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teh mixed signals (30)


1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-05-24 07:31 ID:TYHT5HNB

Hey, here is the deal. I'm an 18 year old guy who lives in a dorm. There is this girl down the hall that I have a crush on. Now I am getting mixed signals from her whether or not she likes me as a friend or even as someone for a relationship. There are times where we are together (either coming back from class or going to the recreation hall), but then there would be moments of inactivity between us (at least for weeks). I am confused, and I would like to have something to happen between us, but I am doubtful if she thinks the same. I still wouldn’t mind strengthening our friendship because I like it when I’m around her. The school year is almost over, and I might risk never seeing her again. I don’t know what to do…

2 Name: holdincourt : 2006-05-24 07:49 ID:Klyppioj

In the words of NIKE: "JUST.DO.IT."

Honestly, no other way around it...she doesn't sound like she has a boyfriend but your definition of "together" doesn't seem like any good indication of actual "chemistry" between the two of you...and the "inactivity" in her is probably due to studies and such? Like you said, you are in school...

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3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-05-24 07:51 ID:cjbH9xrM

Now it may just be the alcohol talking, but in my opinion "nothing ventured, nothing gained." All the better if you can avoid her afterwards like all my failures.

I'm being helpful!

4 Name: holdincourt : 2006-05-24 07:55 ID:Klyppioj

Well, he's avoiding something now...if he avoids NOW, then he'll continue to avoid till he picks himself up, kicks his own ass and gets into MAN gear!

GO GO!

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-05-24 08:10 ID:Heaven

ask her?

6 Name: 5 : 2006-05-24 08:27 ID:Heaven

... "ask her" being in response to:

> Now I am getting mixed signals from her whether or not she likes me as a friend or even as someone for a relationship.

7 Name: holdincourt : 2006-05-24 09:21 ID:Klyppioj

GO GO GO, just GOOOOO!!

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-05-24 12:06 ID:28T9Mqng

If you can't tell what she's thinking then you need to stay friends and learn how to relate better to females.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-05-25 03:02 ID:TYHT5HNB

Yea, heres an update:

Lol, right after i read these comments, I went to ask her if she wanted to go to the rec hall :S. She sed she had to go to a bible study later, but would knock on my door when she comes back if she still wants to go (not a total denial, but thers still hope o_0). hopefully she will come by cause im done with midterms and nothing to do other than respond to my own thread. heh, feels like a great weight has been pulled off my chest, yea i just needed some support from ppl that i dont kno. oh the wonders of the internet...

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-05-25 03:09 ID:TYHT5HNB

oh btw

> learn how to relate better to females
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11 Name: holdincourt : 2006-05-25 03:50 ID:Klyppioj

well, good on ya...let us know how it goes!!

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-05-25 05:42 ID:TYHT5HNB

More (depressing) update:

meh, either she's tired from whatever she's doing, or she just flat out rejected me -_-. Oh well, now the question is, should i ask again a couple days or should i end it now and avoid being termed a stalker?

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-05-25 12:32 ID:BueTubLy

Like I said in another thread, try to make friends, not lovers.

14 Name: holdincourt : 2006-05-25 12:33 ID:Klyppioj

What was said exactly?

15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-05-29 15:08 ID:grYl15t1

>>10
That's why you learn. Nobody is born knowing these things.

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-05-29 17:46 ID:++NkVotc

True, that, if you want a specific response, we'll need to know the details.

17 Name: holdincourt : 2006-05-31 11:32 ID:w2+TpNo6

>>16 agreed

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-06-01 19:26 ID:B76SAfam

ask again. maybe she WAS just tired.

19 Name: Mireille guy : 2006-06-02 15:39 ID:y4U1jH7g

Ok, it seems I haven't been in this board long enough. When will you people learn that you don't "relate" to girls? The average guy cannot do that. (And the average girl does not want you to.) You "get" the girl; the girl wants you to get her. With girls, you try to make lovers, not friends. Make friends if you only want her as a friend.

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20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-06-03 06:25 ID:fZuRhRCr

>>19
Being a jerk is just a mask for feeling inadequate. Going from a shy g to a jerk doesn't change who you are, it just attracts other people who are wearing masks. In order to be real you have to understand who you're dealing with on a real basis

21 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-06-22 16:39 ID:qfJ4dfEz

Try dribbling feremones down the hall from her door to yours.
Alternatively keep an eye on events on campus and the next time you are talking to her just throw in the suggestion that you both should attend one such of the afforementioned events.
Make sure events don't include subtitled films, anime, porn or basketweaving unless she has a particular interest.

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22 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-06-22 16:48 ID:/jmKBwFK

>a bible study

RUN AWAY!

23 Name: Desperate otoko (no ko) : 2006-06-25 00:22 ID:OYSn0E4D

No need to run away I think. Not everyone who goes to bible study is a little on the nuts side.

24 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-06-25 00:32 ID:o2kbYZxK

Only in the south

25 Name: Desperate otoko (no ko) : 2006-06-25 02:39 ID:w5VtKJTu

lol In US? my locale the pplz I know who goes to bible study (called a cell group here) aint nuts

26 Name: Desperate otoko (no ko) : 2006-06-25 02:39 ID:w5VtKJTu

lol In US? my locale the pplz I know who goes to bible study (called a cell group here) aint nuts

27 Name: Desperate otoko (no ko) : 2006-06-25 02:45 ID:w5VtKJTu

oops sorry to double send

28 Name: Desperate otoko (no ko) : 2006-06-29 08:31 ID:O5iZn+Ky

I posted in another thread here about this girl at work that I'm trying to ask out. Today after work, I walked her home (she lives near where we work) as before. I said 'cyalater" and I turned around after walking off for a bit and there was this guy walking next to her and talking. The guy looked at me with the look like he's accusing me of trying to get his girl.

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29 Name: Desperate otoko (no ko) : 2006-06-29 12:52 ID:Heaven

reverse jisaku jien GET

30 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-08-25 14:41 ID:LuMUD9mD

oh, yoU DumAss. Go talk to her. Tell her you are Horny for her body & need to pop in her, now! She'll either DO-You(if she's human) or she'll slap-you(if she's a West-Coast Lesbian).

You'll probably get slapped, because she could've approched you if she was interested in doing stuff. But since you're a gut-less wuss, she didn't sense any adventure(in bed) with you and found someBody else to do the deed. Your Loss, dude. You could've been talking her into it; instead of asking STRANGERS in this thread for advise(and lies).