I am a guy with not much of experience with romance, and I need help.
I have known this girl for about 6 months now, and we got close and "hung out" as time passed on. We make jokes a lot and I feel really comfortable when I am around her. I only thought her as a friend but someday my feelings towards her began to develope. Everytime I "hang out" with her I keep finding very good qualities that she possesses. She perfectly matches the descriptions of the girl I was dreaming to meet. We have had a few "events" (like the ones in Japanese dating simulation games) and I got attracted to her more and more. I never want to let go of her.
maybe it's time to just clear the air and if she doesn't feel the same way, perhaps it's time to move on?
Okay...I feel kind of sympathetic toward your plight so I'm going to help you.
First of all, life is not a Hentai Dating Sim. It just isn't. Keep this in mind. Second, do you KNOW she is in a relationship or is this something she just SAID. Some girls throw out the boyfriend angle as a way of putting up a comfort barrier. That way they won't be subjected to horniness, neediness, or come ons. This is normal and natural given today's political climate. And your fears of being used as a "toy" or more appropriately an "Emotional Tampon" are WELL warranted.
If I tried really, really hard... it MIGHT be possible for me to agree with this guy more.
Honestly, they're smack on the money. No matter how perfect a girl might seem (or, alternatively, might BE), there is ALWAYS somebody else if you screw this one up.
#1 if she really has a boyfriend and she's going out with you, I'd question her loyalty
#2 if she's lying to feel safe, then she's probably not ready for a relationship