered episodes of depression in 6th 8th and 10th grades and warned me but I didn’t care I loved her and that’s all that mattered to me. This last Tuesday she came to me and said she was breaking up with me which came as a shock but I persuaded her to still be friends with me and it was hard just to end it especially since we weren’t having any real problems. Wednesday night she wasn’t feeling well so I took her to the student health center Thursday morning they diagnosed her with depression and put her on medication. She didn’t tell me what they gave her until I took her to get it filled and then she burst into tears and told me that and she was afraid I would hate her. I told her I didn’t and that we can work through anything together. I left her Thursday night back at her room and she was going to speak with her parents but she seemed a bit happier. I met her today for lunch and she was almost like whining and couldn’t stop crying. After walking with her for an hour trying to get her to clam down and find out what was wrong I took her to the Counseling center and scheduled an emergency appointment with her psychiatrist because she was shaking and I was scared and didn’t know what to do. I waited and they called me in and the psychiatrist said my girlfriend had something to tell me and then she told me that seeing me made her sad and when ever I tried to make her laugh she would just cry. The Psychiatrist told me that it would be best for her if I had no contact with her and left her alone. And that is where I am a great relationship down to this in a week. I’m not sure what to think. Is it me? Is the psychiatrist nuts? My girlfriend didn’t seem happy to tell me what she did. I just said well if that’s what needs to be done then I love her enough to do that I kissed her on the forehead and left. That’s where I am now and I’m trying to learn all I can about depression. Sprry if I rambled.
Sorry to hear this my friend. Not much I can give by way of advice but to hope that it works in the end.
Listen to the doctor, if you love her you would do what is best for her.
The doctor wants her for himself. Kill the doctor and unfoil his plan to destroy the world with the doomsday machine he's built in his basement
No, no, no, no no.
I have to say this: her psychiatrist is a fucking MORON. He is more likely than not a therapist or a psychologist than a Ph.D, because the advice he is giving is a quick-fix that does not truly solve her problem. I imagine that, having perscribed medicine for her, he DOES have a medical degree, but his methods are shoddy at best.
<<1 I don't have any advice but I hope things work out.
I really don't know but what I would do it act in the way in which you think is best for her and will make her the happiest.
Oh my god Drama on love and romance.
First of all you are an asshole for letting her go to a quack and take those happy pills. Take her out for some song, some dance, and maybe some Batman's head on a lance.
Maybe you should get her to try another psychologist, to get a second opinion?
I hope it all works out for you, man.
Ok, if she really said that, leave it alone. Write her encouraging letters every now and then if possible. Breaking all contact with someone you've known for a long time is also traumatic.
Both >>6 and >>9 have a clear point: you have to be stronger and confront her. Don't be afraid of losing your relationship. That's the least you will lose if things go well. The worst is that she can commit suicide. (Depression for a long time does that.) Face the facts: right now she's not your girlfriend. She can't think.
By "critical thinking" I meant, do not rationalize the problem and do not compare with problems other people are having. People may be dying around the world, but she doensn't really needs to hear that right now. I also missed a little thing I may need to clear up: everything that's going on WITH HER.
what if you are inavertinly causing stress for her? maybe that's why the psychiatrist wants her to be by herself for a while.
That's why in the first line of >>11 i said:
>Ok, if she really said that, leave it alone. Write her encouraging letters every now and then if possible. Breaking all contact with someone you've known for a long time is also traumatic.
just listen to the doctor who has 8 years of schooling. it wouldn't hurt to get a second opinion, but for the love of god do not listen to this thread.
> I took her to get it filled and then she burst into tears and told me that and she was afraid I would hate her.
> she told me that seeing me made her sad and when ever I tried to make her laugh she would just cry.
You are an asshole for letting her go see a bigger asshole who will get her labeled a loony and medicated.
She is an asshole for not being able to govern her soul.
She's screwed up in the head right now. You may think you have something special but she can probably very well act sweet and charming to someone else.
This is not your time to be together.